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  A MUST--You won't regret it!!

  by patio34 in

  1. social
  2. current

  http://www.themeatrix.com/

  you've got to watch this - about the big agri-corporations and the food you eat.

  turn up the volume; you won't want to miss any of the very creative and factual cartoon docu-drama.

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  cyber-sista

  thanks for sharing this--I am going to pass it around
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  Things that really bothered you.....

  by bakedmonkeepie in

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  2. friends

  i was thinking about the "glorious" past of my association with the witnesses..... and i started thinking.

  were there ever things that really really bothered you that they were doing, and it made you stop and think about what you were really getting involved in?

  mine would be at an assembly.

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  Lots of little things and lots of big things, so to narrow it down and since you suggested it I will comment on the clothing thing. When I first came into the JW thing I didn't have a lot of money and couldn't afford many clothes and I wore the same 3 outfits from the second hand store for about a long time--it was rather humbling to say the least. Many of the sisters in the congregation where I attended dressed up pretty fancy and wore lots of makeup (some sold Avon cosmetics). This was difficult for me because that wasn't my style and it seemed like the ones who were the fine examples in the congregation were all made up and tottering around on their high heels They had red lips and fancy fingernails and one JW woman wore a full length fur coat to the meeting. One day out in service it was really cold and I was all bundled up with wool skirt, boots, heavy coat, scarf and hat. We were taking turns going door to door and one sister in the car group seemed real hesitant to go with me. She was wearing a business suit with high heels and lots of makeup. When we were walking up to the door she looked me up and down disapprovingly and said "you want to work by yourself?" She was obviously making a cruel comment about my apperance. I don't think I looked that bad--just dressed for the weather. Anyway, the whole thing about the "secret person of the heart" was a bit of a story. Not all, but many JWs were very concerned about playing dress-up. Being counciled for dress and grooming from the platform was rather humiliating too when you think about it ...AAAHHH what a horrible invasion of personal space it all was...
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  This Forum.....What Benefit is Is thesedays?

  by ScoobySnax in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  firstly .......i don't mean for one minute the end of friendships that may have been cultivated here.....or the "help" that may have been extended to those who needed it.... there are some good people here.

  but......... but...... how often can the same old topics be bounced about and re-cycled amongst the topic threads here, usually created by the same few, for an imaginary multitude that i just don't see.

  ok you say many may look in here, and may not comment.

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  cyber-sista

  i am a newby still wet behind the ears and find all of the info here very helpful as I have not viewed any of it before. Maybe after a while i will get old and jaded, but for now it has been a refreshment from my old JW days...
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  JW Urban Legends 2

  by ZeroKool29 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  wow!

  thanks for all of your replies to my last topic!

  since it was so popular i thought we could use another one.

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  Hey SC_guy...Is there an evil story about Sponge Bob? Could watching that cartoon be what lead me to my JW downfall? I confess to watching it religiously...What I thought was innocent fun may have lead me down a path of ruin...
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  JW Urban Legends 2

  by ZeroKool29 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  wow!

  thanks for all of your replies to my last topic!

  since it was so popular i thought we could use another one.

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  cyber-sista

  I heard many over the years, but this was a pretty dumb one told in a car group with all the sisters getting misty eyed hearing it...

  2 sisters were out in service. A man let his big old mean dog out of the house to chase them away. The dog ran straight towards the sisters with big teeth gnashing reading to bite their heads off. When the dog got just a few feet away he suddenly fell to the ground like he had slammed into a wall. The dog died and when the owner took him to the vet. The vet wondered what had happened because the dog's neck was broken. The sisters then knew Jehovah had sent an angel to put up a wall to protect them..Can't remember what happened to the owner, but I imagine the story ended with the man studying the bible and being baptized because of his broken neck dog.
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  XJW's and Mental Health Disorders

  by ColdRedRain in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as many of you now know, i was in the mental ward for a breif period.

  after i got out of the mental ward, i was placed in group therapy where i am today.

  i talked with my therapist today and he mentioned a very interesting fact.

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  cyber-sista

  Zoloft, Klonopin, Elavil, Paxell, Pamelor and of course Prozac and the list goes on and on?One of the things I noticed after I had been a JW for several years was what a vast was knowledge I had on antidepressant and other psychiatric medications, their many properties, uses, etc-- I have no medical training nor am I a pharmacist, nor have I been on a course of them myself, but I know a lot about them. I guess this was a part of my WT training. I knew so many JWs over the years who were using these drugs. The sisters talked about their medications a lot and seemed like I was always talking with one of them about what was going on with their medications--and the problems they were having with their medications, or how they had just switched to this or that medication and how it was helping, or not helping with their problem. I think there are a lot of JWs who need medication to cope with the many pressures of being a JW?especially that feeling that you could never do enough and you are exhausted in what you are already doing to keep up with your everyday life?work, family, problems, along with the meetings, service and the whole study regime, along with the constant feeling of guilt about everything ?it is just too much for some to bear. This was especially hard on those who were already physically or mentally not very sturdy and this constant badgering to do more or to better in some way or another was a strain on everyone. I often wondered what percentage of them was on medication in comparison to the national average.

  PS. I got to the point where I would've had to medicate myself to remain in the Org. I decided to take the non-medication route which was to leave...

  PS'S..to clarify...I am not opposed to anyone being on medications--I have used these myself in times of crisis and know of many others who are in need of drug treatment because of genetic mental health conditons/dealing with alcoholism, etc. But I am opposed to a high pressure religious organization, which causes causes so much pain and suffering that some are forced to medicate themselves for this reason alone.
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  Loss of Family

  by desib77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am just wondering if any of you have lost family members that you were really close to by leaving "the organization"?

  how did you deal with it?.

  right now i am neither disfellowshipped nor disassociated but considered inactive.

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  cyber-sista

  Desib77...Read the posts on the subject "To all you faders out there" this one helped me to sort my thoughts in regards to my issues, which are similiar to what you are asking...
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  Were You A "Kiss-Up" In The Congregation?

  by minimus in

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  ....you know what i mean.

  i'm talking about one of those people that always was trying to get "in" with the right people.

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  cypher50 --liked your reply. Think I must've been a kiss up at times, but I did like some of the JWs who I thought at the time were my friends, so my feelings towards them were genuine. I didn't always think all of the CO's were as wonderful as everyone made them out to be, though I did wear my extra special dress when they came around and so did everyone else for that matter. Think in general we were all a bunch of kiss-ups to one degree or another, but like you I thought we were supposed to have love among ourselves and the Org really cared about us all, but I was very naive then.
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  Looking Back, How Did You Really Feel About "The Truth"?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  did you love it?

  were you in awe of it?

  were you a true believer?

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  cyber-sista

  It was sort of a manic depressive kind of a deal. Sometimes I would be all zealous and pumped up, but that would last for a short period of time and then I would be down in the dumps and not feel so good about everything, but instead of blaming anything on the religion I would blame myself. I had my doubts at times, but would try to not think too deeply about it...Once I turned my brain on again the realizations of what had really happened all came flooding in on me all at once and I know now I had been busy stuffing garbage for too many years.
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  "the Society teaches"

  by somebody in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  *** w98 3/15 p. 19 living up to christian dedication in freedom ***

  4 in order to avoid misunderstandings, jehovah?s witnesses try to be careful about how they express themselves.

  instead of saying, ?the society teaches,?

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  cyber-sista

  The society says (or teaches) is an all too familiar term to me. I was in the middle of a situation in the congregation where I was attending and was forced to write "the society." The elders told me if I write a letter and the society says such in such then that will be the final word on the matter. They were confused and wanted to know what the society said or taught on the matter. When I received the answer to my letter, and shared it with a few who were in the middle of the situation they were in awe of my letter as they felt "it was a letter from Jehovah." (Looked like a form letter to me)
  

  Well to make a long story short, when I got the letter and the elders didn't like the answer I got (it supported my side of the story) and wrote the society a letter thinking I had not stated all the facts, and I was told later by one of them they received a letter and the society said: blah blah blah and it was now supporting their side of the issue, but I never got to see that letter. By that time I was so digusted by the stupidity of the whole thing and the whole elder abuse thing I didn't really care what the society had to say. I wrote a final letter to see if I could find out what their second letter to the elders was about, but the society never wrote back, so I will never really know now what the society said or teaches--in the end there was no definite answer or consistency to any of it--it was all about as clear as mud to me.