Karissa - what a tragic situation. I'm so sad for you.
I'm new to this board, and many others have given some excellent advice. I couldn't help but notice, though, one omission that I simply must bring up ... go to the doctor NOW! This guy sounds like a pro, and your health could have been endangered by him. Go see your OB/GYN asap ... Also, I'd like to second the advice given earlier about exposing this guy to his congregational elders. His poor wife may be praying to get away from him, but without evidence of his infidelity, she's stuck; your package could be just the push she needs.
All the best, Karissa - keep checking in!
Hugs, DivaMom