I want to ask her out... (page 5)

Nosferatu

Hi Cruzanheart!

However, I'm giving you a woman's viewpoint, which is the creature we're talking about asking out.

Okay, let me start by asking you how many women you've dated?
Second question, are you a "Rules Girl"?

I think it's a good gauge as to whether she's really interested in a relationship or not.

I KNOW it's a lousy guage of her interest level. A guy has to learn how to read a woman's actions, and judge from there. If she responds positively to the man touching her (non-sexually), initiates the first kiss, asks him for a second date, brings him to her home for some "fun", then she's interested in him "romanticly". In fact, I hate that word. I'd rather use "sexually". You can achieve either a short term or long term relationship if she is interested in the man sexually. Romance should only come into play in a long term relationship. For now, Dan should just be looking to have some fun with this girl.

cruzanheart

Good one, Nos! I haven't dated any women (that I can recall), and yes, I'm probably a "Rules Girl" because I'm a First Child and they are very rule-oriented. And, to be honest, I've only dated three guys (two of them for one date each -- blech -- and then there's Big Tex, whom I kept), so I'm not the foremost authority on the subject. I'm just speaking from my perspective as a woman and what I would like and infer if a guy asked me out. Also, that is how I intend to train my children as they get close to dating age: you ask, you be prepared to pay, unless the other person is serious about paying their share.

Nina

simplesally

I would try to get to know her better so when you finally ask her out, she will feel comfortable saying yes, and hopefully, very excited about the "date" when it approaches. You can ask to study for a test together, you can offer her your notes if she misses a class or ask for hers if you miss one. I would try asking her out for a school event.

Nosferatu

I'm probably a "Rules Girl" because I'm a First Child and they are very rule-oriented.

I'll take that as a NO. "Rules Girls" know they're "Rules Girls", because they're "a creature unlike any other". I read the book, and I highly suggest every single guy out ther go and pick up the book "The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing The Heat of Mr. Right". You'll save yourselves a lot of headaches.

lovinlife

Dan..lots of good advise here. The only thing I would tell you is "Just be yourself", let the caring and interesting person that you are show through in your conversations.

The first guy I went out with after my divorce was shy, but did the sweetest thing....I was coming out of college from my insurance licensing course to my car when all of us discovered that it had snowed the entire time we were in there. There was 3-4 inches on the cars etc. I had only just talked to him that day on the way out. He came over to my car and started clearing it off for me and waited for me to start the car to be sure I was okay. After that is when he asked me out...and I said yes, even though I was scared to death about dating at the time. I found out later that he really truly was a very kind person...and it showed through.

Just be yourself!

logansrun

Hey, leave the hotties for Mr. Bradley, okay?

hehe...

Stacy Smith

Cruzanheart, you've just opened a can of worms. I always hated this "rule". In all fairness, if the woman has any respect for a man she's dating, she should at least pay her own way. I personally didn't like spending a shitload of money on a woman that I would only be dating for a month or two, no matter who asked who out. It's a waste of money in my opinion.

Cheapo

If I'm asked out by a man I have always assumed that the man is paying and they have paid every time. If you can't afford dinner try coffee.

I have never invited a man to dinner and so I've never paid but Xena's rule makes sense to me.

Now that I have been dating the same guy for a few weeks I have treated him to a meal a couple of time . Since I'll never cook it's the only way I'll be capable of feeding him anway. It's different as we are now in a relationship.

morty

Dan,

So the question we all want to know.....DID YOU ASK HER OUT? AND HOW?WHAT WAS HER RESPONCE? AND WHO WAS RIGHT?

Nosferatu

Cheapo

If I'm asked out by a man I have always assumed that the man is paying and they have paid every time. If you can't afford dinner try coffee.

Well if this isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is.

It amazes me how women will go off on this "equal rights" shit, and then expect the man to fork out all the dough on a date. Coffee dates are excellent first dates because is she's too much of a "cheapo" to pay for a cup of coffee, the money spent on her is minimal.

If I ended up dating you Stacy, you'd be treated to a nice Happy Meal at McDonalds. I'll rely on you to bring the candles.

Valis

I'm a First Child and they are very rule-oriented.

I have been know to use a ruler from time to time..

Sincerely,

District Overbeer of the "First Born" class

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