What I think about it is that somehow it is true ... I've seen this myself in many ways and occasions ... women do use a double language (not everybody and less now than before why ? Because they feel more confidente and have the right to talk straight) I mean we only got the right to vote in last century ... were not even considered that we had a soul a bit before this precedent century!Well I think it is because women (since maybe always) have been somehow controled by men (Men was considered as superior and the leader in the house and in the society) so it was probably a strategy to get what they want. Now that we know that we're not gonna get slaped because we want lets say for instance : some fresh air, or we want more respect () we don't need that kind of thing anymore. Women who still use it, are just following there rowmodel, they have been raised in this context and way of acting (They didn't realised yet that it's over - they can be as straight as men)
FBF, that was awesomely put! Of course, (Sunny glances deprecatingly sideways at LT) there are ALWAYS exceptions. And, I add this from my own marital experience: you've tried many many times to communicate with your mate, and they just don't get it, so, after awhile, even tho you still are having all these normal, emotional reactions for sadness and hurt and repressed feelings, you just don't want to even get into it anymore, cuz it leads nowhere.......so you say to his question "what's wrong?"........"nothing". Been there, done that. Didn't want to be dishonest, just knew it wasn't going to be resolved by talking about it. So, we ended up divorced in the end, and now, I've taken my own power as a woman and I make darn sure the guys I get involved with are willing to be emotionally available to me, like I need and want and try to be to them. This is a GREAT thread.......I think that both the sexes are actually learning something about each other on it!!! LOL! (Gives Ross a cyber-hug and a smooch on the cheek and removes his foot from his mouth for him!!)