LOL knot.. well if anyone would know it would be you
glad you could come out and play...
a reasonable question to any elder/members
by bigmac 88 Replies latest jw friends
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yknot
Hey Bigmac.....
seriously why do you care?
According to you ....you are soooo over it all!
...... ((( because you aren't over it and you are trying to make peace within your own life))).....
Quit casting stones at people who are on your team but at a different level of exit then you......
hugs, lots and lots of cheery smurfy hugs.....
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For everyone else...... lets get this party started....
SMURF DANCE!
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elderelite
lolz!!! thats a really smufy gif, yknot!
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Open mind
Keeping my elder hat for as long as it took to awaken my immediate family was an integral part of a plan that worked for us.
I took the advice of Jim Whitney, aka "Amazing", mentioned earlier in this thread.
To each his own.
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elderelite
TY openmind!!! I only skimined it but it looked awesome and I am gong to go over it in detail tommarow.. it looked very interesting.. there is so much here. Appreacaite yuo highlighting that
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cantleave
Appreacaite yuo highlighting that
EE How much have you had to drink?
You'll have a hangover on Field Service tomorrow......
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elderelite
No i dont drink anymore...
of course i dont drink anyless either..
point taken thoungh i''ll pay attention to my spelling
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bigmac
its good that we can laugh with each other, rather than at each other.
to answer Y knot:
"Hey Bigmac.....
seriously why do you care?
According to you ....you are soooo over it all!"
because my family is still involved.
my daughter (39) has shunned me since she was 12
she is married with at least 4 children
i have never met them; they live 8 miles from me.
my youngest son (32) has shunned me since 1989: i dont know where he lives.
but the good news is my older son (34) was DF'd last year, & although he had also shunned me since 1989,
we have now established limited contact via FB: he has said he has no interest or plans to go back to the JW.
the effects of this loss of family was devastating , & it doesn't go away. This is why i do understand some folks need to stay within the
religion.
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elderelite
Mac, when I meet someone IRL who seems like an ass I try hard to figure out where they are comming from..often there is something I'm missing that, when discovered, sets things strait. I should have done the same with you. Your last post stings a bit... it provides that 'something' i was missing. I now have cause to regret that whole 'arrogant ass' thing. Your situation makes your view of elders understandable.. however I have to ask, given how things turned out for you, why so bitter towards someone (me) who is trying to avoid ending up in your situation? As I stated a few pages ago, the experiment has already been done. I see how it has ended for so many, including you and mosche. I dont want that. it may still happen. but if it does, it wont be because I repeated mistakes others have made. but i digress..
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Broken Promises
But stepping down as an elder doesn't mean your family will leave you. In fact, I'm sure many JW females wish their husband would devote more time to family business than to congregational business.
That's why it appears to some of us that hanging onto the elder title means more to "apostate elders" that the family reasons that have been cited.
