CAN MEN AND WOMEN JUST BE "FRIENDS"? (page 9)

rocketman

No.

Okay, maybe.

But for me, there's two kinds of female friends. 1) The ones I'm attracted to and 2) The ones I'm not attracted to. Now, which ones do I try to actually spend time with? You guessed it. Which really means that, on some level, I want them to be more than just friends, even if the opportunity is not there or it's just not the right thing to do. But there is a boundary that for whatever reason(s) cannot be crossed. So far, I've always stayed on the "right" side of that boundary...dammit.

Carol

I'm glad for you and I think it's wonderful.....but again I will suggest that your language leaves a great deal to be desired when presented on an open board! But then again I guess it's just the old "generation gap" raising it's head!

unbeliever

Mary you and I are in similar situations. Well the guy I have fallen for is not married and has no GF currently thank god but still I am pretty sure he views me as a little sister and I don't want to ruin our friendship. We have been friends for years and I never looked at him in a romantic way until recently. He is the perfect guy for me and he has been in front of me this whole time. Until a few months ago I looked at him as a brother/best friend and now all I do is fantasize about having sex with him. I feel your pain.

damselfly

** sensitive, tender and caring lover **: I also know that sometimes a woman likes it rough.

Now I'm sorry I called your beotch inflatable.

Women like it better when men stand up for themselves. There is nothing more infuriating ( imo ) then someone who lets himself be used.

Damselfly

Carol

My previous post should have been addressed to elsewhere. My brother logged into this site for the first time tonight as a guest.....he is able to visit all but the members discussion site........he made a comment to me about how some of the threads seem to go downhill when it comes to language... and while I am a proponent of free speech....I think we need to keep in mind where the threads are started and who will be looking at them!

prophecor

You give your hand to me
And then you say, "Hello."
And I can hardly speak,
My heart is beating so. And anyone can tell
You think you know me well.
Well, you don't know me.
(no you don't know me) No you don't know the one
Who dreams of you at night;
And longs to kiss your lips
And longs to hold you tight Oh I'm just a friend.
That's all I've ever been.
Cause you don't know me.
(no you don't know me) For I never knew the art of making love,
Though my heart aches with love for you.
Afraid and shy, I let my chance go by.
A chance that you might love me too.
(love me too) You give your hand to me,
And then you say, "Goodbye."
I watched you walk away,
Beside the lucky guy Oh, you'll never ever know
The one who loved you so.
Well, you don't know me (For I never knew the art of making love, )
(Though my heart aches with love for you. )
Afraid and shy, I let my chance go by.
A chance that you might love me too.
(love me too) Oh, you give your hand to me,
And then you say, "Goodbye."
I watched you walk away,
Beside the lucky guy Oh, you'll never ever know
The one who loved you so.
Well, you don't know me
(you don't love me, you don't know me)

freedom96

Possible? Yes.

Tough? Oh yeah.

jgnat

Holy raging hormones you guys! It's not so tough when you get old and ugly. Ask Mouthy. I bet she has LOTS of friends of both genders.

Satanus

Unbeliever

Since you are such close friends, wouldn't it be possible to subtly check out the possibility without losing the friendship? I know that when i was a jw, a few times worldly girls did something like that and even though i didn't go for it, it didn't change things much. Once a girl that i was in an adult class w said to me, 'if a girl came onto you, what would you do?' I told her that i would explain my beliefs, or something like that, and that was the end of it. 'Course, your mileage could vary.

S

zagor

Well it all depends on level of emotional involvement (on both sides), spiritual connection (and I don’t mean religious type of connection but tacit sort of a connection on another level, i.e. you simply connect or click if you like) and level of adventurous curiosity (which is something most people don’t have when it comes to real one on one contact, most would rather hide than explore their inner depths with someone else). So, all three of these have to be present before two would go beyond of being only friends.

On the other hand sexual relationship alone doesn’t have to mean there are feeling involved either. Some people can just be bonk-buddies and friend at the same time. It is not everybody’s cup of tea but we are all different and see things from different angles.

So can men and women just be friends? Depends who you ask.

CAN MEN AND WOMEN JUST BE "FRIENDS"?

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