Scott:
I was taken aback however when people who easily switched on the charm for her in her original posts, were just as quick to switch them off again once she'd made her choice. This happens so many times. That doesn't strike me as a true friend as you say, more a fairweather kind that still lives in that "black and white" mentality.
Talk about the black kettle!
It's as simple as "make up your mind."
Meaning, simply and directly: your mind.