Carla, I`m sorry if I`m butting in here, but your post and situation sounds so interesting, I just wanted to give you some advice (if you really want to understand more of this, and get to the bottom of the thoughts of your husband on this):
"We don't know who will be". But to me this sounds like the view for the 'public'
You`re absolutely right. It IS the view for the public!
He doesn't really believe we will be destroyed. How is that possible? Does he figure because we are related we get off the hook? He seems unable or unwilling to process the info of the wt where it pertains to his loved ones.
...no, if he truly believes (and it really sounds like he does...), he doesn`t think you`re going to get off the hook. At least I don`t think so. Maybe he has a hope, deep down, that you will eventually embrace his truth, go to KH, get baptised etc. He`s probably put a lot of thought into this, and knows that you`re not going to get off the hook!! I am pretty sure he doesn`t believe that you will, and if he ever says so, its probably also a "view for the public"! I`m sorry to have to tell you this, but that`s what i think. And if you have children under the age of 14-15, he`s probably betting on that they get to enter paradise with him, as "children ride on their parents tickets". I doubt that he is "unwilling to process the info of the wt where it pertains to his loved ones". It just doesn`t sound right to me. Of course I could be wrong, but I strongly suggest you ask him about this.
He too relishes in the gloom & doom of the news
Of course he does. I think JWs do that even more now, than before 1995. The "end signs" became so much more important after they changed the meaning of the term "generation".
He says they don't pray for the destruction of the world just for jah's kingdom to come and everything will be made better
Ask him how they expect for Jehovahs kingdom to come without an all-consuming, apocalyptic orgy of mass-murder and bloodfeast to clear the way for that Kingdom. Ask him if he don`t, deep down, look forward for that day to come. And then ask him how he can look forward to a day when you, his wife, is going to be killed!
You mean AFTER you get to pick up the bones of your family and neighbors? AFTER you watch the birds literally eat out eyeballs and such? No comment. ; No comment when you ask about how life will really be in cleaning up the mess. On one hand they say God will provide and on the other they will be responsible for cleaning up Armageddon
They truly believe they will be put in charge of cleaning up the mess! It`s completely sick, not to mention inlogical. If God can kill all the people of the earth (almost 6 billion) in the blink of an eye, why would he put the survivors in charge of cleaning up the mess? And one more thing: They probably think about THIS part of the doctrine with some sick, fearful fascination/gloating etc, you know, "interestingly sick". Sends shivers down their spines. Needless to say, none of these "survivors" has any idea what it`s like to see/touch a dead body. Most people don`t, and JWs in particular don`t. They don`t serve in the army, and they don`t go hunting. Hence, they will very rarely get to see a corpse, whether it be human or animal. I do some hunting. Not often, and mostly duck.hunting, but I have held the head of a dead elk in my hands. The first time you hold something dead in you`re hands (and I`ve even only held dead animals in my hands, never humans, thank God!), it`s not "interesting" or "fascinating" at all, it`s just sad and scary. And slightly disgusting. It`s nothing at all like what they expect it to be like.