I think everyone's advice here is really good - esp. therapy. It can help you see your own behavior through other eyes, and you can see how sick it is to keep trying to please someone who can't be pleased. I used to be much more of a people pleaser, it is very hard to overcome. But it helps if I keep repeating to myself, "some of these people need to please ME." Toxic people can actually have a bad effect on your immune system - and it can damage your kids emotionally because it is hard to fool kids. They know when something stinks. If they see their mother dealing with it by caving in, it won't help them develop their own self-esteem. For the sake of your children's future, your wife should show them that she demands respect and won't associate with people who don't respect her, even if they are her parents.
Hortensia
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What to do when your parents are toxic?
by Paralipomenon infrom reading people's stories and life experiences i thought i'd poll the members here for some advice.
my inlaws are extremely toxic.
i know, every person says that about their inlaws, but the way they treat their family is absolutely horrible.
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signs
by BR25 init would be alot easier if they had symbols on here for everyone below their names.
i dont know if they do or not.. i try to back the jws, but i dont know if i am talking to athiests, other christians, disfellowshiped ones, or people who just left the truth.
it would be nice to know sometimes.. you might ask why i would wanna know because i should answer everyone the same way, but on here you cant.
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Hortensia
eh, labels, labels. Can't trust 'em. Think of the labels JWs use, for instance. Labels set you up to have expectations about people, and you'll find you are disappointed more often than not. Just take people as they are. Makes me think, too, of S. I. Hayakawa's wonderful old book, "Language in Thought and Action." As he said, typewriter 1 is not typewriter 2. Even if you knew who is gay, who is straight, who is Jw, who isn't, who has been DF, who faded, it still wouldn't tell you about the real person. It would just summon up what you think about that category of person, so you would actually know even less about the people who post here than if you just spent some time reading the posts and jumping in. I've embarrassed myself on this forum by jumping to conclusions, misunderstanding someone's post. It isn't serious.
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Rocky Horror Fans...
by Tuesday inwow two posts from me tonight (it must be because i fell asleep for a good 3 hours when i got home and now i'm not tired).
anyway, how many rocky horror fans out there?.
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Hortensia
I saw it once at midnight at a movie theater in San Diego - was fun esp. because of audience participation. The funniest part was when someone in the audience yelled out "save me seymour" - because of course Little Shop of Horrors had just come out. For my own taste, I liked LSofH better, thought it was funnier and less campy.
free associating here - I remember going to see The War of the Roses with a boyfriend. The theater was full. There were bits where ONLY the women in the audience laughed, and bits where ONLY the men laughed, and there were a few scenes where I heard the men in the audience gasp - that made the movie a lot more interesting.
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Rocky Horror Fans...
by Tuesday inwow two posts from me tonight (it must be because i fell asleep for a good 3 hours when i got home and now i'm not tired).
anyway, how many rocky horror fans out there?.
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Hortensia
I saw it once at midnight at a movie theater in San Diego - was fun esp. because of audience participation. The funniest part was when someone in the audience yelled out "save me seymour" - because of course Little Shop of Horrors had just come out. For my own taste, I liked LSofH better, thought it was funnier and less campy.
free associating here - I remember going to see The War of the Roses with a boyfriend. The theater was full. There were bits where ONLY the women in the audience laughed, and bits where ONLY the men laughed, and there were a few scenes where I heard the men in the audience gasp - that made the movie a lot more interesting.
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List What Things Jehovah's Witnesses Are NOT
by minimus inhere's a few-------jws are not "the happiest people on earth".
they are not the "most educated people on earth" in spite of their enrollment in the theocratic ministry school.. witnesses are not the best neighbors because they won't involve themselves with you unless they can preach to you.. .
any others to make up the list??
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Hortensia
not my problem any more.
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Crappyassed week (Athsma, kidney problems for my little boy!!)
by JWdaughter inok, monday i woke up with a killer backache.
.turned out i sprained my back and was to get to the chiro again the next day.
.except, my 6 yo was in the middle of a hideous athsma attack from mon night on.
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Hortensia
I'm glad to hear the news looks good for your little boy. Such a lot of struggles for a little guy to go through. I hope you'll let everyone know how the surgery goes.
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Larry Birkhead it is!
by startingover inhttp://www.kcra.com/news/11603494/detail.html?treets=sac&tml=sac_natlbreak&ts=t&tmi=sac_natlbreak_1_02490304102007
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Hortensia
made himself look like an insane tramp, too. I got quite a laugh out of all the talk shows that showed him revealing just what a creep he is on national television. Then they made fun of him. He deserved it.
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Male menopause
by onacruse inso someone (who shall remain unnamed .
hogwash, i say!
pure and utter hogwash!!!!!!.
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Hortensia
when was the last time you had a physical exam? Those symptoms could be male menopause or other things - night sweats and hot flashes particularly. Maybe you ought to tell your doctor and just get a physical to make sure nothing's wrong.
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Testing a Hypothesis...
by XJW4EVR ini am interested in getting solid and sound refutations from athiests, agnostics, and critically thinking christians on the following.. take a sheet of paper.
on that sheet draw a circle.
in the middle of the circle, place a dot.
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Hortensia
well nosferatu it's the first time since kindergarten that I have laughed so hard I snorted protein drink out my nose. Of course, in kindergarten it was milk, but you get the point.
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HELP with baby boy names! Contest!
by Jez inwe are having a boy and can't decide on names.
we want something a little different, not in 'the top 10'.
it also has to be english or german orgin.
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Hortensia
please do your son a favor and give him a standard first name and any kind of middle name you like. Then try to think of every possible way kids at school could twist the name or the initials to make something embarassing out of it. I used to have a JW friend who named her son Tucker - imagine what that kid will suffer in school. Also, it you look at the names of really successful people, they are the more ordinary names like John or James or William or (horrors) Donald.