Come on, can you REALLY do it? and is it REALLY necessary? I don't know about ya'll, but I often feed off my hatred, fear, anger. . .
Forgiving & Forgetting
by StinkyPantz 69 Replies latest jw friends
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obiwan
Yeah, I could feed off of you too.
But really, to err is human, and so is forgiving and forgetting.
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Nosferatu
I had to learn NOT to forgive & forget. Whenever I did, I'd just get walked all over by the same person again.
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unbeliever
I've been betrayed a few times in my life. One time by a close family member who is like a brother to me. I did forgive him and we still have a close relationship. I'm even able to carry on a conversation with my dub mom who has done MANY things to hurt me.
Now I must not be able to forgive non family members because I still carry a grudge against a few people who have stabbed me in the back. I don't feel the need to forgive them or forget it.
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arrowstar
I've forgiven...and in some cases ...forgotten. Some things are just too trivial to carry a big grudge. Other things...well...I may forgive...but I will never forget. I just move on.
Lisa
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Special K
I can forgive but NO>>> I cannot forget.
MAYBE.. I'm better at FORGIVE and ACCEPT.
sincerely
special k
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obiwan
Don't get me wrong, I have been ran over plenty of times myself. But you have to decide if it's worth holding onto, and if you can do something about it. There are alot of occasions where it's just best to let it go. Life has enough stress, why hold on to something that will eat you up inside?
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SanFranciscoJim
It depends upon the nature of the misdeed.
If you're talking about the checkout clerk who once overcharged me for a loaf of bread, yes, I can forgive and forget.
If you're talking about Al-Qaeda and what they did to my country on 9-11, no, never.
If you're talking about the George W. Bush regime and what they did to my country, no, never.
If you're talking about the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society and how they lied to me, how they continue to mislead millions, and how they protect pedophiles in their midst, no, never!
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Lady Lee
I find it quite easy to forgive and forget those little human mistakes people make - the ones that are not intentional and are simple accidental especially when the person apologizes and sees to mean it.
What I am unwilling to forgive are people who hurt over and over with no regard for the impact of their words or actions on others.
abuse is never forgiven or forgotten unless the person really does acknowledge what they did and try to make it up or change
that goes for friends, family, ex-bosses, and organizations
I have a zero tolerance for abusers. They rarely get a second chance anymore. I spent most of my life turning the other cheek and forgiving only to be abused again.
And I'm not talking about smart-ass comments or an off-the-cuff remark but those who persist in a pattern of behavior that is hurtful to me or others.
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SixofNine
It works for me, but I may have a slight advantage over most people in that I have the worst memory!