On the one hand it's admirable because you're good people who are basically atheists who have invented your own church for your own selves and still want to believe in sweet baby Jesus. Which is totally cool. On the other hand it makes you impossible to talk with on things like theology, because your theology is an amorphous blob of things you've cherry-picked to believe because they make you feel good. When a topic about Christian dogma comes up and freethinkers find themselves alternately discussing with the Church of PSac, the Church of Perry, the Church of BTS, the Church of Tammy (none of which can agree on even the most basic of doctrines), they feel like they're trying to nail down a piece of silly putty.
Just an FYI, I am finishing my second year of a university degree in Theology and have these and other discussions with my professors and fellow students and NOT ONE has ever said what you just said, so perhaps YOU may need to have a close look into theology, you may find some stratling surprises.
I assume by the way you just vented that it frustrates you that you can't "pigeon hole' all christians into fundis because that would certainly make things easier for you and I can appreciate that.
You are quite incorrect in that Christains can't agree on BASIC Christians Doctrines because we ALL do, way may disagree on some man-made doctrines but those are minor compared to Our Love and Accepteance of Jesus Christ as our lord and saviour.
I don't know how to react to being called an atheist though, LOL !
Thank you?