Hi Lurker,
Not to be nosy or anything. But I just felt I needed to speak up. I married a JW the first time around. And I (on the other side of the coin) feel the same way about JW men as you do about JW women. So many of them are intimidated by an intelligent women. It seems like as soon as they realize there is intelligence, they run as hard as they can the other way. The men tend to shy away from any intelligent conversation with women. This was very frustrating to me. I was raised in a household with a father and three younger brothers, so I was used to intellectual sparring with men and women alike, as my mother was also in the picture.
When I got married I expected to have that same privilege. But it definitely did not work out that way. Not only was it very lacking in any communication but he was abusive. When I stopped going to the meetings a couple of years ago, I began dating "worldly men". There were some who were intimidated by intelligence, but there were others who were very open to discussion. Last April, I met an outstanding man, who truly is my soul mate in every way. We talk constantly about anything and everything. It has brought such joy and vigor to my life. When we get home from work the evenings just fly by.
I truly hope you can find a woman who will meet your criteria. As Larc said cute and perky might last awhile but in the long run a meeting of the minds is so important. I hope you will consider looking outside the org. There are people out there looking for a real and meaningful relationship. I know because my husband and I were two of them. My husband is Thinker, BTW.
Good luck and may all your dreams come true.
You picked a good friend in Larc. He is a very intelligent and honest person from what I have seen of his posts. He also has some wonderful insight. I guess from age and experience. I hope that my husband and I will have what he and Zazu have after 37 years. I feel confident we will. And I would love for my husband to say what he said about Zazu about me!!
TW
