CAN MEN AND WOMEN JUST BE "FRIENDS"?

by Mary 119 Replies latest jw friends

  • whyamihere
    whyamihere
    Like I said, get the sex out of the way up front!




    Very True...really can't ruin anything. Plus, if you do you won't lose anything.



    You could always make the friendship..... Screw Pals!



    Brooke

  • hopelesslystained
    hopelesslystained

    Have sex and still "just be friends" was my motto after leaving the so called truth and an abusive marriage. Worked well for me. Of note, although now married and exclusive, the past 'friends' still remain as simply just friends.

  • undercover
    undercover
    Screw Pals!

    Is that your motto?

  • daystar
    daystar
    Have sex and still "just be friends" was my motto

    I really think sometimes that that would be the best way to go, though my first comment was more tongue in cheek. One of my very best friends today is female, and I can tell a distinct positive difference in our friendship after we finally got around to the wild monkey sex.

    Of course, some, if not most, women won't share this opinion about this, but I swear it's the best way. You know, like, after you've been friends for a while have a discussion. "Ok, Sally, we've been friends for a while, but the only way we're going to become any closer is if we get the sex thing out of the way. Then we're not concerned about being 'proper' on the off-chance we might hook up down the road. We will afterwards be able to be more completely honest with each other and thus closer friends." I know, I know, most women will brush it off as being just an attempt to get some, but when the girl declines and the guy says "no sweat" and remains friends, she might tend to reconsider.

    I swear it works.

  • katiekitten
    katiekitten

    Yes of course!

    ...

    ....

    But only if one of them is REAL ugly.

  • daystar
    daystar
    Very True...really can't ruin anything. Plus, if you do you won't loose anything.

    You could always make the friendship..... Screw Pals!

    Brooke, you're just good people.

  • love2Bworldly
    love2Bworldly

    According to some of you posters, I must be "Hot" then. I have tried being just friends with several men over the years and they were pretty much driven by their lower appendages--even after repeated conversations about just being 'friends'.

  • MerryMagdalene
    MerryMagdalene

    Hmmm...I think LT brings up an interesting consideration with the bi-sexuality remark...

    Realistically speaking, we're probably not attracted to every single person within the gender group(s) to which we are sexually drawn, just as we're probably not inclined to become friends with every person we meet of either gender.

    So it seems to me that we can be "just friends" with someone who belongs to the gender(s) to which we are sexually attracted *if we were not sexually attracted to that specific person to begin with, or *if a sexual attraction is present or develops, we make a definite choice not to act on it and do not place ourselves in situations where we might be more inclined to give in and do something that is more than just "friendly".

    And yes, apparently, another option is to have sex with your "just friends" and keep it casual.

    ~Merry

  • RichieRich
    RichieRich
    I really think sometimes that that would be the best way to go, though my first comment was more tongue in cheek. One of my very best friends today is female, and I can tell a distinct positive difference in our friendship after we finally got around to the wild monkey sex.

    Of course, some, if not most, women won't share this opinion about this, but I swear it's the best way. You know, like, after you've been friends for a while have a discussion. "Ok, Sally, we've been friends for a while, but the only way we're going to become any closer is if we get the sex thing out of the way. Then we're not concerned about being 'proper' on the off-chance we might hook up down the road. We will afterwards be able to be more completely honest with each other and thus closer friends." I know, I know, most women will brush it off as being just an attempt to get some, but when the girl declines and the guy says "no sweat" and remains friends, she might tend to reconsider.

    I swear it works.

    Even though its true... you shouldn't say things like this... you're confusing the hell out of tsunami_rid3r...

  • trevor
    trevor

    MerryMagdalene

    Just when I had got it all worked out - you come along and complicate things - but then you are a woman.

    I still have so much to learn!

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