I made a huge mistake (page 2)

Scully

Well, a gift is supposed to be something the recipient will prize and cherish. It sounds like you did right by him. You were thoughtful, generous, organized and went above and beyond, imo.

The fact that he refuses to buy anything for you tells me that he does not appreciate you, doesn't care about what you like or cherish and is a selfish asshat on top of it. Frankly I think his behaviour is far more offensive than a gold cross ought to be to him. You are his WIFE. He promised to love, honour and cherish you, and he pulls a stupid stunt like this?? Tell me, do you feel loved, honoured and cherished??

No wonder you had doubts about making it to your anniversary. Your mistake wasn't buying yourself a gold cross. Your mistake was marrying a JW.

I'd tell him that a divorce is going to be far more expensive than a gold cross. I'd take the watch back too. He doesn't deserve it.

zeb

One. I buy myself stuff. It can be drill bits a pocket knife or other stuff.

Two. KO you are a gorgeous penultimately thoughtful selfless lady.

rebel8

he has never gotten me anything for our anniversary

Think about this.

losingit

Maybe he takes her out places for their anniversary? Maybe they make plans together to celebrate? (Except for this occasion, obviously)

ShirleyW

We all buy things for ourselves that we like, especially those like me who are born-ins and had no choice about the no celebration of birthdays. I usually treat myself to something special for my birthday. But "born-in" doesn' t apply to a marriage, so I'm in agreement with Rebel8's post. I'm sure you've probably wondered why he never bought you anything and I'm sure you know the reason why, so you have accepted it over the years, I guess now you're getting REALLY tired of not being acknowledged.

Captain Obvious

Sounds like a great chance to show him the 'cross' reference in the reasoning book. it references the Imperial Bible Dictionary dishonestly. Here is a link to the real page it claims to quote.

http://archive.org/stream/theimperialbible01unknuoft#page/376/mode/1up

With the entire roman rule being incredibly well documented, it's amazing they've gotten away with saying thT Romans didn't kill people on crosses for this long.

Good luck

dazed but not confused

Great effort. Your right! You did make a huge mistake.... you married a JW.

I'm taking the cross and chain back.

Why? Explain to him you have your faith and he has his. Between that and not getting you a gift i'd say seriously consider moving on.

Jeffro

KariOtt:

I'm taking the cross and chain back.

You have every right to keep it, especially if it's part of practising your own faith.

If having a cross matters a lot to you, keep it. If your husband expects you to respect his beliefs, it's a two-way street.

If having it doesn't matter that much to you, it's probably simpler to just take it back.

erbie

I guess he was quite cross with you.

Sorry, just had to slip that one in

I have made similar mistakes myself.

I'm sure it will be fine.

jwfacts

If you see the article Did Jesus die on a Cross or Stake?, Jesus almost certainly died on a Cross. You should not be made to be ashamed of your beliefs by your husband. If he expects you to respect his unusual belief system, he should afford you the same courtesy. Don't make a big thing over it, but I think you should make it clear that you are as entitled to following your belief as much as he is. If he is going to disregard your wishes by going preaching, and bringing Watchtower literature into the house, you too can keep things that are dear to you. I don't think you should succumb to his manipulation by returning the cross. You have gone out of your way to be very loving to him, and it is time he acted the same for you.

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