I have a JW friend that feels he has to confess all the time. Turned me in a few times too which pissed me off. Anyway, he was "inactive" for about a year and during that time he spent time at strip clubs and took a girl home once or twice. About 6 months later he started going back to meetings and confessed what he'd done and the elders told him that he wasn't active and that he's not doing it anymore, so don't worry about it. They also told him "it really wasn't necessary for you to bring it up."
That really seemed strange to me because I've seen so many people get into trouble for things they did more than 6 months ago.
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10Disfellowshipping for old "sins"
by ballistic ini'm attempting to post something jw related for once.... there was a thread on here a while ago, i can't remember who posted it or what it was called,.
but in essence it was saying, all you disfellowshipped ones couldn't have been repentant so you asked for it.. .
well, i wasn't too chuffed about that, so here's my follow up question,.
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Odd yes, yes odd (a rambling saga about fitting in)
by joelbear ini am odd.
i have never fit in.
this made it especially torturous to be a jw.
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thom
Thanks for being so open about your life joelbear. I think alot of us here can relate to lots of it.
Early in life I learned that some people can be quite cruel and that not everyone is friend material. Unfortuanately, I responded by developing a personality where I try to make it clear that I'm not looking for friends and "I don't like you anyway". Yeah, that sure wasn't a good way for me to become, but it's what I am.
I think I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to getting close to people. I act like I don't want it, and in many ways I really don't want it. But it bothers me sometimes that I live a life of solitude as I see all these other people hanging around with eachother and at least appearing to have a good time.
When I do end up interacting with people I tend to try to end it (politely) soon. Like meeting new neighbors, I'd love to get along with my neighbors, but I'm sure they see me as rude and have given up on getting to know me. I hate being this way but I have no clue how to change it so I go on. Somehow I have a girlfriend, but she pursued me past all the initial barriers I tend to put up and maybe she sees the real me? I hope so.
Anyway, I don't know if being raised a JW is part of it or if I would have turned out this way anyway. I do feel that the restriction to getting to know "worldly" people must have played a part. It justified my keeping a distance from kids and school so maybe? Who knows.
What I do know is that my daughter is NOT being raised that way. She does very well socially, with kids and adults. She has alot of friends at school and plans to get more involved in after school clubs and such next year (7th grade). I just hope she can grow up to be more "normal" than I am. -
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City person or Country person
by JH in.
i travelled alot recently and i passed through many major cities, and i saw the contrast between nice small quiet towns and huge cities with so much traffic.. so, where would you rather live, in a quiet small town where there isn't much to do,but where it's quiet and there is not much stress, or in a big city with lots of traffic jams, where life is more expensive, but where there is more to see?.
i like the smaller town life.
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I've spent a month or so here and there in small towns and found it very depressing (to me). I much prefer city life, where I can go to the store in the middle of the night or shop for something and know that if one store doesn't have it, I only have to go a mile or so and another one will.
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Jehovahs mother chose death before baby
by trevor indaily mail article today uk newspaper.
jehovahs mother chose death before baby
a dying mother refused a life-saving blood transfusion despite nurses holding up her new-born son in a desperate attempt attempt to get her to change her mind.
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I was thinking the same thing, Finally-Free.
He was right there supporting his wife to help her avoid living. I doubt the author assumed the sister-in-law would raise the baby, it must have been something that was said.
My father and his wife raised my brother's son. It really pissed me off that alot of people assumed it was MY son. No, if he was my son I'd be raising him, just like I'm raising my daughter and I'm a single father. I wouldn't have it any other way. -
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Jehovahs mother chose death before baby
by trevor indaily mail article today uk newspaper.
jehovahs mother chose death before baby
a dying mother refused a life-saving blood transfusion despite nurses holding up her new-born son in a desperate attempt attempt to get her to change her mind.
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I'm glad the doctor got his way in your case, jeanniebeanz.
When I was a JW I had pretty much decided that I couldn't see how they prohibit blood transfusions from the scriptures and if my daughter, my wife or I needed blood, we'd have it. My biggest concern was how to keep the damn elders out of the hospital and out of our business.
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Does anyones girlfriend/boyfriend get jealous or mad for being on here alot
by not the administrator inmine always thinks i'm going to hook back up with a witness ex girlfriend or i guess dump her for god.
ive not been here long but shes not to happy with it.
shes not religious in anyway she just dont like me talking to people i guess.
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"how old are you thom?"
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Christmas???
by Legolas indoes anyone celebrate christmas?
that use to be my favorite time of year, right now i can't wait to celebrate it again unless i change my mind...lol...but right now it's on!!
this only being able to post two post isn't good for me ...............i had to waste one earlier on tec support...tec supports shouln't count as one!!
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I've never celebrated Christmas in my life, but I plan to this year. My daughter, who never has either, is pretty excited about it.
The biggest thing in my mind is where to put the tree. I live on a street that my family drive down all the time so I'm not yet decided whether to make it visible from the front of the house yet or not. -
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anyone got anything exiting to say?
by PaulJ inits a very dull thursday.
anyone got anything cool to share?
i'll start- the extra's and the catherine tate show are on tonight- absolutlely hilarious.
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thom
My daughter came home yesterday from her month with her mother (she goes each summer for a month). I couldn't wait for her to get back!
If I do this correctly, there should be a picture of us below (we'll see):
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The wtbts - an appropriate place ?
by A Paduan inconsidering the manner of the "company men" in the org., would things be worse without it - generally that is, not individually.
without the fear and rules generated by literal understandings of the spiritual writings, would these same folk be simply out of control in the wider society ?
fundamentalism may well control and restrain people who would otherwise be running amock.
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I'm someone who really has no idea how to interact socially. I avoid it and dread social situations.
Being a witness allowed me to interact with people that kind of had to interact with me. It allowed me to have some sort of social life, but it didn't teach me anything about how to grow socially. I feel that if I had not been a JW, I may have learned like most other people do as they grow up how to deal with people. So I think I'm worse off for it, not better off. -
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Does anyones girlfriend/boyfriend get jealous or mad for being on here alot
by not the administrator inmine always thinks i'm going to hook back up with a witness ex girlfriend or i guess dump her for god.
ive not been here long but shes not to happy with it.
shes not religious in anyway she just dont like me talking to people i guess.
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thom
"You need to reassure your partner that this isnt a replacement for them and that it is just part of a much needed healing process"
That's a good point.
My girlfriend spends alot of time on IRC (that's how we met) and she really doesn't talk about much on there, just chatting. She really doesn't understand what I get out of forums that are not just mindless chat. But she's young so I guess I was more that way at her age too (she's 24).
But I don't think she really minds, as long as I don't neglect her (I don't).
