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  Elder's wife nosing in... need help with a letter

  by merfi in

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  hey all.

  i read through my 10yo open msn window where she was chatting with the elder's wife... a few of the highlights are:.

  do you think you might like to come to a meeting sometime?

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  snarf

  Rachel,

  Just when you start living your life, they come back in and mess with you in one way or another...too bad it has to be through a 10 year old. I would just keep it simple and to the point. Contact with your 10 year old daughter is unacceptable especially without your knowledge. If you find that they have contact with your daughter again without your knowledge, especially involving picking her up and taking her to a location without your knowledge you WILL file a restraining order against them as that is kidnapping. Make a copy of the online conversation for court documentation just in case. Also, I would delete the contact info from your daughter's online account so they cant mess with her head.

  So sorry to see you have to go through this crap, hope it goes away fast for you.

  Lots of hugs!!!!

  - Kris
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  Raising well rounded and balanced kids...what have you done right?

  by My MILs worst nightmare, a nonJW in

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  parenting is one of the most difficult yet rewarding things there is.

  doesn't every parent want their children to have a good moral compass, to have good manners, to be socially adept, to be compassionate, to reach their potential and even overachieve in terms of school and career, to appreciate and understand history, science, the arts and the world as a whole, to play team sports when they are younger so they can benefit from physical activity and the comraderie of a team sport, and above all to be a critical thinkers who are strong and independent so that they will not become easy prey to abusive organizations and/or abusive people?.

  as a parent i have many times felt like a real failure and at other times like i am actually helping them to reach their potential.. what do you feel that you have done right in raising well rounded and balanced kids?

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  Positive reinforcement! No matter how much trouble my daughter gets into, which really isn't that much, I ALWAYS remind her how smart, beautiful and loved she is...no matter what. I keep the lines of communication rolling...ALWAYS ! Never be too busy to sit and talk with your kids when they ask for a chat. I always tell her to tell me the truth, even if it hurts my feelings or shocks me, cause I was a kid too and I had the same experiences and questions, plus if she can't come to me with the smaller things, she definately won't come to me with the bigger issues.

  The most important thing in my life when I was a struggleing single mom was to NEVER EVER EVER put a man before my child...EVER!! If a man wants to be a part of your life, he WILL take a backseat to your child, your child is always your first priority.
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  What planted the seed of doubt that lead you to leave or think of leaving?

  by NanaR in

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  i've been thinking of this a lot lately.

  the following experience ties my first doubt in with my present life.

  as a backdrop to this, you should know that i was a 5th generation "raised in the truth" jw through my mother (her great-grandfather got "the truth" from pastor russell).

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  Hypocrasy, just plain old hypocrasy.
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  Do You Really "Care" If Someone's Gay Or Not???

  by minimus in

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  so often, you see people all up in arms because it is revealed that an individual is "gay".

  do you really care??

  personally, i don't.

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  I really don't care if someone is gay or not, cause no one cares if I am gay or not..lol. On the issue of gay marriage, I say why not? They pay their taxes, contribute to society, volunteer and vote just like the heterosexual population. They should be allowed the same privileges as any American, because they are Americans. As far as the Bible debate goes, they are the only ones that have to answer for their actions, not us. Drunks, child molesters, idolators, greedy people and wife beaters are all allowed to marry so what makes a homosexual worse in the eyes of the church, if you believe that lifestyle is wrong. To me it is nothing more than a political issue that seems to go towards the favor of the one donating the most money.
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  do you agree with this statement by the org?

  by PaNiCAtTaCk in

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  this was taken off the jw-media website

  conscience

  jehovah's witnesses avoid making rules and regulations beyond those provided in the scriptures, and they do not follow traditions that contradict bible teachings.

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  They just love to keep the cow dung warm don't they.
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  Would you bail your JW family out of a financial bind?

  by unbeliever in

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  i am so upset with my mother.

  she took a huge mortgage out on her house which was completely paid for.

  her elder husband wanted to expand his business.

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  Wow, what a crappy situation. I hope all works out to the benefit of you, your brother and your mother. Sounds like you and your brother have the smarts of the family. Just make sure EVERYTHING is in writing, signed and notarized before handing over any money for the payment of the irresponsible stepfather's debt. Glad to hear you have a lawyer on the case. At least the good thing is by you and your brother getting the house in your names (if it turns out that way), you won't have to worry about YOUR memories going to unappreciative stepchildren. Hope it all turns out in your favor...goodluck.
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  Home Based Businesses

  by buffalosrfree in

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  anyone know of a good home based business to get int?

  i had a topic on melaleuca and found out from all the comments that it wasn't what i want to get involved in.

  i need to do some type of home based business due to disability situation, i am handicapped and not able to be on the job market anymore so would appreciate any help or ideas at all.

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  My sister in law does medical transcripting from her home and makes about $9.00 an hour doing it.
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  How many are like me?

  by JH in

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  i still believe in god.

  still believe his name is jehovah or something like it.. still believe that jesus is his son, and he isn't god almighty.. don't believe in the trinity.

  i believe in the resurrection.

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  I am on the same page as you, that is why I keep coming here and reading posts, hoping for enlightenment.
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  Did you go to meetings while on vacation?

  by LovesDubs in

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  ugh...i did.

  im so damn spiritual id leave well oiled spots on your suit if you rubbed up against me.

  yeah...i packed kingdom hall clothes and service bags to go on vacation.

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  Heck no !!
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  A bethelites RULES to room with him

  by What-A-Coincidence in

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  1) cologne, aerosol spray, solvent base products.

  i am hypersensitive to solvents.

  solvents used in aerosol sprays, cologne, perfumes affect my health.

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  snarf

  I can understand wanting to keep the room clean, uncluttered and presentable, but to put restrictions on time in bathrrom and phone use? If no one esle needs to use those, just common courtesy would apply. Also, how can he deny a needed area, the kitchenette? Maybe he should take the other room. Who's to say a new roommate can't use it especially if he needs it for medical reasons, special diet, meds, etc.. He obviously has health issues from rule #1. Not a very loving arrangement.