Posts by beckyboop

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Simple things in life.........(no boobies)

by eyegirl in

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i was just sitting here, reflecting on my day.

the last month has basically been pretty crappy for me and a rollercoaster of emotions.

i knew i was in bad shape when my landlord told me i could have absolutely no pets in my apartment.

beckyboop

"What a wonderful world"--recognizing that the people outside of the borg are full of love

my boyfriend Jonathan and the life we're creating together

my 3 dogs--Harley, Mookh, and Bindi (even though they need lots of attention and exercise!)

the 2 kids I help take care of--Daniel and Naomi (and their generous parents)

water--the beach, lakes, ponds, streams, pools, hot tubs, baths--anything I can get into!

friends!

laughter

sunshine

birds chirping

rainy nights

good food

chocolate

ice cream

good books

the computer;)

I find it fascinating that I can enjoy my days now--I don't dread going to the meetings, service, etc. I don't fear the world anymore. I love life, and am trying to enjoy each and every day as it comes. I am finally living in the present moment, instead of worrying about whether or not I'm going to "make it". Life is good!

Becky

Edited by - beckyboop on 26 June 2002 10:2:28

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Excellent POV film on PBS last night

by jukief in

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i watched a very interesting and touching program on pbs last night (tuesday).

it portrayed a mormon family, the smiths, as they dealt with some very devastating circumstances.

the husband was a closeted gay for many years who ended up getting aids and bringing it home to his wife.

beckyboop

Julie,

Thanks for the great tip! I love watching things like that because they show how intolerant of real people that most religions are. That's so heartwrenching that he had to die with feelings of guilt about who he was. I'm glad his wife stayed with him to help him through that period, and that his children even backed him. I hope I can find somebody to tape it for me!

Becky

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why waste time?

by lucidentity in

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if everyone here , or nearly everyone here does not believe the jw's then why waste your time going onto these websites.

when everyone leaves the truth they automaticaly go to jw websites....why?

if you no longer believe it why waste your time?.

beckyboop

Lucidentity,

Welcome to the board! I'd like to say that it's not a waste of time to find people who've been through similar experiences when trying to leave the jw's. Because they use brain control methods to control everything about your life that they can, it takes deprogramming methods in order to let go. And what you've found here is a site filled with a variety of people--jw's, ex-jw's, non-jw's, mates of jw's, children of ....and so on and so on. There are people here who are skilled at helping others get out of the organization, and one of the first steps is being able to talk about what you've been through or are going through right now.

I hope that you find this place to be as helpful as I have. It has helped me to get over my feelings of guilt, anger, hatred, etc. over having been deceived. I have found that we seem to go through stages, and invariably you'll find someone in a similar place as yourself. Some are new with questions (like yourself), some still believe in the belief system but not the organization itself , some have totally new belief systems, and many other variations.

This board does represent what the "real world" is like, and you may be offended at times because things may not be up to your "moral" code. However, I hope that you're able to realize that YOU choose what you wish to read, and if something offends you, it's also YOUR choice to not read more. Part of growing is realizing that not everyone is/will be like us, and that we can discuss and argue as adults.

That said, have a great time--there's a lot of great people to be found here! I hope you make some new friends, and maybe even meet some in person some day. Hope to see your posts eventually!

Becky

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Are women naturally "Bi" ?

by refiners fire in

just a question.

actually a friend of mine, alex, (who hopefully might read this and commence posting on this board) has been insisting for 20 years that women are naturally bi sexual.

i laughed at his claims.. but now, looking around here, and based on numerous group chats ive had with women on this site, there seems to be some evidence that his theory is correct.

beckyboop

Mr. Moe,

If your aren't bi-curious, then how do you describe your obvious attraction to SYN? It seems like you are curious at the very least to at least one woman. Do you not want to be attracted to other women, and if you are, don't like that part of you?

I'm not being mean, just curious because of all the comments between you.

Becky

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Are women naturally "Bi" ?

by refiners fire in

just a question.

actually a friend of mine, alex, (who hopefully might read this and commence posting on this board) has been insisting for 20 years that women are naturally bi sexual.

i laughed at his claims.. but now, looking around here, and based on numerous group chats ive had with women on this site, there seems to be some evidence that his theory is correct.

beckyboop

Refiner's--Great post--I'm really enjoying reading all the different opinions on this. I think that maybe women are just more(?) curious; at the very least we SEEM to be more honest about being curious. Is it harder for men to admit it because it may seem like a blow to their ego or that it would make them gay? I think we are only beginning to understand sexuality and all it's ranges. I personally would like to study cultures where sexuality is encouraged--and see how that affects people. Thanks for your honesty BTW--it's a breath of fresh air to be able to talk about how we really feel without censure or condemnation

I too have had attractions to women--one's a good friend, and the other Angelina Jolie. Those are just a couple of examples for me. However, I haven't tried anything....yet. I do think that someday I will try it, just to see what the difference feels like. I absolutely love how I feel with my boyfriend, but I think it would be possible to love what I would feel with a woman too. And I would probably most enjoy a 3-some!;)

Becky

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Were you chaperoned?

by writerpen in

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now that i'm out of the borg and realizing that i've never dated, i think it's in the near future for me.

so i was thinking about my age of 30 and never being on a date.

but even worse, i was thinking of those of you who dated while in the borg and had to deal with an audience - actually i had to laugh when thinking about the absurdity of the scenario.

beckyboop

Scootergirl--AMEN!!! I too think that it's much healthier to live with someone first to see how compatible you really are. It is definitely a lot easier than divorce!

Moving in with my boyfriend a year ago was one of the hardest things I ever did--especially because of my jw background. My family basically thinks I'm a whore, but I told my dad that I don't need a piece of paper to tell me how much I care about someone. It's how you treat someone and show your love everyday. And I'm very glad I did it--this past year has been one of the happiest for me in a long time.

Angharad--Is that experience talking?;) Just kidding--but I know what you mean. If you're constantly told not to be alone because you'll want sex, then when you're alone you DO want sex! I think the hardest part for me was the years of being told that sex is wrong unless you're married, and then as soon as you get married it's suddenly ok. That thinking has done a lot of damage to me psychologically, because it's normal to want sex. By the time I actually got married at 25, I was so mixed up inside because I had wanted it for a very long time. But I still had the feelings of guilt that had been pounded into me--and that has affected me to this day.

Becky

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I made it!

by Rado Vleugel in

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at the time i went to school jehovahs witnesses were still discouraged from higher education.

the teachers on the primary school advised me to go follow pre-university education.

but totally in line with the watchtower i followed

beckyboop

Congratulations Rado! You deserve it! It's never too late to go to school, and I'm so happy to read all the experiences on here of people going back to school no matter their age. It gives me the kick in the butt I need to do it too.

Intuit 39--Congratulations are definitely in order for you too! I'm happy that I was able to be there and see it--graduation was proof of all the hard work you did working full time and going to school. Even when you were still a j-dub! I am very proud of you my friend! YOU DID IT!!!

Love,

Becky

PS. BTW, Intuit 39 is EXCELLENT at helping people out of the borg--he's helped MANY of our friends out, and is the only one who had enough patience to help ME out. His degree in Psychology is coming in very handy!

Edited by - beckyboop on 20 June 2002 12:51:23

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Another look at Israel/Palestine

by bboyneko in

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beckyboop

There is no innocent side because they both kill each other.

Becky

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JWs and Stronger Marriages?

by Pubsinger in

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a bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.

i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.

we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.

beckyboop

Jw's and stronger marriages? Hah! The congregation I grew up in was basically called As Sun Valley Turns--in a sad mockery of the U.S. soap opera As the World Turns. Actually, now that I think about it, every congregation I was in pretty much was like that. Adultery, divorce, abuse etc. was rampant no matter where I lived. In no way do JW's have strong marriages--they're based on a lie because you can't possibly know the truth about the other person. The abuse was very common though--one dear friend missed a couple of meetings and then showed up with fading black and blue bruises--she said she "ran into her car door". Of course I believed her then because it never occurred to me that her husband would have done that to her!

I too divorced, very amicably though because we came out of the borg together, and then decided we weren't right for each other. He was finally able to admit he was gay, and I did not want to be a bitch and try to hold it together. I had felt something wasn't right, but with the way the wt clouds everything for you wasn't able to figure it out. We were able to be honest and set each other free. I feel for those who put in many years with people who never really loved them in return, but at least they can move forward now. Life is short--make it happy.

Becky

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My daughter undergoing cancer surgery

by TheOldHippie in

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right now, 4 hours this very minute, removing tumors, still no news - and i am one nervous father ...........

beckyboop

((((((((((((((((((((((((((old Hippie and daughter))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I wish we could be there with you during this ordeal! Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you--and keep us posted if you feel like it.

Love,

Becky