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mrs. robinson
by mentalclearness inwell i need some advice.
i am 32 years old and involved with a guy who is 25 years old.
he is is super smart and very responsable, treats me with loads of respect and we have a really good connection.
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awake and watching...my divorce is still in process...in fact I´ve been seperated only over a year....and i agree the kids will never meet a ¨boyfriend¨unless it´s someone I´m going to marry.
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mrs. robinson
by mentalclearness inwell i need some advice.
i am 32 years old and involved with a guy who is 25 years old.
he is is super smart and very responsable, treats me with loads of respect and we have a really good connection.
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we talk about everything. I mean he knows more about me and I know info about him that either of us have never shared with anyone else. As far as future kids go, well I wouldn´t mind having another baby in the future. say like 3-5 years...And he says he sees himself married to me. But the one who is scared is me!! I mean I was married for 9 years and I feel really nervous about a commitment like that. We share same thought on values. I mean, priority to him is family. Like he´s beyond the partying stage. And I would say that he´s pretty ambitious. Wants to have his own company and already is working towards that. Has saved money in the bank. In many aspects I see him much more mature than many guys my age.
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mrs. robinson
by mentalclearness inwell i need some advice.
i am 32 years old and involved with a guy who is 25 years old.
he is is super smart and very responsable, treats me with loads of respect and we have a really good connection.
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O.k. well I need some advice. I am 32 years old and involved with a guy who is 25 years old. He is is super smart and very responsable, treats me with loads of respect and we have a really good connection. I have an intuitive relationship. He´s been a great friend. Always supportive and helping me reason out the neurotic thoughts I go through. Such as..what if armageddon is true'?? and all the crazy stuff that comes from growing up a witness. We share the same morbid sense of humor and we always have tons of fun together, In fact hours fly by when we are together..But I have three kids and he is still finishing college and yet to make a life for himself. My children don´t know that we are involved as a couple. He is a friend who sometimes drops by..but not too often..I would like your honest answers here.. what are the chances of a relationship like this working given the circumstances???
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What type of person are you attracted to now?
by Layla33 ini was just thinking about this the other day, about how my ideas of a romantic partner have changed since being a jw.. growing up, i thought i would marry a very upstanding jw, we would pioneer together, do missionary work, have children, see the world.
(never had any thoughts about bethel, though.
) so what it boiled down to was a stepford husband, up tight, not the least bit sexual, closed minded bore.. so now that i have grown up, seen the world, been married (and actually picked a good man the first time, although it didn't work out), i just contrast that with what i am attracted to now.. i like them open minded, earthy, i love artistic types because i am a published writer, hair doesn't matter to me (long/short, bald, etc), challenges convention, very sexual, still like a traveling man.. i am just curious if you anyone else can compare and contrast how their ideas have changed since breaking out the group-think of the jw organization..
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mentalclearness
I married my first husband because he was raised a witness...I thought that would be a recipe for success. Yeah that was a huge mistake!
Now I´m attracted to extremely intelligent men with a sense of humor much like my own. Sarcastic and dark. I like men with ambition and drive, that are spontaneous and love the outdoors. They have to be pretty adventurous and up to trying about everything. I love frank blunt honest men. I can take it for the most part. And of course they have to be loyal. I am bored easily so any monotonous routine like men bore me. And I definitely love the alpha males. I hate a man I can dominate. I may put up a fight but I love a man who can overpower me in the bedroom. I like that power play in sex where I succumb to pleasure. No drugs and I love an idealist....physically, is probably the least of my priorities..
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Singledom - the peaks and troughs?
by Crumpet ini have almost completed the first year of my adult life (since 18) as a bachelorette and was wondering what others' experience of singledom is?
what would you say are the advantages to being single (other than being able to pioneer .
what are the things you miss the most about a relationship?.
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O.k. OOPs..NOT having adult talk.....
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Singledom - the peaks and troughs?
by Crumpet ini have almost completed the first year of my adult life (since 18) as a bachelorette and was wondering what others' experience of singledom is?
what would you say are the advantages to being single (other than being able to pioneer .
what are the things you miss the most about a relationship?.
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mentalclearness
After being married for quite some time, I can honestly say I enjoy being single again. The fact that I don´t have to decide things depending on anyone else but myself and the kiddies is very refreshing. I also can listen to the music I want, wach tv that I´d like to watch, These can seem like small things but it´s very underated IMO. Totally deciding things for myself is just awesome! The down side is having adult talk with someone outside of work. I miss the companionship part of being in a relationship. The snuggling and laughing at stupid stuff together that not everyone gets....The familiarity... But I don´t miss these things enough to be in another relationship that would make me unhappy. So until then, I´ll enjoy being single.
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What Advice Would You Give To One Who Wants To Leave "The Truth"?
by minimus inhow should one go about it?
should they just up and leave family and friends?.
should they take their time and make a plan to slowly fade??
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i think it would depend on the circumstances. But definitely I would say get a social network because that´s going to be necesarry when you think you´re going crazy....I would say maybe get a class or job that ineterferes with meetings and then you can miss and just not go back..Or move away and never go back..Don´t get your publisher cards..Don´t tell anyone you´re leaving...
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What were your "coming out" of the WT stages?
by changeling ini think that we all leave the wt in stages.
i think that when we first "see" the wt as false we do not fully understand the implications.
i think we all go though stages before it's all settled in our minds and that the stages and the "road" may be different for each one.. here are my stages:.
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1. started noticing that elder body was not interested in real problems of people in hall. Just had to make sure everyone looked good for co´s visit.
Field service was always really horrible for. The whole idea of invading someone´s space and talking about something so personal. Plus add to the fact the ridiculous I felt talking about paradise...So I had been irregular for many years.
2. realized that holy spirit cannot be in commitee meetings as so many are botched up.
3. looked around and saw all the hall was filled with lying double lifing teenagers with very few exceptions who were pretty much doing normal adolescent things. The parents and elders were going nuts. But I saw no unconditional love. Which got me to think about my own adolescence and things that had happened, how i felt etc..
Now I have to say that unlike many here I was never completely convinced on doctrine issues. I always considered myself to be an anti spiritual person because I had difficulty visualizing paradise or god, or angels, etc....So I kept on praying for FAITH....I mean I prayed for faith forever and nothing happened..No awe inspiring experience which made me hold on to my religion... But I kept on attending because I thought of it as a good community with morals and values etc..until I noticed that wasn´t really the case.
4. Around this time I also noticed that most of the people that had grown up in the religion were pretty messed up when it came to morals. This got me to thinking about morality from within.
Somewhere in that time I changed halls and I just stopped going to the meetings after one co´s visit which I considered to be basically the last straw. haven´t been back.
5.Started to talk with friends and coworkers and was able to see things from a different perspective. I would have to say that their support was pivotal to not looking back.
6. Found JWD and instantly felt like I was at home. Probably for the first time in my JW life....
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Sexual Harassment
by reneeisorym ini've had something happen to me at work and i just need some opinions .... i work at a store where i am the only female employee.
we were short handed these past two weeks because someone quit and the new guy doesn't start until monday so they got a guy from another store to come fill in.
i hardly know this guy except for him talking to me about business related things.
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mentalclearness
Who is debating that it would be any better if the comment was made by a woman to a man R. Crusoe? It makes no difference. And flirtatious banter usually developes very gradually and based on the response you are getting. If a newly married woman is saying things are going great with hubby then I consider that pretty cut and dry rejection. The line was drawn way before he asked his stupid question....