Hi creamypink. I'm a newbie also. Just wanted to say welcome and hope to talk to you more. I was disfellowshipped and now being shunned by my family. But, life goes on and you have the support of everyone here.
Buffy
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14Hi, I'm a newbie
by creamypink injust wanted to say hello and sort of introduce myself.
i am usually on another jw posting board.
i found wonderful friends there and i was hoping to find more here.. i've not been df nor have i da'd myself.
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How do you explain it to your spouse?
by buffy ini've been w/ my husband for 2 years, married for 3 months.
he knows what i went through going throught the df process.
he saw the horrible time i had dealing w/ loosing my family.
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I've been w/ my husband for 2 years, married for 3 months. He knows what I went through going throught the df process. he saw the horrible time I had dealing w/ loosing my family. I cried alot, I felt like a mental case and still do at times. I told him about this website and how nice it is to talk to people who understand. He doesn't get it. He can't see how I can still believe anything I was taught. I try to explain how it is when your born and raised a witness and how leaving is like trying to find yourself.
Any advise on how to help him understand?
buffy
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My Theory about wild X-JWs
by zenpunk ini was pondering this theory this morning - what do you all think?.
a few months ago i went to visit someone from my last congregation who is now also an x-jw.
what is interesting is that, though completely straight-laced within the congregation, he became absolutely out of control once he left and is now trying to figure out how to get his life together.
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I completely agree. When I got out on my own, I wanted to do everything that I wasn't allowed to do at home. I went to every bar in town, flirted w/ every attractive man relentlously, started smoking, experimented w/ drugs, and got the tatoo I always wanted. then I hid from the elders for 4 years until I got pregnant and couldn't hide anymore.
All the XJW's I know and am friends w/ all did the same thing. We couldn't wait to do everything the kids in high school were doing years ago. It was like we were teens again. I finally got to go to "dances" and hang out w/ my friends whenever and wherever w/o anybody questioning my every move. I had the time of my life. I finally became part of the "world" that was kept hidden from me for so long.
I think witness kids should be shown for themselves what's out there. You can tell them how bad it is till your blue in the face. But, that's not going to hinder them from trying it themselves when they get the chance. Then let them choose what they want to do. Otherwise, when they are finally exposed to the world, they'll go wild like we did.
Granted, not all JW kids do this. But, I'd assume it's more than half.
buffy
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Anyone know Brian Littlefield?
by buffy inlooking for brian littlefield.
originally from california.
served in bethel for a short time.
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Looking for Brian Littlefield. Originally from California. Served in Bethel for a short time. I hung out w/ him when visiting Bethel one year. Anyone knows anything please email [email protected]
buffy
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Corrupt congregations
by Insider indo corrupt congregations exist?
some feel they do.
others would categorically deny it.
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I have a corrupt congregation story.
I know a df'd girl who now lives in NY, we'll call her Rita. She was studying w/ a family who had a 15 yr old son. Rita was 24 yrs old at the time. She was caught having sex with the 15 yr old boy by his parents. The boy's parents first went to the elders of her congregation and then wanted to go to the police and have her arrested for statutory rape. However, the elders insisted that they not do that or they'd bring reproach against Jehovah.
I'm sorry, but, I know Rita very well and she is a horny girl. But, 15 year old boys. She should have been arrested for statutory rape. Once again, the elders avoid letting witness be dealt w/ as they should be.
buffy
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What's the one thing you miss about the WTS?
by Naeblis inthere are times when ilook back fondly on my days in the witnesses, especially when i think on the congregation get togethers we would have every once in awhile (not too often) people from our hall and sometimes others would show up (not too many) and good times were had by all.
this is how the schedule usually went.. 8pm: arrive at the community centre.
8:05pm: scope the room.
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I miss lying to my mom about what us witness kids were doing. you know, we had a bonfire and roasted marshmellows
when in reality, we had a bonfire and passed booze around, got horny and had sex.I miss going away w/ my mom to concerts, the beach, and everywhere else we'd go. Even just going to the mall w/ her.
I miss the secret codes for identifing hot guys at the conventions.
Don't miss the self righteous sob's who always criticized and made you feel about an inch tall. I could never do
enough to make anyone happy. I was in fear of the other dubs not Jehovah.I miss how fun it was to spread gossip about all the trouble other kids got into to justify what we were doing. And,
the coruption - a bunch of us got publicly reproved for a game of truth or dare, when we all admitted to oral sex, and
one girl ratted. But, when a couple got busted for having an affair. (an elder cheated on his wife w/ a 17 yr old girl).
They were both privately reproved, because no one else knew about it. yeah right!I miss waking up hungover and going door to door, hoping that I wouldn't run into the one night stand from the night
before.buffy
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looking for old ephrata, PA crew
by buffy injason brill, felicia madden, stacy rivera, jared barcz.
anyone knows of them please email me.
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Jason Brill, Felicia Madden, Stacy Rivera, Jared Barcz. anyone knows of them please email me. [email protected]
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NEW EXJW ON THE BLOCK
by buffy inyou can read my bio to find out a little about me.
basically, i need support.
even after two years, i still think.
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Thank you all soooo much for the encouragement. I'll take all the advice given to me to heart. Hope to talk to all of you
much more.I think I'm still amazed at how many of us there are out there. I knew that jw's got dfd all the time. But, I guess to
actually find alot of them in one place just puts everything into perspective. I'm already finding the help I've been
longing for.Buffy.
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Anybody ever attended this assembly
by TurnTheLightOn incurious to know if anybody plans to attend this brci gathering in itasca il.. .
http://brci.org/boardmembers/board.html
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Turn,
I'm new to this site. What is BRCI?
Buffy
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NEW EXJW ON THE BLOCK
by buffy inyou can read my bio to find out a little about me.
basically, i need support.
even after two years, i still think.
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Hi all. You can read my bio to find out a little about me. Basically, I need support. Even after two years, I still think
about going back to being a JW. I was happy being disfellowshipped at first, even though I had lost my family
because of it (which I cried about every night), I eventually realized that I never was a witness because I wanted to be,
I was one because my mother wanted me to be. Which we all know is not a good reason to be a JW. I know that I
really do love my life, my husband, and my son. But, I worry now more than ever, because of my son. What if
because I rejected Jehovah and die, he does too. He's just a baby. How do I move on from this line of thinking?
I could never go back. I couldn't quit smoking and associating w/ my friends. I love bartending, and going out dancing
every now and then. I couldn't change my lifestyle for rules that are ridiculous. I guess I still believe in what I was
taught. I don't think I could ever even go to a church. I get a guilty feeling when I decorate for Christmas. My husband
has no idea what I'm thinking or feeling, I need people who've been there. HELP!!