Lady Lee- who are you, and what's YOUR story?

by theMadJW 422 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  Lady Lee

  Up to this point there are 240 posts on this thread.

  More importantly there are 2881 views.

  I want to thank those of you who have been reading along.

  I'm sure by now you all have a really good idea of who I am. And what I stand for.

  I hope that some of you have learned that the WTS isn't getting better at dealing with the issue of sexual abuse within the congregations. They are still silencing the victims and protecting the perpetrators of this crime against defenseless children. Mad is a perfect example of the JW mindset when it comes to this issue.

  There are new reports all the time of more "brothers" abusing children and the elders protecting them. But for every report that actually makes its way to this website I can guarantee there are 10 more that are hidden.

  If you are still going to meetings with your children, please keep a very close eye on them. Watch who takes a little too much interest in children. Men aren't the only sexual abusers. Be cautious. While we don't want to scare our children they need to be aware. They need to know if they come to you that you will believe and help them.

  I sat down with my husband (at the time) and we talked to our daughters about anyone touching them in a way that was inappropriate or asking them to touch them or look at them naked or partially exposed. Showing them sex movies or magazine (porn) or even getting two kids to act out sexual scenes or taking pictures of them partially clothed -- these are all forms of sexual abuse.

  Our children need to know it can be Uncle Bill or cousin Martha or "Brother" PurpleTie or the man down the street or in the park.

  JWs are not perfect. There are many people with serious problems and some of them commit crimes against children. If your children don't want to kiss Uncle Bill when he comes to visit don't force them. Teach them they have a right to decide who they will be close to. Maybe Uncle Bill only has bad breath but your children need to know they have a right to say NO about what happens to their bodies. Maybe they would feel better with a handshake. But let them decide who has access to them. That is a good lesson for them in case they ever do meet a sexual abuser.
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  Lady Lee

  Also make sure they know that even though tey have been taught all these things that if someone does do something to them it isn't their fault. The adult or older person is always the responsible one.
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  truthseekeriam

  Thank you Lady Lee. This needs to be heard over and over until every JW knows what I and many others didn't. That the ones you think the most highly of, could actually be the ones to tear you life apart by taking advantage of your trust!

  It's never the single brother sitting in the back by himself calling over young kids to sit on his lap. Instead it could be that family man brother who greats you at the door of the KH with a bear hug and a welcoming smile. The one who comments beautifully as his family looks at him with such pride. I would have never guessed my child would be molested by a man that loved his family so much(outwardly) someone who had a daughter the same age as out 9 year old little girl..never.
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  Heaven

  I have to concur with JWoods about this MadJW person.

  Lady Lee... thank you for all you have done. You help so many because you have the courage and strength to speak out.

  When my Father was relating to me the pedophile incident that occurred in his old congregation, my response to him after he was done was said very quietly:

  "Dad, this cannot be God's Organization if there are pedophiles in it."

  He put his head down. I couldn't tell if he was trying not to cry or if it was in shame or both. But this issue bothers him to this day as it does me and just one more reason I could never be a JW.

  Many JWs don't realize the extent that this goes on because of the information control. When it does become known, the affect is even more devestating because the organization lies to its people about it, tries to cover it up, and generally doesn't take action to make the situation better ( for one, they need to start doing background checks on everyone joining). This type of behaviour destroys trust.

  People like Lady Lee, truthseekeriam, and Vicki Boer have real courage to stand up and be heard. This needs to be done. Covering it up just makes it worse because it plays right into the modus operandi of the pedophile. They thrive on secrecy.

  The best way to make a problem worse is to do nothing about it. This is what the Watchtower does. And it disgusts me.
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  JWoods

  I have to concur with JWoods about this MadJW person.

  Thank you. It did not make me happy to say it - and I admire those who tried to be nice to him.

  However, he remains what he is.
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  theMadJW

  Don't believe every "report" you read; the implication is FALSE; we hate molesters as much- even MORE than YOU.

  But people believe only what they WANT to believe....

  Yes- I remain what I am; and HONEST person.
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  JWoods

  So, HONEST PERSON, do you agree with the Jehovah's Witness child molester policy?
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  wasblind

  The whole time I was invovled with the JW's, I never heard of them having a problem with peds, I felt totally safe, I was totally nieve.

  until I went online and did research, even found news clippings. That goes to show the power of mind control. If they can control your

  mind, they can control your actions and the info you recieve. Keeping you in the dark, keeping you blind
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  Lady Lee

  Well this discussion was the basis for my column on Freeminds today. It isn't posted yet but it should be up in a couple of hours.

  Mad I hope no child you love comes under the influence of one of the perpetrators
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  theMadJW

  Yes, WAS- same HERE; believe everything you read?

  I estimate I've been in over a dozen congregations- and have only known of 2.

  Maybe I should start listing the ENDLESS cases in CHURCHianity on another Topic, then school, government, & business cases...

  I'd spend the rest of my LIFE doing so.

  Again, this is a problem in ALL walks of life, unfortunately- and make fun of our looking forward to the Day it all ends, by Christ, all you want, folks; I'm USED to it. Pretend that YOU know a better policy. Hope YOU never are falsely accused as my friend was.

  Thanks, LL, but I never let them be alone with another adult, neither did my wife....