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  Do you remember the girl in the coffee shop?

  by quellycatface in

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  2. friends

  i posted a few weeks back, about a young girl having a study in a local coffee shop.

  the sister she was studying with i knew, from my ex kh.. i saw them again today.

  i acted on the advice from my previous post and wrote a note.

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  JWdaughter

  good job
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  Tainted Love: Your JW wedding

  by Julia Orwell in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  mine was actually great because my non-jw parents decided to pay for the reception, limo, cake, dress, honeymoon, and more.

  i can thank my non-jw parents for what a totally fun day it was.. but, half or more of the guests were jws, jws who don't speak to me anymore.

  some have even slandered and abused me.

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  JWdaughter

  Only people that matter in the pics are the spouses. The rest of them are passing in the breeze of life anyway. Even someof the spouses:)
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  Tainted Love: Your JW wedding

  by Julia Orwell in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  mine was actually great because my non-jw parents decided to pay for the reception, limo, cake, dress, honeymoon, and more.

  i can thank my non-jw parents for what a totally fun day it was.. but, half or more of the guests were jws, jws who don't speak to me anymore.

  some have even slandered and abused me.

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  JWdaughter

  My favorite wedding: A JP here in Brazoria County (Pearland) married my husband and I.Didn't require a witness so he just started a simple ceremony (didn't leave God out of it,which we appreciated) and when we were done, there was applause behind us as everyone in the county holiday party heard there was a wedding. . . so we had a nice venue, friendly, happy people to congratulate us and honest to god, it felt like we had gotten married in Mayberry (Pearland Texas ROCKS).

  Ultimate in cheap wedding-didn't charge for the service(or accept anything)and we had beautiful decorations and food courtesy of Brazoria County employees (ok, didn't eat,but it looked pretty and the holiday cake looked like a modest sized wedding cake).

  No JW wedding. Ever. Thank God! Sorry to hijack, I just liked my cheap wedding so much I had to tell y'all about it! Iwent to a lot of JW weddings. Some were fun,some were boring. Depends on the congregation and the planning, I guess. My favorite was a potluck picnic. I thought that was brilliant when I was 9.Sunshine, bbq and had at a park.It was fun.
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  BOE Letter: New Adjustments

  by pixel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  **this was predicted from some members here**.

  to all congregations .

  re: adjustments in organizational terminology and assembly arrangements .

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  JWdaughter

  Less time at the assemblies/conventions is a good thing. And the one day bit will make it easier for faders to miss, I think. Plus, there will be more of them around and going to another more convenient time (as my mom does frequently anyhow) will probably be more common. One day is easier to put off-its not that big a deal, you know!
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  How many in the cong visited you when you started fading

  by joe134cd in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm just curious speaking from a person who has stopped going to meetings.

  i have heard reports from inactive ones (or from ones who the elders suspect of going to the dark side) of having so many visits from elders (cong members) that it got to the point of harassment.

  surprisingly i have to say from personal experience and from numerous others that i have spoken to that the exact opposite has been the case.

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  JWdaughter

  No one ever visited me except to sell me Melaluca (aunt and uncle). They are both out now(well, he died, she left after the divorce)
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  If you are still in and a JWs health care agent, What to do?

  by BU2B in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am in this position.

  i am my fathers health care agent, and my wifes as well.

  if they are ever in a serious accident or emergency, do you think it would be unethical to allow blood to be used on them?

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  If that policy does her in and she is gone, she will be happy going that way. If I defy her and she lives, I might as well be dead to her. Seriously. She is over 70 now. She isn't going to change and I dont want her last years being lonely and devastated because she is shunning me. NO, I don't think it is better that she is dead than I am shunned, i just dont want her miserable on both the blood and shunning thing. That's no way to live. She is alone enough-I live half a continent away from her. Does that sound cold. I think it sort of does, but I can't imagine leaving her basically depressed and miserable because of the impact of having been given blood when she is totally repulsed at the idea. That just seems kind of mean.
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  If you are still in and a JWs health care agent, What to do?

  by BU2B in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am in this position.

  i am my fathers health care agent, and my wifes as well.

  if they are ever in a serious accident or emergency, do you think it would be unethical to allow blood to be used on them?

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  JWdaughter

  Just have them write it out explicitly what they want in a health care will kind of thing. That way, it isn't on you other than to agree that yes, it is indeed their will to do so. This actually will protect their interests and yours in case of the issue ever being raised. It gives you the freedom,if ever asked about YOUR feelings (in a court or something) to state what you want is not necessary what they want, but you are trying to respect their choice as much as you regret the necessity to do so.

  Get it in writing! Not just your POA, but their actual health care directive.
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  If you are still in and a JWs health care agent, What to do?

  by BU2B in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am in this position.

  i am my fathers health care agent, and my wifes as well.

  if they are ever in a serious accident or emergency, do you think it would be unethical to allow blood to be used on them?

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  JWdaughter

  honestly, it is my mom's written and stated wishes and I told her I would respect her wishes though I disagree with her strongly. I know that in spite of HER beliefs that my dad receieved blood at the end of his life (not to save it, but to give him a little strength). As it is, she had several surgeries since my dad passed and all could easily have needed blood if there was any slip-but no such worries. She did fine and was up and at 'em in no time.Sooner than a woman her age should expect in any case!

  She worried during my 13+ surgeries that I would need blood and I told her I would take it were it necessary. It never was (and several of them easily could have needed it too!)I am anemic and received iron infusions and she kept thinking it was blood when she came to me at the clinic (3 hour treatment). Nurses kept telling her it wasn't. Doctor told her. They totally thought she was obsessed. They have dealt with JW patients (like her) and saw many suffer (and perhaps die) needlessly. They all thought it was BS and felt sorry for her-especially the old nurse who had seen the whole range of WT teachings on the blood issue and knew them for what they are-professionally as a hemotology and oncology nurse. I think they all treaeted me even nicer just knowing my mom (and they were kind to her, too!). It was a very caring office to go to-they had a lot of seriously ill patients, I was just the luckiest one there, I think!

  Anyway, sorry I diverged from subject, but I think it is good to respect their wishes, but still take opportunity to drop some clues their way if you can. I actually went to one of her no blood pre surgery sessions (about an hour with a JW nurse/tech to explain what and what she would/would not take and coach her a LOT on what the WT says) and asked some slightly challenging but reasonable in the context of the situation, questions. Might want to be very available for such sessions if you can be. Major hospitals will do this. Ours was a catholic hospital, and they were not hesitant about caring for JWs according to their wishes.
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  At what point did you destroy your Blood card?

  by BU2B in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know for me it was soon after lurking here for awhile and reading some threads on the issue.

  i remenber when i tore it into little tiny pieces.

  it felt so liberating..

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  JWdaughter

  So long ago that I don't remember if I had one. I must have, but I was 15 when i left and I am nearly 50 now! Youch!!!! I remember wondering if my dad would rescue me (I think I was pretty sure that push come to shove, he would stick up for me).

  I think that is one of the most twisted unneccessary teachings I have ever seen in a cult. Just sayin'.
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  My JW mom is coming to visit this Friday!!

  by Faithful Witness in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my parents are recent converts to jw (both baptized).

  i was never a jw, but did study with them for a long time.

  after doing research, my husband and i quit going to meetings and stopped the bs.

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  JWdaughter

  You rock. I'm proud of both of you because you love and appreciate each other enough to not let your differences matter more than your love.

  That is really a thing to be thankful of for both of you

  Michelle