always wished I was somebody else, not in a Witness family, or that my parents would just stop going. never had the courage to tell them what I thought though and beleived for a while, but didn't ever believe I fit in with them.
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Looking Back, How Did You Really Feel About "The Truth"?
by minimus indid you love it?
were you in awe of it?
were you a true believer?
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Are You Dealing or Dwelling?
by pettygrudger indesib's arrival thread got me thinking (along with some kind words from special k).. when i first came here, i was so happy to see so many others with shared experiences and issues of the jw's, yet sad at the same time to know that there were so many.
i spent alot of time here in the beginning.
even though i had been out of the jw's for almost 16 years at the time, i found the time i was spending here i was "dwelling" or going back to my own painful experiences.
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Right now, all this stuff is still a big part of who I am and what makes me unique from others, and I like being able to discuss this with people who understand where I'm coming from. I deal with Witnesses on a daily basis, so I'm not even close to closing the deal on all this BS, but what I get out of posting on this db is the opportunity to help others deal with it, too... it's something I really wanted to find a way to do once I discovered it was a cult. So, I'm dwelling, but it's not my past yet, really. and I'm dealing too.
If it was 20 years behind me and everything, I think I'd still want to help people who are going thru it, where I can. Maybe not daily, but once in a while. I think I'd be a good therapist though, so that's the kind of thing I'm into.
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UN scandal...again
by yxl1 ini popped round to my mothers the other day, not realising she had the book study at her house.
luckily it had almost finished so i waited around.
once finished the elder shook my hand and asked me what i was doing now.
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great story. it's like your one and only chance to put that question into their heads... whatever it takes to get them out there researching stuff, any little thing might do it.
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My Bio - and official hi to everyone.
by Freddy Krueger inwell, i've posted a few topics already and responded to a few.
and spoke with some of you.
well i just wanted to give you a little background on me.
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Welcome Freddy,
I am inspired by your post - it gives me hope that maybe someday, my family ( even the strictest ones ) will get out. They don't listen to me though so I know they'll have to stumble on it themselves the way your dad did. Thanks for sharing it!
Look forward to seeing your messages out here.
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Are meeting styles different in particular regions?
by somebodylovesme inthe meetings i have been to (in the rural midwest) have been the quietest, tamest, and most boring religious events i have ever been to.
they make the lutheran church i used to go to (in which no one was under 60 except my family!
) look exciting.
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SCguy mentioned the reserved/genuine Northerners versus the outgoing/fake southerners. So true.
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Sad and guilty....
by Trailblazer ini have just come from my parents house.
my dad just informed me that he and my mother cannot attend my wedding.
(i was married before, have "faded away" and am getting re-married).
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Welcome!
I love what JamesThomas said. It's hard not be angry at them and harbor resentment. But it is tearing them up inside, or else they will be feeling regrets later. They are doing what they are mislead to believe is the best thing for you - out of love, no less. And they are scared, too. A wedding is just one day... don't let it destroy your love for them.
And also don't let them know how much it hurts, either. Living a happy life is the best answer to the shunning. They may eventually question why they even bother to continue shunning.
I know this is a tough time for you but you are also making your own new family so there's still lots to be thankful and happy about, so hang in there!
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JW &Your Health
by desib77 inwell, i guess this will be my first official question for all of you.....does the stress of the jw religon stemming from a background in it affect anyones health?.
this may seems silly but just thinking about it and other religious options stresses me out.
right now, just from thinking about this for an hour or so, i have a huge headache and am very tense and a little bit shaky.
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Depression, anxiety problems, definately - nothing physical, as far as I can tell.
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thankyou!
by kat2u in.
just thought i would take the opportunity to say how happy i am that i found this forum.cant believe i never looked before.its very hard for anyone to be out with no support.soooo to everyone .. thankyou.. thankyou ...thankyou!!!.
kat
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You know I was thinking the same thing. It's been really nice not to feel so alone in all of this. Thank you to everyone who offers support here!
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Were You Ever Counseled For Your Attitude or Because You Didn't Measure Up?
by minimus inone thing jws do, and especially elders, is counsel people.
everything is all about setting a person straight.
even bible students are conditioned to be counseled and to do the same toward any that ask them questions as to what they believe.
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Oh yeah, my tops were too low, my skirts too short and my pants (not inthe KH !) were too baggy or too low, I didn't have enough (any) congregation approved friends, not enough hours in service (avg 2) and skipped most meetings, R-rated movies (what crap), rap music, loud music, going to night clubs, working too much, going to college - but skipping the meetings, driving too fast... and that's just some of the stuff they knew about.
Whoa Nelly - I'm sooooo bad!
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Did being a JW teach your children to lie?
by Strawberryfieldsforever inwhen i was young and in school, i would often lie to questions my friends asked me.
things like "what did you get for christmas" or "are you comming to the choir concert tonight" or "why can't you join track" or "why don't you eat our birthday treats".
the list is endless.
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Yes I think it does teach you to lie, because the penalty for not falling in line is so high, you don't want to displease them. And then you know it's all so weird and don't feel like standing out if you don't need to. Sometimes you just need a break.
Doesn't mean we are not good people if we are cornered and need to lie about something stupid anyway, just means we can't be completely open about everything all the time. We are not the only people not giving 100% of our stories to everyone, so I don't see it as a problem. But I wish I hadn't needed to do it.