I'm not responsible enough to have children. I'm the type who likes to get up and go at the drop of a hat, and I don't need anything like that weighing me down.
It's not that I don't like kids...as long as they're someone else's.
How many of you are childfree by choice?
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chrissy
Child free by choice here. For most of the reasons already listed. Also, it is possible I may lack some maternal instincts. Never once looked at a little baby and thought...oooh, now I want one of those. Thankfully hubby feels the same way.
One of my friends got knocked up again...silly girl. This time she is having a girl. She and her husband asked me to help pick out the name, adding they had to like it as a condition. That was two months ago...I haven’t called her back since. It is too intimidating. That alone is too much responsibility!
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Soledad
I dont want kids. When I get insurance I'm getting sterilized
F*ck Dr Laura.
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Qcmbr
I want 10 but I'll settle for 6. Before I got married my life felt very one dimensional, when I got married it changed the way I felt and think and the same happened when we had our first baby. I feel more fulfilled and rounded now and I wouldn't want to go back. My family brings me the most happiness - that said there is a good arguement for making sure you can meet your commitment to your children before you have them.
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rebel8
Thanks for all the replies.
I am the middle child in a family of six, and had alot of responsibility with my younger bro and sis.
See, I had a lot of responsibility for my younger sibs. My mother was a SAHM but I don't know what the hell she was doing all day. She put a lot of responsibility on me when I was way too young and immature to handle it. I now really believe that was neglectful of her. Perhaps that's another reason I don't care to have kids. All I think of when I look at people's kids is how much work and patience they require, and how happy I am to be free of it. They're fun to play with but I don't want them around me more than a few hours.
It must be awful for those who have biological clocks to not be in a position to have kids if they want to. I can't imagine that. I recently passed the safe age to have kids and had a gyn procedure too. The gyn said before she did it, "You realize you will not be able to get pregnant if I do this." She asked if I still wanted her to proceed. I said, "Absolutely," without feeling even a twinge of regret. I actually felt relief--more assurance there won't be any surprise pregnancies.
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RichieRich
I don't want any...
Not now anyway....
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LittleToe
I love kids and am well aware of the responsibilities of raising them. It seems a shame not to pass on something for the human genepool, but knowing my luck it'd be the code that allowed all four of my grandparents to be struck by the idiot-stick and join a cult.
Q:
There would be another difference between the Mormons and JWs for ya.
We were actively encouraged not to have kids, as the system was so close. -
kittyeatzjdubs
matt and i had this discussion when we knew that we were going to be together for the long haul. he doesn't want kids, but if i were to get pregnant, he would love the baby and care for it as if we had planned it. i wouldn't mind having one child, but i'm the kind of person that feels that if something is meant to happen, then it will happen...you can't make it happen or stop it from happening. i'm not going to actually try to get pregnant. i'm just going to keep taking my pill for now and if the fates feel that i should get preggers...then bring it on!!!!
luv, jojo
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Gill
Scully - Wow! You've got the perfect way of putting things. If only someone had said that to me twenty years ago, lets spend a quarter of a million on a totally selfish individual who shares our genetic material !
I have five kids and though I love them, every day I wonder 'what the hell am I doing here! They're doing my head in!'
At the moment I have four out of five home very poorly. I'm considering nipping down to the shops to buy a bottle of sherry and then going to hide in the kitchen cupboard, just me and my sherry bottle, and I'm not kidding you either!
Rebel8- I applaud you, am jealous of you and wish you a long and prosperous, and PEACEFUL life!
Gill
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Crumpet
I am definitely child free by choice. It winds me up when my bf says that we have to go to boring dinner parties at his friends's houses rather than go outr clubbing because they have children and can;t get baby sitters very easily. I would just sooner not be friends at all - its not my fault they chose to breed! Of course we have lots of banter/arguments along these lines. I just don't see why I should suffer because someone else decided to have kids. I almost see it as an end to your own personal life and an admission of failure, but yes I am a very tortured individual! hehehe
I've said that I'll have kids in my 40's if it doesn't look like the pension situation is going to improve.