Posts by Jez

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WHERE ARE YOU?

by Jez in

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so, my 16 year old is really giving me a hard time lately.

really horrible stuff.

i won't get into it but my reason for posting this topic, is that i keep thinking how difficult this is to not be able to be mothered when i need it.. i would never have imagined how hard this is.

So, my 16 year old is really giving me a hard time lately. Really horrible stuff. I won't get into it but my reason for posting this topic, is that I keep thinking how difficult this is to not be able to be mothered when I need it.

I would never have imagined how hard this is. To raise teenagers and not have a mother to turn to for support, advice and a hug. I have tried to normalize alot in my life, but this is one thing I have no control over. I am not sad about her shunning me, usually I don't even think about it and accept this as her issue, but some days, I just want to phone her and scream WHERE THE F*&! ARE YOU?

Not only do I expect myself to have all the answers regarding my teen, but my teen expects me to know what I am doing as well!! Every decision I make is both right and wrong.

Jez

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WHY DOES GOD HATE ME?

by Mary in

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do you ever feel like god really hates you?

when nothing ever works out for you?

when you're stupid enough to actually think that you might find happiness?

Jez

Since "God" is nothing more than our own self inflated ego saying that we are incredibly special because we were created/wanted/love by an all powerful God....then you must hate yourself because you are God.

You don't have to agree, just what I believe. Jez

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Why would this even cross my mind?!?!?!?!

by Juniper in

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well, after 10 years of being together, hubby has decided that he's found his 'soul mate' (the second time this year, neither of which was me) and is moving out.. i'm thirty years old and no kids, thanks to the fact that i spent 12 years in full time service telling everyone it's better to wait until the 'new system' for raising a family.

that's all beside the point - and perhaps better suited for my counselor.

:) anyway, the thought that keeps going through my mind is "this never would have happened if i didn't leave" and "how am i going to find someone to spend my life with at this age and who will understand me the way an ex-jw can"???

Jez

I was 31 years old when I met my husband. The absolute love of my life and "soul-mate".

Take this time to find your best you. Look and live your best and be authentic. Do you really want to go back and live a lie, just to have a man?

Make a complete you without a man first so that you go into the next relationship being a whole, not looking to complete yourself.

Just my 2 cents. Jez

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Happiness is.................

by purplesofa in

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being a pioneer.

i kid you not..........this was on one of those chrome frame things that go around a liscense plate on a car i saw today.

it was a cute lightblue vw beetle bug.

Jez

Having 12 years senority and bumping rights

Loving my husband

Knowing my 16 year old is up in their room, at home, sleeping

Being in good health

Having a great relationship with my Dad

Getting a hug from behind when you are not expecting it from your 12 year old

The first snowfall

Quiet revenge

An appreciative "helloooooooo there"

and much more.....Jez

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Daughter in law a JW

by BJBixby in

my son married to a young woman that was raised in th jw culture and continues to worship at a hall.

my son is a christian (presbyterian) .

when they were dating she occassionaly attended some of our holiday functions and jsut kind of dissapeared when the gifts were opened or songs sung.

Jez

Check out lavender's story.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/123211/1.ashx

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What kind of perfume/cologne do you use?

by purplesofa in

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friends

i have lots of perfume.....love to smell good.. estee lauder.......pleasures.

eternity summer.

jessica mcclintock.

Jez

Organza by Givenchy

Love it, love it, love it.

Jez

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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 10-29-06 WT Study (REJOICE WIFE)

by blondie in

www.reexamine.org (wt publications online).

http://www.randytv.com/secret/unitednations.htm (united nations issue).

with her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly.".

Jez

Oh, so now you are calling me a buzzing irritating bee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just kidding. Jez

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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 10-29-06 WT Study (REJOICE WIFE)

by blondie in

www.reexamine.org (wt publications online).

http://www.randytv.com/secret/unitednations.htm (united nations issue).

with her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly.".

Jez

I personally view women as equals (and a great many of them greater than me), and I don't think you'll find any of my comments have ever suggested otherwise. But I don't think they stepped out of their parameters as a group that states they follow Biblical teachings.

To even say that you view women as equals insinuates that you (men) have the power to bestow upon women either your acceptance or rejection as equals. I am not picking at you, don't even know you, I just wish men would stop saying that now.

So, um, thanks but no thanks. Jez

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Been in an longdistance relationship with a married woman

by SWolf in

i have a situation that i need help with....2 1/2 yrs ago i met a woman online she is 20 yrs older then me 41 now as i am 23...i fell in love with her and i never have been in a long relationship.

i know she is married but very unhappy...we been having a long distance affair for 2 1/2 years and i love her more then anything in this world...i have made her very happy and just the other day she feels trapped knowing she will be destroyed...i did not know what jw's were so i have been going to learn so i could understand her.

i need help scriptures anything that i can use to help her leave her mentally abusive husband.

Jez

Is it just me, or is there something fishy about this poster and this story?????? Can't put my finger on it, but something doesn't sit right in here.

Well, if I am wrong, then you have surprised me with your strength at letting her go and refusing to give into the temptation of helping her make decisions that should only be hers to make.

Your pain will lessen and maturity someday will allow you to look back and know that you made the right decision. Jez

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Whoa! My mother just called.......

by kittyeatzjdubs in

whoawhoawhoawhoa.....hands still shaking from this one...... **whew**...ok.. so lately, it seems that every dream i've been having is about my mother.

please see: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/122711/1.ashx.

and then i had one last night where she came to tell me she was going to hawaii (?

Jez

I truly hope that she is going to be there for you. Be careful though. It seems a pattern amongst JW mothers that they say, "Come here come here come here, get away get away get away" My mother has done this to my df'ed sister for years. When she needs an ear, she calls my sister to unload onto.

Makes all sorts of promises and 'loves her up'. My sister laps it up and then is heartbroken when my mother finds her "christian conscience" and doesn't call for a year or so.

Then, she calls again.

It is their inner struggle about the craziness of shunning pulling and pushing them towards and from us...but it is us that get hurt if they are not sincere.

My best wishes to you, just tread carefully with your heart guarded. Jez