| Struggled with the same thing. You might be better off doing what we did, and arrange for an apartment close to your home. This will give him some independance and still be close enough to both of you for needed help. Most parents who have been independant, I don't think they actually want to live in the same building, but just close enough to have regular visits and the support they will need. Actually this works out better, because when you do see your parent or inlaw, you actually have a nicer visit than if they are always right there. However, who knows, some may have a an exceptional relationship with a parent and living in the same space might work out great. OC |
Posts by ocsrf
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25Aged parents...........
by vitty inwould you have an elderly parent live with you.
my inlaws drive me mad, we had my fil stay for 6 days a couple of weeks back and gee was i glad when he went back home!.
the problem is my mil is going in a home shes very ill and he is all alone, hes quite fit at the moment but he is 87 years and we live a couple of thousand miles away, id love to offer if the time came but i know in reality id hate it, especially as id be home with him all day while my husband was at work.
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Not really, only in as much if someone came up to me looking for help, wanting my services; however, I have seen unabashed marketing going on amoung others that made me sick. For the most part I preferred not to do too much because I didn't want to have anything to do with business create a problem within the congregation. OC
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Nationwide elders' campaign to find JWs using www.myspace.com?
by rebel8 inthis was posted on http://forum.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=messageboard.viewthread&entryid=8659411&groupid=100205476&adtopicid=27&mytoken=0b2c7ba0-19a8-493e-b7d71de149831b6b768857454 yesterday.
is it true?
imbedding the page below.
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ocsrf
Well, lets put it this way, I am 51 and most of the elders in my hall are younger than me and are the one visiting me due to my lack of service and poor meeting attendance. The other congregations I have been with in the last 5 years have men in their 40s, 50s, 60s as elders. And I have noticed that the Society is very willing to allow late 20 somethings to be elders as well. OC
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Nationwide elders' campaign to find JWs using www.myspace.com?
by rebel8 inthis was posted on http://forum.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=messageboard.viewthread&entryid=8659411&groupid=100205476&adtopicid=27&mytoken=0b2c7ba0-19a8-493e-b7d71de149831b6b768857454 yesterday.
is it true?
imbedding the page below.
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ocsrf
A huge number of congregations have few or no elders under the age of 70, and who have rarely or never even turned a computer on, much less surfed the internet.
As mentioned this statement is completely untrue. The Society is pushing younger and younger ones to reach to be MS and elders. The computer is a fact of life for anyone working at any type of office job, and many in Bethel use them as well (computers).Interesting thread, would not surprise me if there is some effort to councel the rank and file from doing this.
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Why do they let Children Get Baptized?
by Dune inso i've been wondering about it recently.
i was baptized when i was 11 years old and have been a witness for about 8 years now.
since i was 11 (yes, since 11) i've been reading the watchtower, doing the mics and all that stuff.
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ocsrf
Dear Dune, You sound disappointed that you can't be a MS. If you have been on this web page for any length of time, than why would you even think of doing that.
I believe they like to baptize young ones for the same reason Catholics baptize infants. The younger the better, once baptized you are on the hook for ever more.
By they way, if you really do want to be a MS I would suggest for your own mental health not to read all this material because it will be impossible to do both, eventually it will catch up with you and eat you up inside out.
OC
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All Ex-JW's...what made you get out?
by noelle2375 injust curious about what made you leave the religion?
was it hard?
is it possible to get someone that has jw beliefs to see the other side?
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I am still in and when you have family it is very hard to leave. If your bf has family still in, he will be torn between being in and out. If you can get him to read this web site and some others that tell another side of the organization then perhaps in can happen but be wary. Some JWs leave because of marital problems find a woman like yourself and than want to return and think it will become OK. They think they are doing you a favor becasue now you will have a chance for ever lasting life in a paradise.
This will put you under the gun to accept these teachings or live a lonely life while your husband is out dealing with all the Society non-sense. And believe me they have more duties than you can shake a stick at. And if you try to do anything you enjoy that has to do with the holidays you will meet a lot of resistance from your husband.
If this last paragraph sounds like hell, believe me it will be. You both need to agree that you are both in or both out.
OC
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Good Elders and Bad Elders, how do you know which is which?
by JH in.
probably some elders really care for brothers and sisters in the congregation, while other elders just do their job automatically like yes men... probably you've know both kinds.. there is an elder phoning me once a month, very regularly, and i just don't know if it's because he cares for me, or because he has a boss that will question him on my whereabouts.... i was just wondering if he was a good loving elder, or just a yes man following orders...
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ocsrf
Depends on who you talk to. If you ask the CO it has more to do with how things are running, are the numbers up. If you are talking to the teenage boy who could use a little direction and an occassional pat on the back, you will get a whole other story! OC
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Tips For Folks Who Can't Completely Fade From The "Truth"
by metatron innot everyone is fortunate enough to be able to fade away from the "truth".
lots of people.
are stuck, for various reasons, with the continuing pretense of still "being in the truth".. there are, however, ways to make this annoyance more bearable.
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. The people you thought mattered will start shunning/avoiding you although you are still a JW, not DA'd or DF'd.
Blondie, your first line is so true. I remember on person in the food store look the other way and I wasn't even fading at this point just not doing much.Make new friends through work, school, the neighborhood, volunteer groups, non-JW relatives, etc.
The problem for me is the two things I would like to join would probably get me in trouble with local cong., Coast Guard Aux. and some kind of martial arts.
OC
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Jehovah's Witness shoots wife for "straying from the faith"
by truthseeker inhttp://www.nydailynews.com/front/story/361673p-307958c.html
jehovah's witness shoots wife
a bible-thumping bronx man gunned down his estranged wife and then killed himself after accusing her of straying from their faith and sleeping with another man, police and neighbors said yesterday.
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ocsrf
This didn't happen because these people were Jehovah's Witnesses, as some are bound to morbidly try to point out.
Agreed, on the flip side of this, JWs will gossip together and look for some kind of spiritual weakness, such as they did not do what they should of been doing; otherwise, this horrible thing would never of happened.OC
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ocsrf
If this person is your friend, and if you want to stay within goodstanding, you will need to keep your assoc. on the QT. The level of your association is what will get you talked to. I don't think most elders would make a huge deal if they saw you being polite, but if theysaw you together at the local bowling alley, well, xpect the worst. I don't know what that would be, I have not been any kind position to know for sometime.
OC