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Grunt

Hi Curly,
Thanks for posting, I really enjoyed hearing about your life. I am sorry for the break with your parents as I know how much that hurts from the other side. Maybe in time, with your brother as a help, the chasm will close and the wounds heal. I can only pass on some excellent advice I recieved which is to stay in touch even if you don't get an answer. It is hard to do, and I haven't done a very good job of it as being rejected when you have given all you have is very offensive, but it is the best path I think. Mommy (posts on this board) told me so anyway! I wish you and those you love, happiness.

normie67

Curly!!!!!
Whew!!!!!!
Been there !!!
Thoughts and Prayers!!!
normie

Simon

Thanks for sharing your life with us CurlyQT !
I'm glad things are looking up with your siblings, hope thing improve with your parents.

CurlyQT

Thank you,

To six of nine and Grunt:

Actually I have written them several letters telling them exactly how I feel. Something that I should have done from the start. That is the one thing I wish I could change about the whole situation. My dad is such a controlling man that if it's not what he wants to hear then he will never hear it... and so during that time, instead of standing up to him and facing him head on with my new found feelings, I closed up. More then I ever have in my whole life. I'm still trying to work my way through those walls to this day. They have had affects on all of my relationships... and continue to be something I work on day to day. After sending him my thoughts and feelings, I felt so much better. I made sure to let them know that I love them and will continue to love them no matter what. My sister has really been strong... I think she has had a little more chance to stand up to him as well as my brother. The sad thing, my parent's have disowned three of their children up to this point. There are two daughters still at home, one too young to really know what she wants and the other one a total follower, definitely not a free thinker. Anyways, I will keep you posted as to how things are going.

Thanks for all of your welcome replies,
G

RR

Okay, here's my story in a nutshell.

Born and raise a Catholic from a dysfunctional family. Became a JW through a childhood friend, started to question some years later, spent some seven years researching history and collecting old literature, fell in love with the simple years of the Watch Tower organization when they walked with Jesus, during that time got married. In 1992 I stepped down and relieved myself of all my congregational duties including kicking the bookstudy out of our home and declining parts on the school.

Started to associated with the Bible Students with my wife, was kicked out of our home, landlord was a JW AND my mother-in-law, moved away, and never saw the inside of a hall again, some nine years later, still married, have a daughter, still study with the Bible Students and am very happy and blessed.

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Never take a laxative and a sleeping pill on the same night.

RedhorseWoman

Curly, fascinating story, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

Just continue to keep in touch with your family. It may make them uncomfortable, but it may eventually get them to reconsider.

I just love it when those of us who have left refuse to play by the WT rules.

thinkers wife

Curly,
Thank you so much for sharing. And the fine attitude you display. Congratulations!!
RR,
Thanks for filling in the gaps. Wondered.
TW

mommy

HELLO NEWBIES
This thread has gotten so long and the stories so personal. I don't even know how I can adress each of you
Let me just say that this forum is one of the best things that has happened to me. After all the hurt, pain, and lies we all have been given, it is a good place to take a deep breath and let it all out.
I am so glad all of you are able to share this part of your lives with us. Through this we all can grow.
Lotsa love and prayers go out to all of you
wendy

bjc2012

DriveslikeJehu,

You are very wrong about the reason for the change on the higher education policy of the WTS. They do not care one bit about whether the rank and file JW can support themselves. If they did, they would not have taken away the small donations that their pioneers could get from placing the magazines and other literature. No, their main concern is to change their image. They are now seen as a group that is 80% uneducated and poor people cannot make the big donations. So if they want to attract the big spenders like doctors, lawyers, CEOs, etc., they have to be seen as a religion that supports their members getting college degrees. Hence the policy change on higher education. And I do know how strongly they were against going to college because my father went up against them in order to send us to college. His view was that the GB could not tell him how to run his family. Of course, he was censored but he did not care. In fact, he even decided to complete his college education as he had married early. The elders in his congregation took this personally and they refused to recognize him as a competent brother in that congregation. They would give a sister a part rather than let him handle it. But he went right on and completed his PhD program and when he began making lots of money, all was forgiven. He became an elder and was such until he left the organization in 1991. Incidentally, he was baptized in 1948. So, forget this talk about it being easier to make a living in 1950's or 60's because it is not true. It has always been hard to make a living if you were not qualified for anything but janitorial work.

DannyBear

bjc,

Tell your father that his actions were more manly then weak, while many of us were seeking the favors of men, reaching out for status, he was true to himself. Talk about grit...he has it. You should be proud. A real hero in my eyes!

DannyBear
(No college class)

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