Terry, dearheart, I'm not supporting the "it's someone elses fault I'm <insert problem here>". I beleive everyone has the responsibility to overcome their upbringing and move forward no matter who they are. For some it is far easier said than done.
Everyone has a choice once they realize they have a choice and are old enough and wise enought to excercise their choice. Children have no choice as to who they are born to, and how they are raised. Being adopted by and raised and baptized at 14 as a JW was actually beyond my choices as a child. Yes, including baptism. Once I had a choice in the matter, I exercised it. Unfortunately there are a (very) few leftovers that after almost 40 years OUT that still affect me today.
When I was in 6th - 8th grade I was beat up regularly by blacks - boys and girls - because I was white, and I was fat, and it was during the late 60's, and when I tried to feebly fight back, I was ganged up on. Believe it or not I understood what the situation was: I was being targeted as the source for so-and-so's woes because of the times, AND each of those violent individuals were just that: individuals responsible for their actions. Unfortunately, as a minor, I was unable to get away from the situation, and my parents blamed it on JW persecution and to turn the other cheek. I wanted to change schools and get away from the violence. Most of THOSE children who were violent had 2-parent homes!
But I also saw the source of their angst... their parents. Their parents parents. The Black Revolution. It was a huge issue that came out of centuries of slavery and racial oppression, and attitudes being passed on from one generation to another. (Not dissimilar in other ethnical/cultural/racial/socio-economically oppressed groups.) I hope you dont' say it didn't exist at a group/racial level because I experienced it AND I am a better person for having experienced it! Part of the outcome is I have a better understanding for ethnic/cultural/economic predudices and the huge effort it takes to overcome that kind of background. And because I was oppressed, religiously and racially, and I have overcome it, I have been looked on in a different light from those who would have otherwise been predudiced by my white skin.
I have few predudices today. I have them, I'm human. I am also smart enough to take each INDIVIDUAL as they present themselves, no matter what they look like or where they come from. As an adult, I've actually had more work-ethic difficulties from a different cultural/ethnical/racial/religious background, but I'm not going to go into that here, nor elsewhere because it's personal.