Ryan sounds like one of the good ones. Work with him to raise your child and your lives will be very happy. Now time for my thoughts about your mother. Watch her like a hawk. She may for a time comply with your rules but slowly she will start her tricks again. When your baby is old enough to talk start a routine for talking about what happened at Grandmothers house.(and every other place he may go without you). Once in a while, I would suggest a surprise visit from you if she has him on her meeting nights. Is she home or at the meeting? She doesn't have to know that you check up on her if you don't catch her doing something wrong. Record everything. Write down conversations you have with her with time and dates. Keep it up even if it seems she is following the rules. You never know when that information will come in handy.
Biggest thing of all, love each other and don't let your mother ruin everything. Put aside your anger and spend time with Ryan and the baby doing fun things. Don't let this take over your life.
Bobbi ( still silently giving her mother the finger)
Posts by Bobbi
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100My mom took my son to KH after I told her not to
by unbeliever inreal shock i know that a jw would do that.
i found out today that my mom took my son to the kh behind my back when she was in town visiting.
he's just a little baby so he will have no memories of it.
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WOOHOOOO Welcome Rebelwife!
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Frosty's Tale
by darth frosty inwhat can i say born and raised in the cult.
believed it because it was presented to me in a very logical fashion.
my mother was baptized back in 1954, she studied with an anointed sister.
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What happened with your wife?
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My Story "this is long, I'm sorry"
by ex-nj-jw ini'm not sure i ever really posted my story.
i think i've given bit's and pieces on others threads but not the whole thing on my own thread.
the issue that another member is having with childcare and yet another poster asking me why i'm still here after being out for 24 years has prompted me to type this up.. so here goes:.
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*hugs*
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Reuniting with ex-jws from your home town
by Mysterious inhas anyone had the experience from talking to ex-jws from their home town?
it really is an eerie experience to talk to someone who knows the exact place, circumstance and lifestyle that you do.
even more so than the connectedness of places like jwd.
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I recently reconnected with a couple of friends from my childhood who have left. Very liberating.
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Active Elders who post on JWD
by Honesty indoes your conscience torment you knowing that you are misleading the flock of god as you continue teaching them the heresies of the watchtower society?.
why are you staying in the organization and posting here at the same time?.
do you really believe that you can help your families to reject the watchtower society while remaining an elder and visibly appearing to support their lies and false teachings?.
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I was pleased and a little nonplussed to find active elders posting here. I was raised a JW with a non believing father, in a small town. I looked up to the elders as surrogate fathers and believed them when they told me that I needed a "Spiritual" head to survive until the end. My mother, sister and I lived under the thumb of whatever congregation we attended, and until my teens I didnt' question them. Having an elder here that I can talk to helps me. I now know I am not the only one with these thoughts. Yes, Paralipomenon is my husband, but he is too close. If he had DA'd himself years ago I would have left him, no questions asked. He faded quietly and subtly enough that he didn't raise any red flags. When the time came that I was willing to openly admit I had doubts, I was surprised at how far he had gone. We almost divorced over this whole thing. Everyone has to make thier own choices and do what is best for them. For me having an active elder on these boards is very comforting to me.
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NEW LETTER (sent to all elder bodies)
by Paralipomenon infrom one of our active elders, who wishes to remain anonymous, is a summary of a letter that was sent out to all elders.
big announcement!!!
*to be read with the voice of jim nabors aka gomer pyle* sooprise!
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Hey Para, do you think we can move before then? I am not sure I can handle "Brother Bob" and all his friends getting thier time in "encouraging" me to attend the memorial. Not to mention I will be seriously tempted to call the condo board and report the "JW's" for trespassing, and that will just not end well. We could just leave town and not tell anyone where we are? PLEASE!!!!!!!! Or I could hang a x-mas wreath on the door and hope they assume we moved? or something easter like, help me out here, not sure of the holidays, what coincides with that time of year?
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How Did YOU Find JWD?
by minimus ini used to read the old h2o site and i believe they brought up that this place was up......either that or i typed in jws on search.
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My husband, Paralipomenon, mentioned it when I asked him what "Silent Lambs" was. Later I googled it and started reading. I blame him. Don't worry babe, I still love you.
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Omelette ideas
by R.F. ini absolutely love omelettes.
the problem is, i've come to realize the ones i make are pretty bland.
i only usually use ham, and(or) bacon, sausage, cheese, and sometimes tomatoes.
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Salsa!
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Has any one else gone through chemo would like to compare notes
by lapweaver ini'm going through chemo right now , just had no.
3 of 4 treatments, i would like to talk to others who have or know someone who has.. had started to lose hair on day 15, mostly day 3,4,and 5 after treatments i ache like a bad case of flu and have to stay in bed don't even feel much like tv.
the meds keep away the neasua, very fatigued.. i know there are others that have it alot worse then me, so i'm not complaining just want to know if anyone else would like to talk about it..
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I helped nurse my grandmother thru her cancer treatments. She was diagnosed way too late so it was more a matter of helping her with what time she had left. She went on Carboplatin to try to slow down the growth of the tumors(yes multiple tumors) and never lost her hair. She still felt terrible afterwards. I found that she loved it when I researched all the new information she was getting and broke it down so she could better understand. I also took to emailing and calling her much more often with stories about my kids. She loved hearing about them and would often tell me stories about my mother and her brothers. I got to know her very well in her last few months, and she took the time to really know me. Unfortunately she went downhill very quickly, I was able to get to her bedside in time to say goodbye.
Stay active, stay interested in life. Don't give up!
Bobbi