New Age Jehovah's Witness Youth

by Obviously Secret 63 Replies latest jw friends

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  jgnat

  XQTypos, if I remember right, Corvin did not dislike the boy because he was a JW, but because he was a hypocrite. Though you may be comfortble living like one (it seems you believe that integrity does not exist), I assure you that normal teens and nearly everybody else hate hypocrisy.

  I believe that it is extremely stressful on body and soul to live one way and believe another.

  Obviously Secret, I don't think you whetted your appetite for sin, but for freedom. It is not your fault the WTBTS taught you that EVERYTHING outside of the magazine is sinful. As you discard your old faith in the old guard, (old suits is so right on!), spend some time figuring out what do you do believe in.
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  blacksheep

  However, I am only 16 and in way too deep. Plus I've become close to some people that have the serious possibility to change. I mean the most important person in my life is a girl the same age as me trying to find new friends in the organization because her family always ruined other relationships for her. I can't just leave that's near immpossible for me. So I dunno. However, the idea of a new Jehovah's Witness organization (I think that's what your trying to do maybe ThaiPoes, no offense.) would be kinda liein to myself. I mean I hate it deeply and I mean I don't know if it would work out because even if elders are looking for a new light or some sense they are still elders and they still have the ideas in their heads. Might be hard to work out. But I mean still I'm way too young to do anything.

  OS, you sound very wise. A few of us have been there. Unfortunately we didn't have these forums to actually be able to vent. So we pretended we were happy. We did what we were supposed to do. You are right, 16 is young. When I was 16 I had no real hope. I escaped into reading novels of people who bucked systems and succeeeded. Now I see why I did so.

  But, really, you NEVER are in way too deep in this religion. There is always hope. You obviously have the balls to express concern, so you, whether you know it, are on your way out. There's really no turning back. Just hang tough, think about what sort of future you want for yourself and your girlfriend. Don't resign yourself to the life that you were told you must lead. If need be, talk to a school counselor about your situation and possible plans for the future. You are a minor now, but soon you'll be able to decide things for yourself. Keep your options open.

  I know the feeling I had at your age. Proabaly even worse for a female, because we were encouraged not to question things. I raised a JW, ended up going to college, which greatly opened my mind, established a career, and am FREE. No, life on the outside isn't easy. But at least it's real. In the end, you'll do what you think is best, but at 16, please don't close your options. There's a lot of life in front of you.
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  cyber-sista

  I have heard the stats that about 85 percent of the young JWs are leaving the Org. It doesn't happen overnight. I couldn't stand to watch the teenagers in our congo--one of the reasons I left. I am a mom and I got out with my daughter. The kids all sat there with pained expressions on their faces during every meeting--it was so obvious they did not want to be there. And why should they--it was boring and tedious and they were constantly being torn apart from the platform because of no other reason than being young. I often thought that the old guys in Brooklyn were jealous because they were old and had lived joyless lives without a youth themselves. I think young people today are smart in many ways and can see through much of the WT BS. Its your life--explore it and enjoy it and don't let anyone rob you of your youth.
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  cyber-sista

  A round of beers to welcom Obviously!!!

  You have a great way of expressing yourself and hope you stick around.

  cybs
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  Obviously Secret

  Man I wish she was my girlfriend. She is just a friend that I have known for a good 8 months, we are like family now. She still doesn't know much about me, how could she? I can only talk about how spiritual I am, not me personally.Still she is so free spirited even though she has been in the organization since birth, that has to be something special. So ya I find most of my inspiration from reading old literature. If only my parents knew what I was reading, the books they bought me were so risque, metaphorically mostly but my mind can wonder into some pretty sensual things.

  However seriously, why is the governing body so old? I know most JWs are cooks but come on... I wouldn't let them drive me a block away from my house let alone tell me how to live. Like having a 3 year old explaining to me how to please your women.

  I'm paranoid at the moment twitching at every little sound that comes from the house cause my parents might see me on a "apostate" message board and instantly assume I am a psycho, witch, sexual pervert, demon possessed, murderous, suicidal, Knight in Satan's service associatin, homosexual, (They actually named these things about my brother behind my back.) person who thinks about nobody and loves nobody. I'm callin my brother again right now even though I called him 45 minutes ago.
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  Corvin

  Corvin you hate JWs that use JWism as any other religion a passtime and mind trip. I think people like you miss the point of religion. You don't have to believe it to practice it because it is based on unbelievable things. I am late for the hall cya.

  Your first mistake was thinking you had a thought. You really won't be able to think very successfully until you get out of the org.
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  Undaunted Danny

  [Matthew 5 28" But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart"]. I got this above biblical warning shoved down my throat and i complied with it 100%.I found out at the end of it all, that i was one of the few that did. They (elders included) called me a "CANDY-ASSED GEEK" Jehovah's Witnesses are A #1total sleazy hypocrites.I abided the counsel not to indulge in 'loose conduct' I was a good looking boy growing up in the 'troof'. I MISSED OUT ON EVERYTHING AND IT WAS ALL FOR NOTHING! Countless times over my 33 years as a devout JW I was admonished to"wait on Jehovah and the new system for a sex life" All the while it was the elders themselves who were the whoremasters.There was a 'sister' at the Rockland Massachusetts Kingdom Hall ( Tammy Faye Baker look-a-like only uglier) who would bend over and wiggle her fat ass IN the kingdom hall. When i filed a complaint for this gross sexual harassment,the bastard elders accused me of coming on to the sleazy slut. The church of 'Christendom' were i go to now would have had her thrown out. Note: I didn't have sex until 8 months ago at age 46! I squandered my youth for a demented cult,it was all for nothing.What a waste!
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  Sirona

  Hi ! Welcome to the forum OSecret,

  My advice to you is to read about the JWs and find out for yourself the truth about them. If you choose to have sex, use condoms, and whatever you do, don't tell the elders ANYTHING. They have no right to ask you about your sex life.

  I confessed to the elders for having sex with my FIANCE, and they made me tell them every detail and they treated me like crap. I wasn't DF'd but I was still made to feel like scum for having sex with the guy I was about to marry.

  Anyway, be careful - just because all the other kids are doing stuff don't be pushed into drugs or anything like that. You sound pretty clued up but I thought I'd mention it.

  Sirona
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  Obviously Secret

  Yeah well Kind of late for that drug stuff. I've already learned my lesson with that. Anyways, yeah it is crap, however the thing i hate most is that I actually care about most of the people in my congregation and plenty of other people. So it's hard to just come up and say i hate them all and just run away cause I can't so It's gonna be a hard next few years.

  Least I got the people here to help me out.
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  undercover

  I was pretty naive as a young JW teenager. I remember going to a party when I was about 15-16 at a JW friends house. This was an organized, chaperoned party. Even though parents were there, I was surprised at the music played, the clothes worn and the flirting go on. I knew my parents and the elders would have been upset. I was pretty shocked. How could JW parents allow this kind of thing to go on? But, that was just a taste of what I was to see and learn.

  Later, as I had a drivers license and could get out more, I attended unchaperoned parties and gatherings. While I never saw any drug use, alcohol was prevelant and loose conduct was rampant. I learned more drinking games at convention hotel parties than I ever did from any "worldy" connections. I managed to tow the line and not go overboard and get into any real trouble, but I saw lots of people doing things that would get them DF'd. Since I was one to keep my mouth shut, people tended to trust me to observe these things without fear of me running to the elders. I managed to balance the fence rail for most of my youth. I was liked and used by the brothers at the hall, but also liked and trusted by the kids who were just waiting to get away from their parents and the "truth". At the time I thought I was quite bright to get away with it, but now, I feel like I wasn't being myself. I was letting people direct me.

  Many of the people that I grew up with have left the "truth". Out of the people that I knew from these experiences only one or two have remained "active" JWs. Out of my peers, only two of the brothers became elders, and one of them has since been DF'd. Some of the sisters pioneered out of school, but one by one, got married and drifted or moved away. Repressive religions, as the JWs, will always have a high rate of defecting youths.