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  Baptism at age 11 next Saturday

  by Fatfreek in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just learned that one of my grandsons (whom i've never met) will be baptized on saturday.

  he will be twelve in november.

  what's happening within the publishing company to inspire this sort of thing?

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  I know we are not the norm but she is doing great. To toot her horn ... she ended up home schooling 6th-8th grade because of the fact she thought she wasn't learning anything much in public school (just be taught the state test information). And because right around that time the witnesses (adults including my sister) where basically stalking her at school. She completed 6th-8th grades in 2 years and entered High School. She basically skipped her Sophomore year also. She is now 14 and a Junior and is currently taking college classes simultaneously.

  this is just from me not holding her back and trying to support her aspirations. Where one might have thought that was a huge mistake in the JW baptism issue (which I admit it could have bit me in the ass). It's the same drive that makes her excel and motivates her in the rest of her life. I did not and do not now feel comfortable with anything other than supporting that drive and of course to the best of my knowledge and ability at any given time keeping her safe and prepared in the process.

  OK so that is 3 cents ... tehehee

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  Baptism at age 11 next Saturday

  by Fatfreek in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just learned that one of my grandsons (whom i've never met) will be baptized on saturday.

  he will be twelve in november.

  what's happening within the publishing company to inspire this sort of thing?

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  Well no one is probably going to want to hear this part of it but I will say it anyway.

  My daughter now 14 got baptized at 9 or 10. I tried to whole her back but it was what she really wanted and at the time I couldnt see why not. I was in it full force and blinded hook line and sinker.

  The funny thing is we have both been out in august what will be 3 years. She started waking up around the time I did. That was when she was about 11 or so. And I must say she was fully woke just a minute of two before me. Our last meeting I gave a talk (just to say what I felt my heart needed to say for my own benefit). Then when I sat down I looked at her and she looked at me and I said 'are you ready' and she said 'yes'. So we got up and walked out. We have and had very open communication and some where deep we both new that chapter was closed and we would not be revisiting it.

  So the moral of this story is kids baptised early or not can wake up and get on with thier life just like adults can. I know adults who were never baptized who are still inslaved to the JW mindset. My daughter being able to see it for herself and walk away made her stronger to stand up when she sees the local JW's at school. It helps her not to be sucked into that crap again. But at the same time she is able to honor that others believe it hook line and sinker like she and I both did at one time. And I might add it also helps her to not become inslaved (rather mentally or physically or emotionally) to all the other people, organizations, society, etc that would love to take over telling her how to think, act and/or believe.

  Well that's my 2 cents ~ remeber though 2 cents cant even by you a piece of gum these days.

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  What Is Your View Toward Religions & "Religious" People?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my take on religions in general is that they all either give hope or some type of contentment for the person who takes their religion seriously.

  if they're good, they go to heaven or to some better condition.

  some religions are more radical than others and these types, i stay away from.. regarding those that are very religious, i'm generalizing here, but i think most of them are extremists in one way or another.

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  I feel ...

  Religion is a security blanket that some people never need, others grow out of and still others will die holding on to it for dear life.

  Religious People ... I feel "live and let live". And as long as your living doesn't harm me and ones in my 'heart care' then I could care less what you believe. But also don't have the expection of me changing to fit your beliefs.

  They are JUST beliefs. They are like a$$holes. We all have them but mine should not effect/harm you.

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  Marrying a non-witness

  by why??? in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  this is my first post and im nervous but i've read many so far.

  my situation is this im going to be 21 in june and i'm in love with my boyfriend but he not a witness and i am( i have been my entire life) my parent found out and forbid me to see him and even told me to leave, i did leave for a day, but they called me back.

  but they still hate that i have any contact with him...and we still want to get married.

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  I married a non-witness while I was a very active witness in 1999. To my surprize it was not considered a disfellowshiping offense. (Fornication and loose conduct is but apparently not marrying 'outside the Lord'. But I did marry and then told the elders. The way the friends treated me and my own self guilt was another issue. Depending on how small the town is and how (extra-ordinarily) closed minded and judgemental your paticular congregation is will determine how others treat you.

  And all the other things you will face is a whole nother issue. But I wont address them since you did not bring them up.
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  Are you still close to any of your Witness friends, who are still active?

  by passive suicide in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  after awhile i feel like they're lost........i don't even know what ta talk about.

  i'm an equal opportunity judgemental a-hole.

  weird.

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  Nope. Nothing in common.

  Besides they wouldn't want to hang around me because I am demonize ... no or is it I'm gay ... hell I don't even remember what the last rumor was. teheheee
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  Does A School Yard Bully Attitude Take Over This Discussion Board?

  by The wanderer in

  1. jw
  2. friends

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  with me and when we met, he would bring along two of his friends and i .

  sometimes, i would knock their block off and sometimes, it was the other.

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  I have seen this type of attitude here and of course other places. It is a turn off for me. I think that maybe it is the JW mentality still hanging on ... the 'i have the truth' mentality. As if that person KNOWS the ONLY way to be or think etc. I try to stay away from mentalities like that. They give me the JW heebee geebees.

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  REALLY NEED SOME HELP HERE!

  by sinis in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just to reiterate, i have not been to a meeting in years, and have no intention of going back.

  my wife on the other hand is a "cold"/"lukewarm" jdub.

  i really like it that way as she is not "strong" and misses a lot of meetings.

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  I wish you luck. You are definitly in a predicament. If you choose to go through what ever it takes to stay with her this is definitly a fly in the soup.

  I don't think talking to the will be studiers would do any good. When it comes to your words vs what they think Jah wants them to do, you will loose every time, if they are hook line and sinkers. Besides in the end it has to be your wife's choice. If she stays on that see saw ~ your life is a see saw too by the very essence of your connection. So just be prepared to accept that if you choose to stay in it no matter what. Some here have found a measure of happiness in simular situations from what I read.

  Personally though I don't have that much patience for a grown person who by their behavior makes my life ongoingly sad. But that's just me...and I honor each situation and person is different. Good Luck.
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  Do your burial wishes reflect your inner most beliefs?

  by Gregor in

  1. jw
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  the subject of how ones remains are dealt with, i think, is very revealing of ones core beliefs.

  i've heard atheists say that under no circumstances would they want to be cremated.

  that, to me, is inconsistent with their proclaimed viewpoint.

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  This is a pretty interesting subject ...

  my wishes have been 'do whatever is cheapest'. I think that is cremation. I could truly care less what happens to this body after I die. Makes no never mind to me.

  I guess the funny part is I am not an atheist in the usual definition of the word.

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  Are you: Disfellowshipped; Disassociated; Irregular: Memorial Attender: N

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  good evening,.

  i am a virgin to this forum do bear with me!.

  i am curious who visits.

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  QUITER ~ Cold Turkey August of 2004.

  Woke the hell up!!! Don't plan on ever going to sleep again in that way!

  Wooo Hooo!!! Life is GOOOOOD!!
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  Freedom of Speech

  by Scully in

  1. social
  2. family

  my family has had an interesting evolution over the past few years of being exjws.. as jws, it didn't even occur to us to use profanity or vulgar language.

  jehovah's witnesses don't speak that way - at least that's how i was brainwashed to believe - although i knew plenty of jws who do.. once we started experiencing the real world, it no longer seemed like such a crime (or sin, to be more precise) to say the occasional word that might get *bleeped* on tv.. after a while though, it grew old.

  i started to feel that it wasn't my nature to talk that way, and using that language was not conducive to who i wanted to be as person and a professional.

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  There are allot of freedoms that have criterias and stipulations.

  i.e. All adults by law have the right to smoke tobacco. but it is stipulated that in certain restuarants and places of business it is not allowed.

  We all have freedom of speech but if you curse out your teacher you will be expelled, if you tell the president you are going to kill him you will be arrested. etc..

  There are rules no matter where you are that effect freedoms. And there are consequesnces (be it good or bad) for every decision you make. And the rules of your house may be not to have curse words. Your teenager is probably going to use any words he/she wants to while not in your presences. But there are house rules and you are perfectly able to explain those rules and have an expectation of them being respected.

  Personally I could care less if my daughter says curse words. As long as she is not calling me names (unspoken but repected house rule). She is smart enough to know who she can say stuff like that to and who she can't. And if her wisdom in this area doesn't kick in when speaking to someone who has the authority to make her have a bad consequence (ie teachers and such) then I bet the next time she will remember if she doesn't want that same consequence to happen again. She recognizes freedom vs limited authority vs situational rules. I think all teenagers pretty much get this concept. They just try to push and see how far they can go. It is up to you to draw your house boundaries and rules in the sand.

  Well ... that's my 2 cents. And you cant even buy bubble gum wiht 2 cents anymore.

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  Good luck.