It just seems that this wasn't the site for you, gentlesoul; ex-JWs are usually the last people who need more people coming to 'teach' them. This type of site is just the type of thing an ex & current JW needs; if posters here aren't brutally honest then there aren't many other places to turn. Yes, sometimes it does smack of too much cynicism & bitterness but the majority of people here have lost much in their dealings with the Watchtower Society and honestly need a place to vent their feelings.
I do note a sincere note in the original post so I don't think you mean harm...just picked the wrong forum for your intentions. Hope you find what you are looking for in life...