A womans tears (page 4)

Magick

I?ve cried so many tears?I could have filled a bathtub and drowned myself several times over.

I am a self-proclaimed expert on tears.

Each drop of salty water that fell on my pillow was an emotion?a moment in my life that I couldn?t fix?a moment of helplessness.

Tears are just my soul?s way of bleeding when stabbed.

Although I have cried millions of tears not one of them was used in manipulation.

?ok, maybe a couple?

when I was little and wanted that tiny little doll that fit in the palm of my hand?but, that too was helplessness.

Some people are born with extra-sensitivity?too much emotion that our limited body cannot contain it all?so that it spills over?and out through our eyes.

If I cry?

I am just trying to cope?.adjust.

don?t be angry with me?don?t leave me.

don?t fix me or reason with me.

I can?t expect you to understand
what it?s like to be inside of me

Just be patient?wait.

Til I level out my pain, hurt, emotion, love?

Maverick

Wow! I am impressed by the candor and clarity of all your comments, Thank you!

My lady friend has only cried twice in all the time I've known her. I said something that hurt her. There was no malice in the comment, but she felt I was being insensitive. I was guilty of not appreciating how strongly she felt about the issue at hand. She is a very guarded person and is not demonstrative in her manner. I find her a very hard read. She will TELL me she feels this way or that but does so with little emotion. I tend to be very passionate and animated in my expressions, you know how strongly I feel by my tone and manner. None of that works in reading her feelings. I am always underestimating her feelings on things because of this miscommunication.

If I tried to hug her she would smack the crap out of me.

As for crying, I cry at movies, pet funerals, weddings, and any act of ultra-kindness, and I don't give a rats behind who sees me. Now if I get injured, I work at not crying in front of people. ...See my tread on cursing! Mav

LittleToe

Sunny:

Damned if we do, damned if we don't!!! And you guys think us women are hard to understand??? LOL!

Ermmm, no.
In our case when we say we need space we mean it!!!

I guess the best route to take is to try giving a hug if you instinctively think we need it.
If we don't need it, you'll soon be told, so just back away from the unexploded bomb and everything will eventually be ooookay!

Do you see the difference here?
We don't usually say the opposite of what we mean
Nothing to interpret, nothing to understand.

This is probably why us guys find it so confusing. Now if only we'd been taught in kindergarten that we should shut up and hug (which we were doing at the time, but taught the opposite of), then maybe things would go easier for us demented guys!
LOL

Country Girl

I come from a long list of crybabies on both sides. At both of my weddings, my side of the building was turned into a swimming pool by my relatives, both male and female. Of course, one side is Greeks, and they cry over everything with no compunction. No one views it as weak at all. Like Magick says, I was born to be ultra-sensitive and I cry at happy endings, at sad endings, telephone company commercials, weddings, funerals, the Star Spangled banner. You name it, I cry over it. So do both of my parents and siblings. Even brothers. But that's okay. My tears are honest, always. I sob when I am frustrated, mostly. My husband just hugs me, whether I be bawling like a baby or just merely having those tears run down my face. He knows better than to try to solve it.. because I just want to let all that pressure out and will solve it myself.

When I am really angry, though, I cry *and* rip a new one at the same time, though that is not too often. When I am that angry I've been pushed too far and tears are only the least of it. Tears are usually not signs of weakness, but signs of great courage.

Country Girl

jwbot

Well, I am the unemotional sort. It has been my fiance, Mike to help me express my emotions.

Of course...I have always been the type to bottle things up then explode in a crying fit of hiccups and hyperventalating (I do this almost every time I cry hard but have not done since I stopped being a witness).

Mike and I will once in a while have a cry fest in each others arms because of stress or because we are so happy to be together. He is a very sensitive person, and it has been ME with the problem of "freezing up". When that happens, I now know to give him hugs and support and that a solutions does not need to be reached right away.

ballistic

I haven't cried for many years. You can get knocked down so many times, generally in relationships, it can either make you strong, or a cold shell of a man, depending on your point of view. It doesn't mean I am a man without emotion, I can well up hearing something on the news, seeing other people suffer. But I can suffer myself and I've seen it all before.

A womans tears

SheilaM

Magick

Maverick

LittleToe

Country Girl

jwbot

ballistic

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