by bornfree123 68 Replies latest social relationships
.....and these people are idiots! Isn't that nice the a 'brother' can be separated from his wife for 30 years and still have...'priviledges.'
Below would be the answer for separation but not divorce......
they have the absolute spiritual endangerment thing, if one turns appostate and starts discouraging the jw party.
S
Has your husband been paying spousal and child support since he abandoned the family?
Welcome to the forum.
Another example of how the Watchtower destroys families.
What a messy situation.. Me personally, since I wouldnt want anything to do with the org anyway.. I would give him the grounds he wants. File for divorce, start dating etc.. All that is needed for a JW divorce is staying overnight in someone of the opposite sex home.. Maybe try this, even if nothing happenes the marriage can be officially over. However, if you want to stay a JW you are surely in a terrible situation. I personally wouldnt waste 30 years in the unscriptural divorce vs scriptural limbo. If things arent going to work out I would just move on and let the chips fall where they may.
*** it-1 p. 641 Divorce ***
Sending Away Pagan Wives. Before the Israelites entered the Promised Land, they were told to form no marriage alliances with its pagan inhabitants. (De 7:3, 4) Nonetheless, in the days of Ezra, the Jews had taken foreign wives, and in prayer to God, Ezra acknowledged their guiltiness in this matter. In response to his urging and in acknowledgment of their error, the men of Israel who had taken foreign wives sent them away “along with sons.”—Ezr 9:10–10:44.
However, Christians, coming from all different nations (Mt 28:19), were not to divorce mates who were not worshipers of Jehovah, nor was it even desirable for them to separate from such marriage partners, as Paul’s inspired counsel shows. (1Co 7:10-28)
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So scripturally what does your husband base his separation on? Nonsupport, abuse, preventing religious worship?
Has he been faithful sexually? If not, can you prove it? I would see if I can get a professional to watch his activities and document them.
I'm not familiar with the UK divorce laws but I would approach this as a non-jw legal situation but not give reason to be found guilty of adultery.
Divorce in the WTS tends to be difficult because the ones judging are men who have an antiquated concept of a woman's place in the world.
I'm glad to hear you have support from your mother.
Blondie
In the majority of cases though (where prenups aren't involved), the testimony of the spouse that the divorce is being sought due to "irreconcilable differences" is sufficient for a judge to grant the petition for dissolution of marriage. (In most parts of U.S. and Canada I believe )
No spiritual law exists that “demands you stay in your loveless marriage.” But what did Jesus Christ say about marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
The Lord said this: “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality [i.e., fornication], and marries another, commits adultery” (Matt. 19:9, ESV)
Bottom line..... does one recognize scriptural authority or not ?
New International Version (NIV)
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 but if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
The Lord said this: “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality [i.e., fornication], and marries another, commits adultery” (Matt. 19:9, ESV)
and if they don't remarry?
BornFree, he's hoping he can hold out long enough for you to hook up with a boyfriend, so that when he does divorce you, he'll appear to have the "moral high ground" to his congregation.
It sucks, but that's the way it is.
hello bornfree--i'm in the UK too. if you divorce after 2 years separation--your "other half" has to agree to it--err--will yours--?
in your case--with properties involved--and minor children---life gets very complicated--so a solictor/ lawyer becomes far more important--£kerching.
also--in the UK--if you do divorce--that in itself could be the beginning of ongoing fiancial issues--so a "clean break" agreement is needed--more £kerching.
on a side note--ive bumped my exjw UK thread--in case you havent seen it before whilst lurking here.
