New Age Jehovah's Witness Youth

by Obviously Secret 63 Replies latest jw friends

• 

  blacksheep

  I went to plenty of parties where there was "worldly" dancing. I don't recall any drinking...but then who knows, I was very naive. At first I was pretty much apalled because it really didn't reconcile with everything the org. was throwing at us. Then, I decided, what the heck--if they can do it, so can I. I was so socially starved from not being able to go to any school functions (like proms, parties, etc) I was glad to just be around younger people who seemed "normal". I liked the attention I was getting from guys, because of course, I wasn't allowed to even consider dating "worldly" guys.

  I recall a few scandals ensuring thereafter, a couple of girls got pregnant...

  But, rest assured that what you are seeing is normal for each generation of JW's. The best thing you can do is not to get too indignant at it. Teens like yourself need to socialize and be part of a group--they need to feel normal. Whether the society tries to censure it or not, young adults need to have fun and need to develop socially.
• 

  Obviously Secret

  I shouldn't have said I was afraid of sex, now my danger zone will never be tampered with by the wonderful ladies in these forums, and I'm not being sarcastic even though it may not sound that way. I keed around alot, keeps me from crying.

  ANYWAYS ya it is said ain't it? It's weird sex is so bad until you get married. Like saying I do makes your sex organs magically work correct and you will not feel guilty for it. I just came back from the Sunday meeting with a smile on my face. The first time I was actually happy in the Kingdom Hall for a very very long time. Just looking at the speaker made me laugh. Opened my eyes up widely. I decided to have some fun and try to see if I can predict what he was going to say. He said something like, "We must safe-gaurd our heart from the evil temptations of this demonic world." Then I thought to myself, "Watch he say, "Because Satan is working in mysterious ways in our entertainment, our music, movies." Lol guess what he said, "Because Satan is working hard in mysterious ways in our entertainment, such as: music, video games, and movies." The same o' rap it seems. Oh and believe me I'll get over that afraid of sex thing. Just kinda hard when your parents tell you about her distant friend that had sex and contracted AIDS and died a horrible horrible death. What Kind of mess is that. Like I'm always going to die if I have sex. Anyways, it's all craptacular.

  And yes, I was still believed in what my parents said a little even a week ago, but I'm trying to talk to him more but I'm SUPER shy so it's half way immpossible for me to even when I really want to try. Always think of him killing himself, he has his moods sometimes. So ya any advice would be advised.

  P.S. EVERYBODY FORGET I SAID I WAS AFRAID OF SEX! SEX IS GOOD!... Damn I need to get some. No wonder my brother got disfellowshipped he couldn't help it. He could have hid it from me better though, seeing a big folder named disfellowshipped and it had another folder inside the folder which said Tools to Control the erge to Masterbate. Ruining a person's life because he relieved himself for a few seconds from oppressive sex laws that was forced on him all of his 26 years of life.
• 

  blacksheep

  ANYWAYS ya it is said ain't it? It's weird sex is so bad until you get married. Like saying I do makes your sex organs magically work correct and you will not feel guilty for it.

  Unfortunately, that's one key issue I had with the JWs (still have, since my witness nephew at 20 is now engaged). I've seen so many people who are to too young, emotionally, mentally, and sometimes even physically (they say the body doesn't fully mature until 25), get married just to find out what sex is all about. I'm all for discovering that before you get married, so that the person you marry is truly compatible with you on many levels. Not just because they are hot and turn you on.

  Sadly, when these kids finally grow up, they often discover they are two very different people. Marriage is hard enough. I think early marriages that are little more than the desire to finally have sex are doubly tough.
• 

  xLaurax

  Geez....calm it. Don't worry, us females wont hold what you said against you. You don't seem to be the shy type tobe honest but what the hell can you tell on these forums?? Lol, you need to be braver...like me

  I'm super brave and cool ,as you can clearly see from my pic!!

  xLaurax
• 

  Pleasuredome

  obviously secret,

  that party you described is pretty tame to some i went to. music with swearing in is the norm, 'spin the bottle' is just to wet the appetite, and hand/blow jobs in the back garden a great way to put a smile on your face.

  as i said last quite a while ago, there's a youth sub-culture of JWs in england, all in coms with each other thru mobile phones, and parties are arranged frequently and at short notice and on the quiet so nazi elders can descend on them like a ton of bricks. i also hear wife swapping parties go on in north nottinghamshire, not sure if youths are involved in that though.
• 

  ohiocowboy

  Hi!!! It seems also that some congregations are more relaxed than others. I lived in Winnipeg Manitoba for a year, and the cong. that I attended there, had lots of young people. I went to a couple really wild Dub parties with drinking, kissing, petting, rock music, and even several males and females spending the night-seperate on the floor, but still.... The elders knew about these parties, and never said a word, as things did not seem to get out of hand. Then I moved to Minneapolis, and the cong. up there, there were parties, not near as wild as the others, and the elders had hissy-fits that there even parties at all, no matter what kinds of parties they were. Dang-it! We are here to serve Jehovah, how dare you have any fun type attitude.
• 

  Obviously Secret

  I'm sorry for expressing fun. I guess I was in a relaxed cong and they didn't beat all the fun spirit out of me lol. Man I must really be going to the wrong parties. Need to express my rebellious attitude. Bring down a few people with me =). I'm going to so try to get my brother out of the slump and actually date REAL women. Not women getting wet over the hours you spent out in field service, oh ya thats really gonna support a family. It's sad really... I just wish a crooked (and when I say crooked I really mean un-crooked since they will destroy the congregation) official is elected when the grandfather times die off from the governing body. All will be well then. After that a slow recovery for Jehovah's Witnesses shall commence. I dream for that day. I can finally talk to the girl I like in the organization without everybody thinking she's about to have my baby soon. Sometimes I wish they did though...

  DAMN YOU DEVIL!!! WHY DO YOU HAVE TO BE SO FINE!!!!!!!!
• 

  XQsThaiPoes

  OS you are the perfect candnidate for the off grid hall project. We should hook up. I got some wild ideas I am goint to ned the help of elders or at least ex elders, some anointed, people like you, a truck load of BS, and bawls of steel. Any takers?

  BTW sundays talk reading the reasoning book is worse ever what is they need for spiritual food that is over 15 years old and that if you go out in service enought you should have memorised by now.
• 

  Obviously Secret

  I would love to go out, leave the organization, and never look back. However, I am only 16 and in way too deep. Plus I've become close to some people that have the serious possibility to change. I mean the most important person in my life is a girl the same age as me trying to find new friends in the organization because her family always ruined other relationships for her. I can't just leave that's near immpossible for me. So I dunno. However, the idea of a new Jehovah's Witness organization (I think that's what your trying to do maybe ThaiPoes, no offense.) would be kinda liein to myself. I mean I hate it deeply and I mean I don't know if it would work out because even if elders are looking for a new light or some sense they are still elders and they still have the ideas in their heads. Might be hard to work out. But I mean still I'm way too young to do anything.

  Ya I know 16 is like an adult but I've been pushed back all of my life. I SERIOUSLY feel I'm between the age of 12-13, except I think I whole lot more.

  Anyways, gotta thank everybody again for the support. I doubt I'll ever leave these forums, I have so much to say.
• 

  XQsThaiPoes

  You are right From what I understand elders are appointed by the FDS in brooklyn. If we had so anointed they could appoint elders too. I just need enought people to kick start this. I am trying to campaign to baptize anyone that want to become a JW personally. On paper the watchtower has forsaken the JWs so it is not like they can claim ownership of JW's anymore just the book company. I need elders ex elders to help me understand the logistics.

  Why would it be like lying? I can give you a ill info on what I am trying to do but I don't understand why so may people on the fringes are oppossed to it when they still go to the hall or trying to fade.