Posts by beckyboop

Although someone already mentioned it, chiropractic care is one of the most effective and preventative methods I've ever seen/experienced to get rid of headaches. As you probably know, pain medication is only covering up the symptom--not actually relieving it. My boyfriend is a chiropractor, and one of his reasons for going into it was because his own father had horrible migraines, but once he went to a chiropractor they stopped.

I also work in my boyfriend's office from time to time, and have witnessed many people with various aches and pains get relief by a simple spinal readjustment. Think about it--when your car is out of alignment your tires wear out unevenly. Our bodies are very similar, and unfortunately with bad habits like sleeping on stomachs and lifting/bending/turning incorrectly we continually put stress on our spines. Once we get out of alignment, pressure is put on our nerves and causes pain (commonly like headaches & sciatica).

I personally tend to have back problems because of a large chest, and I also get some headaches and a lot of moodiness because I sleep on my stomach. This causes specific nerves to be compressed which in turn affects my moods and can cause pain--but as soon as I get adjusted I'm fine again. (I know I need to be doing either yoga or pilates to strengthen my spinal muscles--then I wouldn't need a chiro as much)

Anyway, I didn't mean to rant--I've just seen it action and wanted to share. I hope you get some relief from your pain soon!

Love,

Becky

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I need a drink...

by Vivamus in

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friends

i feel so down.

i am beginning to think i am the kind of person that just walks away from their problems, instead of confronting them.

when people hurt me, i will hardly ever show it, voice my feelings or anything.

beckyboop

((((((((((((((((((((((((VIV))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sorry your feeling a little down--dealing with others is a tough one, especially when we feel it's "easier" to keep it all inside. Hopefully you have someone you can talk to honestly, so you can process some of it instead of just bottling it.

Anyway, enough of my 2 cents--I'll share a whisky slush with you and some "smoke" (actually vapor). Hope you have a great evening!

Becky

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The reality of obesity

by Lady Lee in

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when i was a jw there were a few sisters i knew who had serious weight problems.

i now have a couple of friends who are obese.

i have a weight problem also (about 40 pounds over my best weight).. i was out with my girlfriend today.

beckyboop

((((((((((((((((Lady Lee and everyone else)))))))))))))))))

Thanks for posting such a wonderful article! There are so many people out there (me too) with weight issues (too much or too little), and I believe there are a lot of contributing factors to that. It's sad though that many people still want to pre-judge others based on appearances (myself included at times unfortunately). I'm finding though that the more people I meet and get to know the easier it is to see the real them--no matter the exterior.

I personally am very interested in eating according to blood type. It seems to really "hit the nail on the head" regarding why one diet can have such a varied response among people. IMO, if the food we ARE putting into our mouth slows down our blood, has specific lectins that we cannot digest, cause weight gain/loss etc., then by simply redefining what's good for our individual bodies we can make huge changes.

Thanks again for this topic--it's helping me to get motivated again to take care of myself better. I just wish I wasn't so easily derailed sometimes. Posts like this one always help!

Becky

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Do you still love your relatives/friends who shun you?

by HadEnuf in

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as i was participating in my daily duties of domestic slavery i got to ruminating about my mom, sister and brother who are shunning me (even though i am neither df'd of da'd).

i got to thinking to myself that i don't really miss them all that much.

in fact; i almost feel that i have lost the abundance of love that i once felt for them...well, except for my brother who i have never gotten along with anyway.

beckyboop

Yes, very much, and it still hurts because I don't know yet how to "have my family in my life" in whatever small way, but not let their judgments get to me. I know I will always love them and would accept them at any time, but I feel a certain separation helps me to grow and move forward and not remain bitter about my past.

I appreciate your starting this topic very much because I moved away from my family--from Kentucky to Rhode Island. It's been an interesting life change, because they don't have the same "control" over me here, and I'm better off for it. I miss them very much, and I'm still learning from my own past mistakes in my dealings with them. Because when I left the jw's, I also got divorced; so I know that I shook up their world as well as my own.

All I know for sure though is what somebody here already said--I love them and always will and I won't let my anger at my past get in the way of that anymore.

Becky

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Handling anger badly

by Billygoat in

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last night neil and i snuggled up on the sofa to watch a movie over a left over dinner.

we had both worked late and were tired.

we wanted to just relax and not think.

beckyboop

(((((((((((((((ANDI)))))))))))))))))) AMEN, I hear you as I'm sure many others here do also. We were NEVER taught that anger was a perfectly acceptable response, that it just needs to be expressed healthily...instead, many of us were beaten many, many times for our own parent's inability to express THEIR anger healthily. I have read many things about this myself because I too am slowly working on this--and one book I have found extremely helpful is Harriet Lerner's "Dance Of Anger". In fact, I think it's so good and it hit so home with me that I can only read it in small doses...and I'm not finished :) Thanks for sharing, because when someone puts those feelings and fears into eloquent words--it really strikes a chord inside. Hope you continue to work through it and share. Becky Becky

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Do you regret ever getting baptized

by ikhandi in

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thousand of witnesses do it every year and for what they believe are good reasons.

i did it because i was pressured by elders.

its interesting to note how elders can target young people into committing their life to something they really know nothing about.

beckyboop

Great topic! (I had to get that out first thing so I wouldn't forget by the end...;). Do I regret it, no, because in my experience I'm learning to LEARN from my past choices, bad or good. Do I think it sucks that while I was at the assembly about to be baptized (at 17 years) I wondered deep inside "what the hell am I doing here?"--yes. I also think it sucks that I knew myself well enough at 13 to not get baptized at 13 like the rest of my friends did. But, the worst part of it IMO, is that young people choose to baptize themselves into one faith or religion when there's an entire world of viewpoints and differing cultures and beliefs out there to be explored first. It seems somewhere along the way we lose our emerging sense of the world around us, and we get roped into a particular way of thinking without truly experiencing life first. Becky

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Do you smell like Jesus?

by Valis in

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my friend sent me this today...*lol*.

sincerely,.

district overbeer

beckyboop

I guess, kinda, a little patchouli, a little sandalwood, a little au naturale...

Becky

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What To Be For Halloween?

by Valis in

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i'm starting early this year cuz i want to have a rockin halloween.

i''ve been the devil, the grim sweeper, medusa, an alien,...i was thinking this year maybe one of those warriors from lord of the rings...and what are you going to be this halloween, or do you even celebrate the spooky day?.

sincerely,.

beckyboop

Two years ago I went as a the Sweet Tooth Fairy, and my boyfriend had his Nepali costume on. It was my first time dressing up, and we went to a gay club that had a haunted house. We had a great time, and my boyfriend even got his ass pinched a few times...

Last year we didn't do anything because we had just moved to Rhode Island and didn't know many people yet; and unfortunately, even though we had candy to give out, only about 3 kids came to our door because our front door is kind of hidden. Hopefully we'll have better luck this year. I'm not sure what I want to be yet though--I'm feeling a little like Joanna though in that I've never been a witch...well, maybe I have. I'm also interested in being a mermaid, but I'd sort of like to come up with something more creative. Hmmm, I guess I need some inspiration....

Becky

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Can "Born-Into-Its" Ever Be Happy?

by Englishman in

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just wondering....take a 40 year old male ('cos he's an ex-elder!

) who's been born a dub.

he becomes disenchanted with dubdom and eventually decides to leave.

beckyboop

YES, because I believe that "happiness is a journey, not a destination". I left when I was about 30, and it of course wasn't easy. I too had the feelings of "missing out on my youth", so I did something about it. I tried things, experimented, read, talked to a WIDE variety of people--basically the things I would have normally done in my younger years (except for things like college--I still haven't done that one yet). And although the "things" I tried didn't bring me happiness, I sure as hell had fun trying them.

I received a card from a good friend on my birthday that said "for a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin--real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one."

I guess the only thing I could add to that is that we only have the here and now FOR SURE. We cannot get our younger years back, but we can still do or at least try whatever we want. We can make our lives as interesting as possible, and have lots of fun in the meantime. I think the hardest part for those of us born-in is this--we never knew ANY other way. So we have to completely dump out our former ways of thinking and viewing the world and start over. Because when we do, we find that whatever we had been told was wrong anyway.

Becky