How many of you are childfree by choice? (page 3)

jaredg

i'm child free by choice. i'm even thinking of getting my tubes tied.

RichieRich

Jared- you should be ashamed of yourself!

whyamihere

Well Crumpet....Good for you and your choice! I am happy you are happy with that choice.

Yeah I can't get baby sitters that easily and I have to have something at home with my children. If one of my friends felt the same as you did and I found out about it. I would not be friends with them. I would say good riddance because why should I be bashed horribly on having children. I may not go clubbing as much I used to but I grew up. When my kids get older it will become more easier for my husband and I on going out and having fun with couples not just clubbing but more adult and mature get together.

I applaud your choice in not having children..... those who feel like you shouldn't have them.

Everyone is different in the way they think of feel...but they shouldn't be put down or bashed because of a life choice.

Brooke

mapleaf18

Speaking from experience, i would have to say children are pretty much over rated. the bundle o' joy:aggrevation/huge expense ratio is way out of kilter. ESPECIALLY if you have a blended family/divorce situation on your hands.

It was different when we were all living on the farm and kids were viewed as helpful, cheery auxiliary farm hands.

I would NEVER criticize anyone for not having children; i think it's the smart move.

IP_SEC

I am childfree by choice, but now I'm kinda wishing I had a kid. I would teach him/her so much stuff.

LittleToe

Why:

I may not go clubbing as much I used to but I grew up.

Was the clubbing thing an active choice, or brought on by circumstance?

Bumble Bee

You don't know what kids are like until you have them. You can say you baby sit them and you are a great aunt or uncle. Still you have no idea. Having a life grow inside you and bring it into this world and having that love that bond is not the same. I was told you don't know what love is like until you have a child. In my case I know what love is like after having Lily and Jack. It is a deeper love than you have with anyone else.

I sincerely hope you are wrong on this whyamihere. My biological mother died when I was two years old. A year later my father remarried. My "step" mother is the only mother I have ever known. The younger brother and sister I referred to are technically my half brother and sister (although I am much closer to them than my full brothers and sister). My "step" mother views me as her daughter, and never ever made me to feel any less her child than the two she gave birth to, and always reasurred me that she loved me and considered me her daughter. She did not have to give birth to me to feel that love and bond. There is a very strong bond between the two of us, and I can't imagine that there would be any difference if she gave birth to me. (In fact I think I don't take her for granted like my younger siblings, and certainly have more respect for her at times.)

BB

rebel8

I just don't see why I should suffer because someone else decided to have kids.

I can understand that on some level. OTOH, I think some of those changes happen simply because time marches on and people/relationships are ever-changing by their nature.

LittleToe

Crumpet:
Eee, lass, you've got a funny way of looking at things

Crumpet

Brooke

If one of my friends felt the same as you did and I found out about it. I would not be friends with them.

I must just quickly add that my rather angry attitude does not come through resentment of people who have had children necessarily - so much as resentment that my other half is constantly trying to make me go to houses of strangers (to me) to socialise because they can't come out they've got kids. These tend to be people from his work. Should an existing, long established friend of mine decide to have a baby then I'd welcome her decision and be very supportive.

No offence to you and your children or anyone else - I expect they bring you much joy and sometimes I regret my cold hard black grape of a heart! Perhaps the day will yet come when I don't look at a baby and feel slightly nauseous. Plus I do have a part time 9 year old - so I'm not quite as bad as the child catcher in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

How many of you are childfree by choice?

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