Yes you are correct, that is exactly what happens.
Will your wife visit this forum or talk to an ex jw who knows what goes on??
My getting df'd is an example of what often happens.
I was married, had two children still at home 5 and 8 yrs old.
I and my wife were considered "irregular" and looked down on by the elders.
Due to molestations when she was a child and emotional problems, she became suicidal.
I got her to see a therapist and she wanted to involve the elders and I did not. She took her problems to the elders and they began to interfere in our life and caused more confusion. It seemed in their eyes, that I was the problem since I, the family head, ex elder was not regular in service .
It became obvious to me that they were a hinderance and not a help. I became angry and told the elders what I thought of them and their attitude towards me.
I had not commited a sin as sins are described in the bible in any way.
I was a frightened man, seeing my wife disintegrate and seeking help and trying to keep the marriage and family intact. On top of this I had these arrogant, punitive minded men, coming between me and my wife.
As a last resort I asked the elders for help. They sat there listened to me and said nothing.
No offers of help, no comments, just stared at me and said nothing. I got the message and got up and left.
On top of all this my family had just gone through finding that one of my daughters had been molested by her uncle elder and the wbts telling the elders to drop the case and leave him in his position as an elder.
I was confused, frightened, watching my family, my wife, my marriage MY WORLD, disintegrating before my eyes.
For the first and only time in my life, depression set in and I considered suicide.
I needed help and found it in a "worldly psychiatrist" not in "Gods - only - organization".
What did I receive from Gods only organization? I was not helped, I was punished in the cruelest of ways. I was df'd for fits of rage.
For this, none of my 3 siblings or their children or my so called friends will speak to me. some of my children treat me coldly, some of them hate the wbts, another division. My wife and I are divorced and she is a physical and emotional disaster.
I am remarried and share the feelings of freedom and an intense hatred for the wvbts. Not a good thing for ones physical and mental health.
Outoftheorg
