by Veritas 68 Replies latest social relationships
Franklin J
Thank you for your input. The thing is that you stated that she asked for me to convert. That part isn't true. I have chosen this by free will. It would make it easier on her if I did, because her father will not give his blessing to anybody that isn't a Jehovah's Witness. She gets sad over this and I don't want to ever cause her pain so that's why I decided to do this on my own.
I am one married to a jw. As Simplesally said no i am not happy,they are in love with the watchtower not you. You will be in a life of pure missery. You make that step to marry ,and join the cult you have sold your soul, mind ,your own thoughts. Why do you think we need sites like this? just to chat? If you decide to convert to being a jw to be with a jw , i promise,you a life of pure hell. You came here to ask advise and it was given ,take the advise given while you can still move on.
Welcome to the board
Desi
Please Please Please think carefully and do nothing rash - I respect and agree that we do anything for people we love - bu IMHO that is a (or should be ) a blade that cuts both ways. Would the love of your life do anything you wanted - and that includes reading material they may not consider appropriate - and many other things. Take care and welcome
Welcome
Please listen carefully to what people have already said. She only knows "conditional love"....your marriage won't work, unless of course you really want to be a JW.
I don't think anyone on this board has a happy JW story for you. If you are looking for someone to tell you that becoming a JW is good idea - you should ask a diehard JW. I'm sure they have the skills to brainwash you too.
Read the Ray Franz book Crisis of Concience and then ask yourself if you want to join the cult. Visit the Silent Lambs website and ask yourself if you want to be associated with the organization. Your partner will not explore these issues with you and if you attempt to involve her in your search you may begin to see the control the org. has over her.
In my opinion it is a disgusting, abusive, mind-control cult that is based on a bunch of lies and distortions. You will have to sacrifice EVERTHYING in order to join. I imagine you think your love relationship is worth it - but I also doubt that you understand exactly what the sacrifice is that you will have to make.
Good luck to you. Please keep reading.
stillajwexelder
Yes, the love of my life would read something considered innapropriate if I asked her. She is willing to compromise with me on a few things that most jw's don't consider appropriate. One of the earlier replies to my post said something about no other sex other than missionary position. I spoke with her about that one time out of curiosity and she said that even though it's frowned upon, that for me she would do other things. She is very loyal to her faith but she also has a human side that keeps her just as loyal to me. Most jw's wouldn't even consider some of these things and I know that she would for me.
I'm not looking for someone to tell me it's a good idea. I really just wanted advice and I appreciate everyone who has given me some thus far.
HI VERITAS. WELCOME TO THIS FORUM.
WELL YOU HAVE GOTTEN A LOT OF VERY NEGATIVE ADVICE HERE. HAVE YOU NOT??
WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT ALL THIS, THAT THESE PEOPLE STATED??
COULD IT BE THAT THEY ARE EXAGGERATING AND NOT BEING TRUE TO YOU??
I WAS BORN INTO A JW FAMILY AND GREW UP IN THE RELIGION. I HELD THE POSITION OF ELDER FOR A FEW YEARS.
I ASSURE YOU, THAT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE READ HERE IS CORRECT AND IS TRUTHFUL.
UNLESS YOU ARE WILLING TO TURN A LARGE PART OF YOUR LIFE, OVER TO THE ELDERS IN THIS RELIGION. YOU WILL NEVER FIT IN OR BE ACCEPTED.
IF YOU DO TURN YOUR LIFE OVER TO THE RELIGION YOU WILL LIVE IN A MISERABLE MARRIAGE EITHER WAY YOU GO.
THE PHRASE, "RUN VERITAS RUN " SHOULD HOLD MEANING FOR YOU.
YOU MADE THE COMMENT THAT, "SHE WOULD DO THINGS THEY FROWN ON TO PLEASE YOU" DO YOU RECOGNIZE THE COGNITIVE DISONANCE THAT WILL CREATE IN HER MIND?
TALK ABOUT BEING MISERABLE. IF SHE DOES THIS TYPE OF LIFE STYLE, SHE WILL BE VERY MISERABLE AND CONFUSED AND FILLED WITH GUILT AND SELF LOATHING.
IN THE MIND OF THE ELDERS AND MAYBE IN HER MIND, YOU WILL BE THE CAUSE OF THIS CONDITION.
IS THAT THE KIND OF MARRIAGE YOU WANT?
Outoftheorg
I was an active JW when I met my boyfriend. He said "I would become a JW for you" and I said "I don't want you to do that -- you would be miserable". And I think that was a turning point for me. If he would have converted he would have been miserable and I did not want that. I left the JWs and for the first time in my life I can actually say I am happy.
I realize you may have a different personality or mind set, but you should seriously consider the advice you receive from this board.
Best of luck to you.
Purza
