Well what can you do other than let your friends know that they are goddamn idiots who should have never had children?
Too late for that. Between the two of them they have five kids, just had the last one (a girl) two months ago.
A daugther's purity
by mrsjones5 46 Replies latest jw friends
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mrsjones5
I just shared this article on my Facebook newsfeed:
Purity Balls: Disempowering Young Women with Help from their Dads
by Roxann MtJoy January 07, 2010 11:59 AM (PT) Topics: Sex, Sex Education
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Purity Balls -- formal parties where adolescent daughters pledge to their fathers to remain virgins until marriage -- have been gaining popularity in the United States, with an estimated 4,000 such events held in recent years. At these balls, there's a formal ceremony, vows are given, and often rings are exchanged. Fathers then agree to keep their daughter's virginity nice and safe and locked up until she gets married, at which points he presents it to her new husband.Notice, if you will, that these daughters never control their own virginity, their own sexuality. Apparently, that is too big a burden for their delicate, vulnerable female selves. Best to let ownership pass from man to man and never trouble her pretty little head (or vagina) over it. Yeah, right.
Why are we teaching our young girls that they aren't in sole possession of their sexuality and sexual choices? Chastity is a valid choice, but it is a choice that each woman needs to own for herself. Why does virginity have to equal dependence on men? I can't even begin to imagine asking my father to own my sexual choices for me at some creepy faux-wedding ceremony.
Furthermore, the families of these girls seem determined to shelter them from the world, believing abstinence-only education and a lack of exposure to the world will turn them into perfect little princesses on a pedestal. I have to ask, why is ignorance such a vital part of their life plan for these girls? Why do these people think education is so dangerous? In my life, I've often thought to myself "If only I had known better." But "If only I'd known less" has never crossed my mind.
I hate to break to those fathers at the Purity Balls, but according to by the nonpartisan National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, abstinence-only efforts appear to have little positive impact, while more comprehensive sex education programs lead to teenagers "delaying the initiation of sex, reducing the frequency of sex, reducing the number of sexual partners and increasing condom or contraceptive use." Oh, and virginity pledges don't work, either.
Gee, who would have thought? Education doesn't cause promiscuity! Ignorance doesn't lead to bliss! Wow!
I hope some day someone tells these girls that being a virgin is a great choice, but one that they should make for themselves, one that they need to take personal responsibility for. I hope someone tells them that their sexuality belongs to them and no man, married or not. I hope those fathers spend less time sheltering their daughters and more time empowering them. I hope all those girls get the chance to make a guilt-free, informed decision about their sexuality.
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White Dove
What about balls for the sons? ROFLMAO!
It's not fair only girls get them.
Seriously, though, that chastity ball idea is about a father's ownership of his daughter.
A son departs, but a daughter must be owned by someone.
When she marries, he gives her to another owner.
That's where giving away the bride came from.
Think again when you plan your weddings.
Ooops! We posted at the same time. Great minds, you know.
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notverylikely
nvl, i think you missed plan B underneath that
No, I didn't miss it. It just disturbing that threats of violence and treating girls as incapable is Plan A.
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nelly136
lolol wouldnt panic too much, my kids are very familiar with my sense of humour and we dont stand on ceremony talking about nitty grittys,
and none of their boyfriends past or present have had furry earings .....yet
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darth frosty
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/social/family/140161/1/Letter-for-my-daughter-as-she-leaves
The best answer to this situation is by a poster on here named Confession. He wrote a letter to his daughter entering college and while obviously there is an age difference there, the thought and words in that letter really express how a parent should HELP their young girls on the transition to womanhood.
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jamiebowers
I read about this a few years ago, and it still creeps me out! Bill Mahr said on his show once that the kids who take these purity pledges have a high frequency of VD of the mouth.
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Nathan Natas
I thought purity vows were just another way of telling the guys that you really, REALLY like oral.
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notverylikely
I thought purity vows were just another way of telling the guys that you really, REALLY like oral.
That's I only date chicks that smoke.
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loosie
Wow that is creepy Mrs Jones.
Its like their daughter have a higher resale value because of being "pure",,, like a car.
Purity Balls -- formal parties where adolescent daughters pledge to their fathers to remain virgins until marriage -- have been gaining popularity in the United States, with an estimated