by DanTheMan 124 Replies latest jw friends
Dan, I agree with Tracy.
Start out casual, ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee or something after class, then ask her if she'd like to study. If you'll just relax and be yourself...turn that Tom Cruise smile on her...you'll be fine.
Let us know how it goes.
Women love a sense of humor so ask her:
"Is your husband married?"
She'll laugh, you'll laugh and then you can tell her "you sure are cute, I want to strip you naked!"
These have always worked for me.
Also try; Id like to take you to a unspeakable place and do unspeakable things to you or Take me to your leader!
*smacks homey upside the head*
Don't listen to him Dan...other than asking her if her husband is married (that was funny), the other remarks would get you slapped...and maybe worse!
*waving at Mulan* of COURSE you agree with me...I think we were sisters in another life.
Tracy
Every person is different, so you won't know until you start to get to know her just how she will take your approach.
For that reason, I think something light, kinda funny, something about the class, etc., are good places to start. Remember to be ready to do a lot of listening. Think of questions (like, where are you from? what are you planning to do after graduation? Music? Hobbies? Etc.) If you listen "actively", chances are she'll feel encouraged to tell you more about herself beyond that. You can work with adjusting your conversation from there.
Just make sure you aren't a big phoney; you'll lose a lot of respect further down the road if you just say whatever you think will impress her, or act in ways you generally don't with friends, and then she sees that you are only a facade.
One of the nicest things about a good marriage is that you can really be yourself and it doesn't cause friction. Shoot for a relationship like that.
bebu
Try one (or more) of these!
NOTE: I am not responsible for any negative consequences resulting from using the above..
I know I am. Do you have his number? Maybe I can send him a "How Was Your Christmas Dump?" card this year.
LMAO CG!!!
Mr. Dan?.
Offer her the latest watchtower and awake.. .
Seriously, lines NEVER work.
Spontaneity is the key.
Confidence is the icing.
Next time you see her:
1. Have an Overall idea of a topic. In your case, let?s say Math.
2. When you see her next time, and want to talk to her..don?t hesitate more than 4 seconds to approach her. This way, you won?t have time to get nervous. And also it prevents you from having a mind conversation of ?what do I say if she says, this and that,? which leads to nervousness.
3. Say whatever comes to mind and take it from there.
5. If she is not responsive, move on to another girl.
Good luck
Dan the Man, Country girl and Xena have given you the best advise. Eye contact and secret smiles are THE number ONE way to start anything. Then when you see each other and you get the chance hold a door for her, or you see her in the library just go by and ask if you can sit there... but really everything they (Xena and CG)said is great.
dan,
Just be yourself.....ask her if she requires any help studying,and tell her you would be a cheap tutor in exchange for some time with her for a coffee and intelligent conversation...a women who gets compelmented on her brains by a man is always taken back by that, rather then you telling her..Your hot! lets get pissed and do the wild thing!......at least this way, you can at least get your foot in the door,before you get shut down right away........good luck and keep us updated......
morty
It looks like there is some good advice on here for being able to go and get started with someone, but what if your already close to the person? You couldn't take them out for the night, or buy them lunch, or look for eyecontact etc because you already do all of that anyway. What would you do then?
