MisfitMeL

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  I can't help but feel bad about it all.

  by MisfitMeL in

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  ok so i travelled home last weekend to break the news to my mum about my engagement to a 'wordly' man.. to be honest, i chickened out and instead of confronting her face to face, i decided to write a long letter to her about it.. we have never really got on and she has a knack for getting on my nerves.

  she was very emotionally abusive throughout my childhood (and can still be).

  i guess she had her reasons although it doesn't excuse the behaviour.. anyway i tried to be as diplomatic as possible.

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  Ho hum the time has come!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  well it's very close.... i knew this would kinda happen at some point in my life.... still you only realise the full extent of the situation when you are facing it.. i never was a 'hard core' jw and all of the 'secret' boyfriends i've had were non-jws.

  present one included.

  except now, we have decided to get married and i have the most unpleasant task ahead of me.. 1) i'm indian, so dating isn't really accepted as the norm and most parents are very conservative.. 2) my mum is a jw and i was raised as one (though i am an atheist now, but she doesn't know this!!

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  Please help, I need a list :)

  by MisfitMeL in

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  i expect a major confrontation with my mum in the near future regarding my non-association with jws.. i plan to discuss my unwillingness to associate based on 'things i have discovered' about the org.

  i would like to prepare in advance for a lengthy argument and for this purpose i would like to compile a list of issues.. however, i want to discuss using only jw publications.

  mum has the wt library (2003) and some books but not the rare or uncommon ones.

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  Need your feedback please! Relationship question.

  by MisfitMeL in

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  ok i'm not sure where to put this thread, but seeing as this section is the one that is most frequented by members, i hope to get some feedback asap.. i am a person that has issues with depression and fairly recently i have started paying a bit of attention to my 'mood swings' and have noticed a sort of high in addition to my lows.

  this has made me a little worried that i might have some mild form of bpd.... but then i do tend to worry over nothing!.

  i do not have therapy because i currently cannot afford it.

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  Random thoughts : Evolution of god

  by MisfitMeL in

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  hmmmm not sure if it could be termed as evolution of god... maybe evolution of our consciousness?

  spiritual maturity?.

  some thoughts that occured to me as i was reading a number of threads around the forum... maybe this idea has made an appearance before..... disclaimer : i am no expert in the history of human belief so i won't be surprised if i am wrong on my facts/chronology.. ok so as humans evolved (this is from my perspective as an atheist so if you don't agree, too bad .

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  Scribblings at the convention

  by MisfitMeL in

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  i'm sure others have done similar topics and there might be many points that are repeated - i apologise!.

  i allowed myself to be dragged by mum to the district convention which was a very bad idea... i have not been to a meeting in four years... so it's like staying clean for four years and then overdosing it for 3 days in a row (5 days if you count the total time spent staying with an elder's family!

  ) - bad reaction!

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  A little advice needed on disassociating myself

  by MisfitMeL in

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  yes i know i tend to post here only when i need advice or have something to rant about .

  so i'm living in the uk but leaving very shortly to go back to my home country of india and try my career luck there (what with the recession and all that).

  i'll be living with my mum for a while and i am soooo not looking forward to it.

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  Need a little help for my birthday

  by MisfitMeL in

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  it's my birthday today (yay) and my mum (a jw) has a habit of sending me a text message/email to say "have a nice day.

  may jah bless you etc.

  " (she's careful to never actually use the word birthday).

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  That time of year again... Mum and Memorial

  by MisfitMeL in

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  here we go again... i never mention anything about the meetings or study articles or associating with other jws in emails to my mum so i think she suspects that i am not attending my local kingdom hall (which is true).

  so the line in her most recent email isn't suprising - i hope you'll be attending the memorial on the 22nd of this month.

  the thought of what i could reply is giving me a dangerous itch!

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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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