The Impact of Leaving (page 6)

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I didn't go through the reinvolvement or reassessment stages either. Maybe because we were solid in our reasons for leaving and had a definite strategy for exiting.

edit: Or maybe I went through them before we actually left.

wobble

Judicial Committee, is "dropped a loaf" a euphemism for what I think it is ?

I wonder if something similar has prompted the new security measures at my old K.H , up until recently you could just walk or drive in, only the door was locked, now they have railings and HUGE gates, locked.

If I am right, thanks whoever did the mega-dump!

Found Sheep

Thanks for the check list!

Out now 3 years and down to 4 of them....

I still have nightmares, trouble with family, flashbacks, and some anger that surfaces it's ugly face from time to time....

My last "dream" I was at a convention dressed in my holloween suit and everyone was turning there faces away from me....

FS

Ding

OODAD,

Even though born-ins weren't allowed to have a life outside the cult, they do have talents and interests that weren't allowed to be developed -- in sports, maybe, or in the arts or sciences.

It seems to me that the best approach is to get them to explore these areas of interest as well as to develop friendships outside the organization.

Even though they didn't have a childhood outside the cult, it accesses their non-cult personality by encouraging them to develop in freedom in harmony with the way God wired them to be.

stuckinamovement

Great List. I am definitely printing it out.

SIAM

flipper

DONNY, QUENDI, & OODAD- I deeply appreciate your supportive comments. It means the world to me. To have people here with fellow feeling & empathy for the emotional stress we go through of missing a child who you were once very close to is very healing to me. With warm regards & JWN hugs to all of you - . I will never give up in trying to assist at least one of my daughters to exit the cult in time. Thanks again

wobble

Please you guys who have children lost to the cult, NEVER give up, it is a cumulative thing with everybody who leaves, each piece of information, or reasoning, or pure love, that comes from outside of the cult, adds to the conviction that grows in the heart of such ones that something is very wrong within.

I shed tears for you all, I know the pain I would feel constantly if I was alienated in any way from my sons, and the fault is not yours! That makes it harder to bear.

But please, keep on showing your love for them, telling them of your love for them, love conquers all.

00DAD

wobble - thanks for the encouraging words. I certainly need them right now!

I have a question: I know you mean well, but how do you show love for someone that completely shuts you out?

Mad Sweeney

Awesome thread.

Quendi, mad props on the Ulysses quote! One of my favorites. I would add to it Invictus:

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Found Sheep

OODAD!!!! I can't imagine!!! I hope some day soon your kids wake up! Glad you got out!!

FS

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