by Mindchild 101 Replies latest jw friends
itz2cool said Personally, I'm not interested in sex with someone who's participating merely out of a sense of duty.
My thoughts exactly -- we might as well be back in the stoneage -- or under the Taliban if her views were to be taken even half seriously
This is one area by the way in which the WTBTS is correct -- each render the marriage due but make allowance when the other person is not feeling 100% or not really in the mood -- the WTBTS does get the odd thing right.
I gave both husbands sex whenever they wanted; regardless of how I felt. I will never forget one time in particular; I had bronchitis, a fever of 103, had just put the girls to bed (he never helped with anything; just got high in the basement). My ex stormed into the kitchen where I was doing dishes and said, "Is tonight gonna be a sex night or what?" He wanted it, so it was.
Now that is 100% wrong!!! (((((((((((((((((((((((((((Beryl)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
To PG first post,I agree with that 100%.I have 3 children and 1 is austic as well,he can be up some nights until 2 am.By time he is in bed,we are just too tired and my MAN would NOT expect sex from me if I was toooooooo tired.Even if I was sick he wouldnot expect that from me. I the same with him.When we are able ,we are there for one another.
We don't have sex as much as we would like to ...lol....but we manage to get it in when we can.
Heather
You're a wise man, Thunder Rider. Excellent comments!
You're right, too, stillajwexelder.
The whole thing about a happy marriage is to give a lot to your spouse, expect a lot in return, and be as accomodating as possible to your spouse's needs and failings. In terms of sex, people get horny, sometimes people aren't in the mood, and so each person ought to consider not only his or her own feelings of the moment, but those of the spouse. That way neither one feels deprived, or put upon, but feels like the other has his or her best interests at heart. Sometimes when you want sex but your wife doesn't, don't be demanding. You won't die, and she'll appreciate you for it. If you demand it, she'll resent it. And if sometimes you as a wife aren't in the mood, but you know your man is, pretend you're in the mood and have a good time. He'll appreciate you all the more. It will all lead to a healthy sex life where you enjoy each other.
As for husbands or wives who don't give a rip about their spouse's feelings, the spouse ought to dump them right quick. If you feel like your husband will smack you if you do something he doesn't like, get out! Now! It'll only get worse. No one has to put up with such fear.
As for Dr. Laura, she's a perennial fundamentalist moron.
AlanF
You know Gumby!!! I wouldnt go around with him! I NOW know HE was right!!I was wrong-I dont think it gave him the right to beat me. But !!!I must have drove him nuts!!! So that he couldnt help himself. Preaching all that stuff! judging him!Oh How I wish I could start over again. I loved him very much you know >>>>>we were married for 42 & a half years....No I dont think your are sillier than I darling That would be very hard to be!!!
Hey mouthy...what if I was resurrected? See ya after Armageddon!...eheh
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
Ahhh sex......I remember it well
As a sex deprived dub if I would have known that the sex you have in the first year of marriage was supposed to last the rest of your life I would have spread it out a little more evenly.
365 x 3 = 1095 hey that would been enough to make through the 1000yr reign!
Thunder's absolutely right. I give it up sometimes when I just want to go to bed, and she does likewise. !00% of the time, we both come out winners!
It all has to do with how you treat each other when you're not having sex. Do you kiss your spouse? Tell them they're beautiful/handsome? Take an equal share in raising kids, doing household chores? Buy them things, give little surprises, even if it is just running them a bubble bath, or rubbing their back?
If you do that, the spouse will have the energy and drive anytime, and it won't be just one person bonking the other, but two people getting lotsa pleasure from one another.
ash
The trouble with Sex On Demand tm is that if not used wisely you will find yourself having to go back to Pay Per View.
the entire concept of SEX ON DEMAND is a joke
anything in a marriaged that is "DEMANDED"--- by default ---means that one partner is gettting the shaft-
very few partnership in biz, etc can withstand "ONE" partner who is demanding something of the other
after awhile the other partner will say: "What the fu%k are you talking about. I own just as much of this company as you do" at that point all hell will break lose
well same in a marriage, anytime on person thinks, or percieved whether real or imagined, that they are getting the short end of the stick at that point you no longer have a healthy relationship
O YEA --you have a man who is getting "Coochie" on TAP but his wife is not finding the same satisfication as he is-
the mere fact that he as failed to take into consideration HER FEELINGS he has already lost the battle
i know of so many woman who have gone to other men, not due to being beaten, or cussed out, but due to their man simply NOT UNDERSTANDING THEIR NEEDS and someone else either did or pretended that they did-
botttom line is in my view, ANY man that demand sex when thier wife is not feeling like it all he will get is woman who JUST LAYS THERE and if that is all he wants, it only confirms to the woman that he doesn't care about them
and in the long run, "Leroy my boy will end up the big loser"
lol @DFNon
