My wifes struggle (page 6)

Scully

That poem is pathetic. Scare tactics and terrorism set to verse. Disgusting.

95stormfront

Before my wife and i got married, she gave my wife this story about a jw girl who married a worldly guy. By the end of the story the girl had HIV, a baby, had been beaten by her husband, and he left her for another woman.

This is the standard anecdotal tripe from every JW's mouth.

"if you marry a worldly, you'll have nothing but misfortune!!!!"......you get so tired of hearing it after awhile.

Just like your "study partner" the only time a JW wanted to have anything to do with me was when I was studying with them. After I was baptised and a couple of chapters into another book, the elder I was studying passed me off to a brother who'd just been re-instated. I guess after he got another notchin his belt of a baptismal candidate, he had no other use for me.

a friend in need

Sorry so many of you see that poem as 'scare tactics'. If I had read it some years ago, it could have saved me a lot of grief. Except for the baby and AIDS part, it could have been a mirror of my past. Now that I'm older and much wiser, and have returned to my beliefs, I can appreciate the poem as a way of warning young ones to seek a marriage partner carefully. It is a mistake that can have lifelong, damaging effects ... afin.

gringojj

At least my wife didnt believe that poem when she got it. I told her to look at her own family. Her parents were both dubs. Her dad cheated on her mom after 15 or so years of marriage and there family is a mess right now 10 yrs later. So it doesnt matter what religion you marry its who you marry.

love2Bworldly

"Before my wife and i got married, she gave my wife this story about a jw girl who married a worldly guy. By the end of the story the girl had HIV, a baby, had been beaten by her husband, and he left her for another woman. "

After all the things I have learned on the Internet, the so called 'worldly guy's behavior is similar to and/or better behavior than a lot of active JW men!

mrsjones5

Sorry so many of you see that poem as 'scare tactics'. If I had read it some years ago, it could have saved me a lot of grief. Except for the baby and AIDS part, it could have been a mirror of my past. Now that I'm older and much wiser, and have returned to my beliefs, I can appreciate the poem as a way of warning young ones to seek a marriage partner carefully. It is a mistake that can have lifelong, damaging effects ... afin.

Indeed? Sounds like a personal problem. Sorry Afin, the above poems are pieces of crap.

Josie

Scully

afin:

If I had read it some years ago, it could have saved me a lot of grief. Except for the baby and AIDS part, it could have been a mirror of my past. Now that I'm older and much wiser, and have returned to my beliefs, I can appreciate the poem as a way of warning young ones to seek a marriage partner carefully.

I seriously doubt that a cheesy piece of poetry would have stopped you from marrying the person you ended up marrying. It wouldn't have stopped me, and I was marrying a JW, someone I thought would have walked through Armageddon by my side. As it turns out, he wasn't who I thought he was either.

Just because you marry a JW doesn't guarantee that you will have a good marriage mate. I knew JWs who mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically abused their respective wives. They did so because JW women are so conditioned to respect the "headship" of their husbands and they could get away with it.

Marriage, while it can be a great thing when two people treat each other with love and respect, is a gamble even at the best of times, with the best of intentions on both sides. Just because someone belongs to a particular religious group does not make them a better candidate for marriage; you should know better than to generalize... especially here.

gringojj

I can appreciate the poem as a way of warning young ones to seek a marriage partner carefully

AFIN thats fine if you can appreciate the poem for that. But thats not what the writers want you to get from it. If they wanted to warn someone about how to carefully pick a marriage partner then they dont need all the stuff about abuse, hiv, pregnancy, etc.and attribute them to worldly men only. If every JW couple that got married never had any of these problems and if every jw who married a worldly person had these problems then this poem would be appropriate. We all know this is very far from the truth. There is a simple test to establish someones reading level of comprehension. I challenge you AFIN to let any person with a jr high education to read this poem and then ask them what is the author trying to tell you. The results will speak for themselves. Your pleas for understanding are pathetic.

a friend in need

Scully ... a marriage candidate from a certain religious group is absolutely no guarantee of a successful marriage. I didn't say it was. However, a marriage candidate from ones same religion gives a couple better odds of a success. Jew with Jew ... Catholic with Catholic etc. Yours was not a success and many are not but it is one way to build a stronger relationship. The more similarities a couple has, the better ... religion being one. And I may generalize from time to time .. even here.

a friend in need

gringojj ... please quote my pathetic pleas for understanding. Looking forward to this!

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