i know how it is, but at the same time, i dont think any of my guy friends are attracted to me. really.
lol, yeah, but here's tink: "oh, I can't believe you guys really think I'm hot" and here's us guys: "pant, pant, pant"
Can Men & Women Just be Friends?
by Xena 102 Replies latest jw friends
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SixofNine
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StinkyPantz
Tink-
I am attracted to you and I am a straight female!! LOL And you know that some of your guy friends are too, so stop acting like you don't know. You know you rank high on society's beauty scale (which is why you get hit on so much on this board) and with that brings a high level of male attraction. One more time: Tink you are gorgeous and fun. . every guy's dream. .
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tinkerbell82
sp - i don't know what to say. you're such a sweetheart. although i don't think this
You know you rank high on society's beauty scale
is true by any stretch of the imagination. but i love you for saying it!!
six - have i told you you're incorrigable lately?
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SYN
I don't think Tink understands that she will never be "one of the guys". She's a cute chick! Guys are, for the most part controlled by their reptilian brain, and here is where some scientific smartie like Alan or Bradley comes and kicks my ass but, men do not choose to be friends with women because they like their personality!
Excuse me! I've been friends with some women I know for many years, very very good friends, and it wasn't just because they had "good child bearing hips!" It's a bit demeaning to be labelled as a pathetic animal that has no control over their hormone-engendered impulses...I would never say something like that about women, but imagine if I did, and what the reaction would be! I've gotten to know piles of women purely because I thought they were cool, not because I wanted to jump their bones!
There are essentially two mental categories for women in my mind: those who I want to do the horizontal fandango with, and those I don't, for a miscellany of reasons, not limited to but including things like their being married/engaged/in a committed relationship, working with me, etc. It's very rare indeed for women to cross over from "friend" status to another status in my life - in fact it's rarer than hen's teeth! I love hanging out with all the lovely ladies in my life...I wouldn't give it up for the world...and they know that I'm not just doing it because they have good legs or a nice face!
They don't! Unless, and this is the qualifier, they are already in a happy, committed relationship or, they are homosexual!
It just gets worse...
Either one is fine! I have friends that are married (happily) and gay (happily). Single, heterosexual men do NOT choose to be "just friends" with a viable, attractive female. Unless, of course, they have already nailed the chick and then, real friendship is entirely possible. There are far too few exceptions to this rule!
Really! Well, it seems that you're already convinced about this RULE, a rule that doesn't apply to me. The main problem here is, you just haven't met me yet
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Xena
She did say there were exceptions to the rule SYN.....and am sure we are all aware you are exceptional
So your mind NEVER delves into the "what if" fantasy with ANY of your attractive female friends? Not being confrontational....just curious
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Abaddon
Well, whilst single(ish) I did once, well, twice, end up sleeping with my female best friend. Never thought I would, it didn't change the relationship - other than occasionally making us laugh hysterically at something we got that no one else in our circle of friends got; like the episode of Friends where Chandler and what's her name end up in bed together.
If you're in a good relationship it is far easier to really have friends of the opposite sex. If you're not happy in a relationship what you actually do is end up having prospective future partners of the opposite sex, as distinct from friends, even if you think you don't, and if you're single, then there is always the possibility of making the beast with two backs with a friend of the opposite sex.
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teejay
>>>>>...men do not choose to be friends with women because they like their personality! They don't! Unless they are already in a happy, committed relationship or, they are homosexual! -- Aztec
Wow. That's deep. I'm still trying to decide if that's a dig on men or on women.
Personally, I think it's awfully nice that women are built a little different than me; have a higher tone in their voices than I do; are prettier (usually) than me; smell better than me. But every single one of my female friends has a great personality. That, along with everything else, is what attracted me to them in the first place. Without that, what use would they be to me? -
Maverick
Tink, you are such a flirt! Why don't your girls just get a room! Maverick
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tinkerbell82
But every single one of my female friends has a great personality. That, along with everything else, is what attracted me to them in the first place. Without that, what use would they be to me?
well put, teejay. :)
mav - how DARE you? i am NO such thing!! ;)
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stillajwexelder
I truly think it is possible for men and women to be friends -- I have female friends -- however , I will admit when the attractive ones are around I do find it hard not to mentally undress them -- in other words --sex is often on my mind -- I honestly wish it wasnot but if I said otherwie I would be telling lies