Finally-Free

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  Is it just human nature to gossip or are JW's worse? Feelings are hurt....

  by mamalove in

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  it is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.. i am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is df, from her ubber righteous sister.

  it was via text, so it was there to read.

  the thing i can't figure out is i have nothing to do with this woman.

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  People who live full and meaningful lives don't have time to gossip. They're too busy living. Gossiping is a way of distracting oneself from the empty, meaningless, worthlessness of one's own life. Considering how cloistered away JWs are from the real world, it's no wonder they have nothing better to do than gossip. You don't have to be df'd to be a victim of it. I've heard them gossip about elders, CO's, pioneers, and even their families and "best friends". Every JW is subject to slander from their "brothers and sisters". It's probably the single most defining characteristic of the JWs.

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  How Many Of You "Reached Out" For Extra "Privileges"?

  by minimus in

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  whether you are a male or female, the organization was always making you try to reach out for extra privileges whether it be pioneering for a month, year or a lifetime, going to bethel, or becoming a "servant" in the hall.. did you feel compelled to "reach out" or did you want to do more for "jehovah god"?.

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  Sure, I "reached out". Without a title there's no social life in the JWs. If a man is a JW for years and never has a title he's treated like complete shit by everyone. Since I never got a title I never had a social life. It bothered me at first, but soon I got used to it and stopped "reaching out". Eventually I preferred it. I focused on my career and snoozed through the meetings. That's when the elders really got pissed, because they couldn't hurt me anymore. The more they ignored me the happier I was. When they took away my "privileges" I told them they could take the BS out of my house too. Bonus!

  Elders are fundamentally stupid and are unable to make a connection between a cause and effect. When an investment performs badly, you pull it out and invest elsewhere. I wasn't prepared to invest anymore of myself.

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  Sports That Do Not Interest You

  by minimus in

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  one sport that i think is lame is pro hockey.

  it's the only sport where players are expected to beat the crap out of each other.

  it's not as much about scoring but how many punches were thrown!

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  Boxing is a one on one sport

  So is nude female jell-o wrestling.

  Just saying.

  You mean they don't have tag team matches in jell-o wrestling? I sense a business opportunity. W
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  Sports That Do Not Interest You

  by minimus in

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  one sport that i think is lame is pro hockey.

  it's the only sport where players are expected to beat the crap out of each other.

  it's not as much about scoring but how many punches were thrown!

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  I'm not interested in any sports at all.

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  My wife wants to plan an anniversary party but we have different social circles...

  by garyneal in

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  perhaps some of you who are unbelieving spouses married to witnesses have had to deal with this at one point of another.

  this is the first time for me and my wife and it has her concerned.

  my wife wants to plan an anniversary party for us and she wants to invite everyone that she and i know.

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  Maybe it's a regional thing, but in 20 years the only anniversary party I heard of among the JWs was for our congregation PO. It was in his home. The highlight, for me anyway, was when several sound cars with anti-JW signs and banners drove by the house. They were obviously "apostates". A few of us went out to the porch to watch them.

  Personally, I think most JWs would decline an invitation to an anniversary party if one of the spouses was an "unbeliever", especially if there are a lot of "worldly" people invited.

  It could be a wake up call for your wife if most of her JW friends don't show up. It would hurt like hell though.

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  were you a smiling JW?

  by highdose in

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  just recently in the past 3 years that i've been out i've noticed i'm now getting laughter and smile lines.

  nothing aging but i've realised i spent the rest of my life priviously not smiling at all.

  people used to say to me " smile highdose!

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  People used to say to me " smile highdose!" i used to think " give me something to smile about!".

  This was my own experience, verbatim, many times. My mother's too. I wonder if they learn that in elder school.

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  Funny how your tastes in the opposite sex change, and how easy it is to forget the past.

  by miseryloveselders in

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  i had to give a talk away today, which came up somewhat unexpected.

  i had a couple days to get this outline together, and thats sufficient enough time for me, but i prefer knowing a week in advance.

  at any rate, it all worked out.

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  Regarding how tastes change, I agree. I used to lust after petite blondes. Now I don't give them a second look. I prefer red or black hair now.

  I don't even think of most of my former "crushes" any more, but I'll admit to having a soft spot for a handfull who were exceptional in the sack.

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  so oompa got df'd this week...

  by oompa in

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  no call to invite me to a committee meeting...no notification of deciding i should be df'd....no telling my jw wife of the announcement...not a chance to appeal what i did not even know what was going on...my mini-serve son is devasted....he even researched it....told me to go to page 153-154 of the od book...never heard of it but it is a green hardback given to all who are to be baptized.

  wow...the elders broke every rule in this book as to my case.... i have no respect for these men that can take away your jw family without even telling you they are going to.

  my jw son has now begged me to meet with my committee...even though there is prob zero chance they can reverse the decision...that chance is from when they let you know...and you have to appeal by letter within 7 days (i cant make this stuff up!!

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  The last thing you need is pieces of crap like them in your life. They've shown themselves for what they are. If you ever see a JW burning in the street, don't even think about pissing on him to ease his pain.

  The important thing is you're alive, and I hope you make a full recovery.

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  Has Feminism Screwed with the current Generation ?

  by caliber in

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  i present this video as a starting point to spur discussion (this is like a red dot topic.... wink wink .

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwr1z4aiywm&feature=related.

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  I was not put here on earth to be anyone's slave.

  I agree. Neither was I. That's why I'm divorced now.

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  Has Feminism Screwed with the current Generation ?

  by caliber in

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  i present this video as a starting point to spur discussion (this is like a red dot topic.... wink wink .

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwr1z4aiywm&feature=related.

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  Finally-Free

  The problem is that too many men are "easy". If all men adopted my attitude there would be no problems. If a woman is interested in me, here are the hoops she must jump through:

  1. She must inform me of her intentions in writing.
  2. I respond to let her know whether or not her intentions interest me. If interested I will provide her with my lawyer's contact info.
  3. Her lawyer must contact my lawyer to negotiate terms and conditions. As the initiator, she assumes all the expense for this.
  4. If the terms and conditions are acceptable, a contract will be signed in triplicate by the parties involved, lawyers, and witnesses.
  5. Repeat above steps for each progressive level of the relationship.

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