by gringojj 126 Replies latest jw friends
I am reading a book right now that discusses how people find fulfillment in their daily lives. For an exiting JW, finding out they were lied to is only the first step. The mild, spiralling depression you and your wife are feeling are symptoms of a vague lack of direction. You need new dreams to replace the old. So that you don't keep circling back to the society and all it's failures.
You might enjoy this book as much as I did. FLOW, by Mihaly (something unpronounceable).
Gringojj--keep the anti-witnessing work up with your wife before she gets any more involved. Hopefully since she was never baptised, her mother won't shun her. I wish you the best and glad your wife at least listens to your information.
Can you get her to read the JWD? I belive it would give her some comfort to know she is not alone in her situation. In a crazy situation it is good for ones mentalhealth to see and be reminded that, the situation is the problem, not them.
She does read jwd and she is reading these replies. it gives her alot to identify with. She has never been baptised so her mother wont shun her totally, but i know from her other sisters that if she isnt "progressing in the truth" ,barf, her mother wont really talk to her. I keep up the anti-witnessing dont worry about that. I think she really wants an answer and wants to believe something 100 percent. She would love for me to find something that will make her say they are wrong but i think first she has to figure out what to do when that happens. I dont know its very confusing but slowly but surely i think she is seeing the light.
gringojj ... you mentioned earlier that your wife will read all these posts so I will address her ...
Dear Mrs gringojj,
Hope you are feeling well in your late days of pregnancy. With two small children now, you will be a very busy lady in a month or so. This is a hard time to consider all the different options you have before you right now. Why not give youself a break and enjoy this precious time without trying to make any major decisions. The lady studying with you should be made aware that it isn't a good time for you to consentrate on much more than your own personal needs just now.
When the time is right for you ... you will make the decision that is best for you. Just try to recall scriptures and pray for direction. I know you will decide what is best ... take care ... and I'm hoping for a strong, healthy baby for you.
afin ... if you would like to, I would be happy to converse with you via email.
The worst thing about being a JW especially if you have children is if anything happens and one of them need blood transfusion to save their life , she would be faced with following the WTS policy or realizing that it is just baloney that God wants us to sacrifice our beloved children to the WTBTS. The very fact they disfellowship for witnesses trying to save the lives of their loved ones is sickening. God has nothing todo with this believe, it is just so much nonsense.
Hope she can get shed of the fear and stop studying and quit meetings. They are not interested in her anymore than adding one more convert to the ranks, that is all. And she knows that.
Balsam
Dear A friend in need, I am glad that you can see that its just too much right now. Can you believe when I told my study partner that she made me feel guilty about not going to meetings all she could say was I am sorry you feel that way. She couldnt say she was sorry for making me feel that way. She sent me a poem about how I was going to be destroyed at armageddon. She kept telling me I was slacking. So much for love. I am so glad that there are people like you, my husband, and all the ex-jws here on this board who can see the WTS for who they really are. Thanks for being a friend.
She sent me a poem about how I was going to be destroyed at armageddon.
wtf!
Was that supposed to give you a warm and fuzzy feeling about attending meetings at the hall? What the hell was she thinking? Oh wait...she wasnt thinking...my bad. That showed a total lack of consideration for you and your condition MrsG, you dont need a person like that in your life.
Josie
Heres the poem she sent----- The time is short What will I do? I'll study my Watchtower, My Kingdom Ministry, too. Prepare for the book study, Read all the scriptures. Make some notations, Even study the pictures! Then suddenly you're zealous, And also quite nervous, And remember how often, You neglected the service. Where is my Bible? Where are my books? Give me my bag, I forgot how it looks! And, oh, so important, Since there's only one day, I must not forget, To incessantly pray. Meetings!! Meetings!! That's where I must go. Forget about play, It's not important, you know. Jehovah's Day is now here, And it did not delay. I wasted my time Much work and much play. His day is now here. He sits on His throne, In righteousness judges, To uprightness prone. How often I told you, The Kingdom to seek, And always be steadfast, Thus avoid getting weak. So here is your judgment, With regret I do say, Your record is written, and this is my Day. Your Bible is dusty, Your recreation was first, For spiritual knowledge, You seldom would thirst. You neglected your service, And meetings forsook, Your prayers were not often, You're not in my book!!!
And heres what she also gave my wife- notice the part about witnesses crossing crocodile infested rivers. We both laughed at that.
