Just a curious question...since I never 'graduated" past MS, I have wondered if it matters how long someone has been DF'ed as to how quickly reinstatement happens? Does a 10 year DF take longer to reinstate than a 1 month DF? Any comment from our ex-elders if this was ever a factor?
How long does reinstatement take?!? Question for a elder or someone thats been in this situation
by N-kiki 64 Replies latest jw friends
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tenyearsafter
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dismayed
Its pretty dependent on the DF'd meeting attendance record over the past year or so. They really isn't much more to go off than that. A 1 month DF is just too soon, six months minimum. Usually more toward a year of regular attendance and the elders magically believe you are repentant.
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SnakesInTheTower
quirky1:
How come I can't read N-kiki's posts?
I think N-kiki (or a mod) wisely realized the error of posting details on the open part of the forum and deleted it. I just checked....Fortunately, the poster deleted it before google bots could cache it.. this thread appears but not his/her post.
We hope n-kiki stays around... and asks questions... even if by PM (private message)...and posts on the private section...google does not capture those
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mamochan13
Reinstatement is completely random and at the whim of the elders involved. They decide when you are repentant enough and they define what constitutes repentance. The nature of the crime is also a factor - how widely known it is and whether "wordly" people know about it.
In my case they told me that the rule book (can't remember the name of it anymore?) said it "must be a year". I looked it up and it does not say that.
There are things you do that will influence the process, too. You must follow everything they tell you, attend all meetings, etc. If you balk at any rule it counts against you and adds to the time. You also have to request reinstatement in writing. In my case I requested at the beginning of every month. This made them angry and they told me later that I was not respecting the FDS/the process by asking too often and not simply waiting for a year to pass. So they punished me by making me wait even longer than a year. They also tried to dictate how I should raise my children as a criteria for reinstatement.
So basically I would say just keep your head down, don't argue with them, do everything they tell you to do, and ask them how long you have to wait before applying for reinstatement.