Am I right about the WT being wrong? (page 2)

Midget-Sasquatch

Hi FreedomFrog,

I personally think that the hardest thing about leaving jws is how to live with alot of the uncertainty. Consider: Just a couple of things they "do have right" is enough to trigger those feelings, even though you realize alot of their errors.

I'd ask myself : Are my second thoughts, this impulse to maybe turn back, really just a desire to regain some of the certainty? If so then by addressing that the "deprogramming" as you put it should go a bit more smoothly.

Like you I grew up in the JWs. What really will help quell any of those feelings is to learn just how little the higher ups care about the rank and file. Their motives speak volumes.

AlmostAtheist

Have you talked to your husband about it? After all, he's your spiritual head.

Dave of the "FreedomFrog's Husband" class

Bryan

Frog:

Sometimes I still get that nagging voice in the back of my head telling me that I just left the only "right" religion.

Yes, this is the deprogram process. It took me close to 5 years to get that "voice" (Devil) out of my head.

I know it's tough and makes you doubt yourself, but the longer you don't take in the jw propaganda, the clearer your head will become.

Keep up the good fight!

Bryan

Have You Seen My mother

cruzanheart

Oh, yes, FF, what you're feeling is perfectly natural! We have all gone through it or are going through it still. IT WILL GO AWAY. I promise. It takes time but slowly you will feel a lessening of anxiety and tension and one day you will have the delicious feeling of freedom: freedom to feel, think, and believe anything you want.

It's WONDERFUL!!!

Nina

FreedomFrog

if the Wt is inspired by God ,even though it is run by men ,how can it be so wrong so often and ruine so many lives if their God is so loving .

I agree kls...this was one of many reasons why I started questioning. Then to be scolded for even asking such questions forced me into deeper research.

I have been searching to find what is what out there. Dave is more of the non believing in any gods. I'm not so sure. I want to believe...and I think I believe that there is a god. But it's like the saying goes..."fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me". Well, I'm not going to allow myself to fall into the "fool me twice" situation.

What may accelerate the process is studying in detail the cult's doctrines and falsehoods to really erradicate those little doubts that keep nagging the mind.

Neo, I'm working on that.

Right now I've got a book that I'm reading called "Spiritual Abuse", and it's amazing how this Author (which has never been a dub) hit it right on the head on the controlling part. I KNOW that I made the right decision, it's just that sometimes I still get this brief doubt that I was wrong.

I have kids and I don't think that I would have ever looked back if it wasn't from them. But that little glimmer of doubt that pops up now and again will sometimes give me a startle and make me feel that I've condemned them to destruction (which I KNOW that's not the case).

Like I said before. I know that I made the right decision. I know that the borg is totally off base...but from being a dub for so long, it's almost like a bad habit. I have NO desire to go back to the controlling group. Just an occasional doubt that comes up.

It's good to know that this is a normal reaction and that I'm not alone in having these feelings.

FF

the_classicist

That feeling in which you wonder "What if they were right?" As stated, we all get it, if you have your bible handy, turn to Luke 21:8, it really helps to keep that in mind.

CeriseRose

I gave myself a gift when I left, and that was the permission to think.

I read Interview with a Vampire because I could. (Not really my style of book, but hey, you only live once!)

I also am taking a Philosophy class. The absolutely incredible thing about that is, you learn to twist your brain into a knot, undo it and redo it thinking of different ways to approach ethics, and morals in light of current events. I hated it when I started (I mean, it was work!). But you know what's really cool? I can look at anything now, after just a few sections of an introductory class, and *think* about it. I can assess it critically and make up my mind using all the data I can get my hands on.

It's a fabulous feeling.

kls

FF sometimes people have to ask over and over again for the reasons they left the cult and to have people post there thoughts and reasons and a reminder of what the WT really is ,that you can't get from any book. Don't ever feel bad for asking for proof if you ever have any doubts because it could take 20 years before that nagging voice finally shut's the hell up.

FreedomFrog

What really will help quell any of those feelings is to learn just how little the higher ups care about the rank and file. Their motives speak volumes.

Midget...that's a good suggestion. I've studied all their doctrines and errors and such...maybe my next task should be studying more on the men making all these rules.

FF

GetBusyLiving

I've been disassociated for 6 months now, and things gradually get better and better every day. When I first left I was very shaken up about things but I knew I was doing the right thing. I just try to be as good of a person as I can and leave the rest up to the unknown. I'm not afraid to question anything anymore and that's a great feeling.

GBL

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