by KariOtt 63 Replies latest jw friends
The cross is by design a huge stumbling block for anyone following the Watchtower.
Yes, it probably was a mistake, and its great that you are willing to undo and "repent".
I pray for spiritual wisdom for you, and that his eyes may yet open without the adversity often required.
Fernando
KariOtt, I am guessing that you meant to take the burden off of your husband, by buying yourself an anniversary gift in his name [and with his money?].
Perhaps, that is the aspect that bothers him most: the nature of 'his gift to you' is one which he would be horrified to have ascribed to him (because it is contrary to his beliefs).
If the cross represents something that you personally cherish, perhaps you can resolve the issue by 'buying' the necklace in your own right, then select another, more husband-approved gift as your proper anniversary present. [Of course, this could all have been avoided - and still can be righted - if your husband would simply step up, and select for you his own gift from the heart.]
I don´t see the problem with the cross. In "The Harp of God" in several places in that book it says that "Jesus died upon the cross" with this picture:
Why has he never bought you a present?
You sound like a wonderful wife with an undeserving husband. Sorry he was such a jerk........
Fernando I hope you were joking. If you aren't a JW you aren't bound by any of their teachings or dysfunctions and you can buy or wear any da## thing you wish. Intentionally trying to annoy a loved one when it isn't necessary is a different thing. But you bought something for yourself that meant something to you. Sorry, but I would tell the juvenile to grow up.
I'm a ubm (unbelieving mate) and I wear a cross all the time.
He expects you to accept his jwism? then he can accept your Christianity. Keep the Cross and let him pout, he will get over it eventually.
You didn't make a mistake, you made sure he had a wonderful evening. If he doesn't want you to pick out the gift then he should go out and buy something you would would love. I may be wrong about this but I think it is probably more common for JW's to not buy gifts because they are not use to celebrating anything. I knew of couples that didn't even give each other a card. Because I was brought up in the "world" I had to give up so many fun things so anniversarys were special to us. Don't allow him to spoil your night and if you love the cross I would keep it and wear it with pride. Maybe it will teach him to get the next one himself.
Hi Kariott,
There should be no reason why you can't keep your cross = belief. Your husband knows you aren't a witness. Does he think the cross is possessed? I know he probably thinks he has a right to say what you do, because that's what he's taught. So sad he's bringing this all into your life and marriage.
lots of love
I think the appropriate response to that spoiled evening is anger. He did not acknowledge your extra effort? You can keep trying to please but I predict a similar response from him. It is time to change the dynamics of your relationship.
